Orgasm: How important is it?

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

I would like to know if women always orgasm, nearly always, or even if there are some of you who never orgasm?

I'd like to know how important women feel an orgasm is to their (and their partners) pleasure.

I decided to bring this thread up to see if more people would comment. I'd like to hear from you.

Originally Posted by MrsBliss

I orgasm quite easy. When I am with my husband it is definately not the most important thing. If I really want it to happen than I will just use my hands and I wil orgasm anyway.

How many women use masturbation (either by hand or with a vibrator) to assist them in reaching orgasm while with a play partner? Or is this too time consuming and impractical when swinging?

LM

[Joe_Ang]

Angie is not always able to orgasm easily. Lately however, she has been rather comfortable explaining how her swing partner can get her off. I love pleasuring my partner or at least trying to figure out how to make her feel the best, so I rate her orgasm/s high on my achievement list, but don't expect it. On anti-anxiety medication, reaching the edge is not always that easy (hehe sometimes I like the extra control it gives me) so I don't place as high a priority on swing climax as I do with Angie. She'll help me out later if need be.

[BradAndJanet]

I have to be truthful; it's satisfying to come. How that happens isn't important (I'll use my hand if I have to!), but after all the buildup of sexual tension that accompanies swinging, I really need that release.

But, you used the word 'successful' in your original question. I might not be as satisfied without coming, but I define an encounter as successful if J has had a good time. I can always come later...

-B

[Sexygirltina]

On an importance scale of 1 to 10 I would say that it is a 9. I entered the lifestyle at thr ripe old age of 28 having had only two orgasms. I always tensed up and had a hard time letting go so it made it difficult to get there. Add to that the fact that none of partners really cared if I had an orgasm or not but they never failed to one of their own.
The last two years have taught me that not only am I orgasmic but I can be multi-orgasmic. I don't always get there as no two women are the same and what works with one's spouse may not work with anothers spouse but it is nice to find men who actually care if I get there. I think that most men in the lifestyle want to help their partners du jour have an orgasm I just think that some of them suffer from the same thing that men outside of the lifestyle suffer from which is that they just don't know the terrain. It does seem as though men who have attended the kama sutra workshops have a familiarity with womens anatomy that almost guaratees that they will deliver the Big O or die trying. Ofcourse that could just be my experience.

Tina

[tandb]

As the Mister of TandB, it's VERY important to me that Mrs. TandB experiences orgasm. Luckily, she reaches that point easily and she usually has SEVERAL orgasms - even during first encounters and in other potentially stressful situations.

I often tease her by telling her that I will soon have her trained to "get off" anytime I wink at her. I'm going the "Pavlovian Response" route...

[socolais]

I was wondering this myself and found this old thread. Rather than starting a new one, it may be better to resurect this and add a few thoughts from some of the newer folks while giving the old corp an opportunity to observe any changes over time.

Of course, orgasms are important, otherwise there'd be very little recreational sex. Both my wife and I orgasm almost every time with each other and once is usually plenty. On the few occasions when we havent had a "full release", there were no feelings of dissatisfaction or incompleteness. On rare occasions, we intentionally withhold orgasms from each other in a playful little quickie, knowing that the final chapter will come later (was that a cheap pun?). We haven't had an orgasm during playtime with others,,,, yet - and that's fine, it was clearly a fun time.

[lovinher]

It is my mission in life to make sure it happens everytime. So far so good.