Which male initiates a MFM?

[dezaray]

I know in the end its all determined what makes me most comfortable since I'm the only female in this scenario, although I would like to hear other women's experiences in this to help me figure out how to go about this.

We have thrown around a few scenarios however, can you realllly plan all the details and expect it to go that way? Isn't that less fun? Plan as you go, aside from boundaries being set upfront? Were very new to this, so we've not even done a MFM together yet, but I look forward to it! although at the same time I think I'll be nervous when the actual time comes.... I think I may want my man to start the whole thing off.... although I'm not sure about this.

My rules in a MFM are:
-only my man gets anal
-no rough stuff from the other guy

Women, for your 1st MFM did your man start off? Did the other male start off? What did you find worked best in this situation?

thank you all in advance
Dez

[HornyCouple]

I can only relate to you what happened in our limited experiences. I the husband started it and then encouraged the other male to join in. This in my opinion makes it easier for the other male being told to start. Also, she can feel free and not having to make a choice.

[neoparadigm]

The two guys need to talk about it in advance, the husband should know what his wifes fantasy is... if it's only the husbands fantasy then it should never even happen! Less talking the better,
a quick drink just to know the guy is not repulsive.. let the mind fill in the blanks..

Remember it is just a fantasy being played out.. no one needs to take it too serious!

[CuriousInOregon]

OK WOW I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO MAKE OF NEO BUT FROM A PERSONAL STANDPOINT I CANT SAY IM FOND OF THE RESPONSES I HAVE READ TO ANYTHING HE HAS POSTED. Now for you my dear heheehe i am going to say that it really depends on the situation I know that for us The new guy warmed me up and my husband warmed up his wife just fine which in turn turned into a MFM and a MMF and a FMM all the same I know but wow were the positions changing all over the room that night, I sat and watched while they played and then She sat and watched while we played it was great fun so all in all I like to say it depends on the couple or Additional playmate whom is brought into the room that night

[neoparadigm]

I think the post was about MFM not MFMF.. your MFMF may have turned into what looked like MFM but really is not in the true sense.. where a couple is courting a single male..

[NewAndScared]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

I think the post was about MFM not MFMF.. your MFMF may have turned into what looked like MFM but really is not in the true sense.. where a couple is courting a single male..

Neoparadigm. Please remove stick from anus. Taste it and report back.

head bang

[fun4Ds]

have to agree with curious eccept mrs.fun was totaly against a mfm . while we were with our very first couple mrs fun was looking so dam hot i just couldnt stay out of it so i joind in from that point on the couples we played with were well informed that mrs.fun enjoys mfm and things just sort of fall into place. in fact amoungst other things this week on our discussion table we have considerd that a single guy at our home would have a safe convient stand point and she would get what she loves now facelick . however we are on a break now and would only consider sex with a few couples that have really became close friends. so it was always discussed beforehand with playmates.

[neoparadigm]

Not sure where your hostility is coming from... good luck with that..
MFMF is not MFM I know this ..

apples are not coconuts...

just helping the poster ....
with good intentions

[NewAndScared]

Originally Posted by neoparadigm

Not sure where your hostility is coming from... good luck with that..
MFMF is not MFM I know this ..

apples are not coconuts...

just helping the poster ....
with good intentions

Sorry Neo just having a bad day and I thought I would take it out on you since reading your other posts on other subjects seem to be frustrating everyone. :slam" I will no longer join the mob mentality and just attack at will.

But apples and coconuts.....yummy! Make since? No? Niether do you.....

[fun4Ds]

damb and i thaught i was havin a bad day Surrender

[AZ Dreaming]

Originally Posted by NewAndScared

Sorry Neo just having a bad day and I thought I would take it out on you since reading your other posts on other subjects seem to be frustrating everyone. :slam" I will no longer join the mob mentality and just attack at will.

But apples and coconuts.....yummy! Make since? No? Niether do you.....

Well, I must be having a bad day too, New and Scared.....cuz he is irritating the crap out of me as well.

Originally Posted by neoparadigm
Not sure where your hostility is coming from... good luck with that..

Neo, I think our(at least mine) irritation comes from you asking for help and then not seeming like you are taking any of it to heart.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by dezaray

I know in the end its all determined what makes me most comfortable since I'm the only female in this scenario, although I would like to hear other women's experiences in this to help me figure out how to go about this.

Hi Dez, woman here!

Personally, I didn't care for the earlier suggestions that were about the husband leading (warm her up - tell other man when/what to do) or the one about the 2 men talking about her fantasies, planning amongst themselves, and deciding where to take her from there.

I think that the best part of MFM is the woman taking the lead and getting her fantasies fulfilled, making things happen. I'm not about to go all passive and submissive in that scenario. That's a time to be in charge and to get what you want -- know what I mean? At least, that's the hot and sexy aspect of it, to me. Take those two big, strong men and have my way with them. I'll be telling them what I want as we go along, thank-you-very-much. facelick

[AZ Dreaming]

We (hubby and I) started by making out and then we both just kind of motioned the other guy over. Then hubby sat back and watched for a bit. Then joined back in when things got more comfortable with myself and the other guy.

Ours was totally unplanned, so there was no talking between the guys ahead of time. Was lots of talking between hubby and I before it happened though.

[dezaray]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Take those two big, strong men and have my way with them. I'll be telling them what I want as we go along, thank-you-very-much. facelick

OMG I love you! Honey once my feet are wet in this world, I will have absolutly NO problem letting my Dom side out! and ordering both men around to feed EVERY LAST ONE OF MY pleasures!!! From my research, I believe I'm a switcher, and can't determine wich is stronger...

anywhooooo......

I've never done this before.... and I'm alllllll about doing shit right or not doing it at all. I AM keeping an open mind, so that it's not too scripted, but for the 1st time on any full swap MFM, FMF, or MFMF, I NEEEED to know whats up in advance! My 1st experience had some surprises that I viewed as straight up disrespect. Boandaries were laid and not followed by the other male.

anywho... great advice for a little later down the road besides I think I need a wardrobe for that kinda kinky stuff, or at least I'd like one! *verrrry wicked grin*

Dez

[dezaray]

I know I'm new here and all, but I've tried SO hard to eb RESPECTFUL and not hijack someone else's post with my own rant, question, or story, off in another totallly different direction than what the poster intended.

I get what your saying, but is it REALLLY worth it? (for everyone involved)

I'm new as I said, I came here for advice, to give some if I can, and to learn about this lifestyle. Since reading here, I see there is a strong sense of common beliefs about certain things, and then there are the people that just don't conform or fit in to what every one else knows or believes. To each his own. Advice is worth what you pay for it... nothing

thanks for understanding

PEACE,
Dez