Blowjobs.... Guys do you orgasm from just oral?

[pairbond]

Originally Posted by SexhoundDog

For some reason, my wife has gotten much better at blowjobs in the last year

You don't suppose that "some reason" had anything to do with swinging, do you? Another of the many reasons why we love swinging! Experience with multiple partners, a little "coaching" from each, and learning some new or modified approaches to add to your "repertoire" is great! You can bring that new knowledge home to your own sex life, to the great pleasure of both of you!

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[alyricandced]

now, my husband has no problem reaching orgasm orally but early on in our relationship, it seemed like an impossibility. I think there was a cumulative effect from years of "holding his load at bay" and that he simply needed time to recondition himself to cumming in my mouth.

[SnSnLex]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

My ex COULD NOT orgasm from oral sex. I got him off one time that way it was basically him fucking my mouth. He's the only guy I've ever encountered that I had this problem with.

My current bf saw this topic title and started cracking up at the thought of a guy not getting off to oral sex. Go figure.

Glad I'm not alone. Seriously though, I have never had anyone get me off that way. They will get this (ll) close but thats it. No problems at all any other way. I think I get into watching them work more than how it actually feels,

[ionsawmill]

I agree with tnohcpl. It's mostly mental.

When I was in my mid-20's, I had a problem ejaculating with any kind of intercourse. I could only reach orgasm through masturbation. Mainly, it was nerves. None of my girlfriends complained until I got my first blowjob. The girl was very frustrated because she kept working at it and nothing was happening. I was enjoying it, I just couldn't let go. My wife was the first woman to bring me to orgasm with just oral (on the top floor of a parking garage, in plain view of two busy hotels). Now I've learned to relax and let myself enjoy it.

I have a friend who doesn't let his wife give him head, even though she enjoys it. He can't have an orgasm from oral sex, because he said "it just feels dirty". He doesn't like anal for the same reason. He just doesn't feel comfortable putting his penis where, according to his upbringing, it isn't supposed to go.

[Baddog and Angel]

Funny you should ask ...

First, I'd have to say that I L-O-V-E a good bj. The hungry oral attentions of the Mrs. usually turn me into a wildman.

But that said, No, I rarely ejaculate from oral sex alone. It's like there's a trigger point to my ejaculation that is hard to hit orally. However, I have had multiple "body" orgasms during oral sex.

What is an orgasm without ejaculation? Well, you'll know it when it happens. It's your body going wild, just as with an ejaculation, but without the goo. It's different than ejaculation, but still a WOW experience for me.

So, I don't mind long lusty oral attention being paid to my cock without ejaculation. But t-o-o long sometimes numbs me. Even that, however, can have its advantages because when our foreplay shifts into fucking, a little bj numbness can prolong the intercourse.

Then again, if I want to "shoot the wad" as my honey blows me, I'll "assist" by stroking it as she is gobbling it ... and by the way, she can deep throat like a sword swallower. YOW!

Back in my callow youth, I was adverse to masturbating while receiving a woman's oral administrations. But after watching porn flicks, I got the idea. Ever notice how many male porn actors stroke it off while being sucked? Well, I figured that if it's good enough for them, it's okay for me. NOTE: it's perhaps more difficult in a 3some/4some situation because some women are not into the guy beating off while they are sucking him off. So, it's usually something i only do with Angel.

In summary: I don't usually ejaculate from oral alone, though the body orgasms are great. Long oral sessions may numb my cock, but that can make intercourse last longer. If I want to shoot during oral, I can stroke while Angel sucks (and BOY does see love to suck cock!). And my honey doesn't mind giving a long, mind-blowing ejaculationless bj because it means she gets to ride the bologna pony after all!!!

There's one downside to not ejaculating during a bj -- that is that some women won't relent...won't stop...if the man doesn't cum from oral. They'll seem resentful that he didn't "get off" for them, and take it personally -- sometimes, even criticize the guy. This can really burst my bubble and spoil the mood, because it's judgmental and personal.

My philosophy is that an orgasm (squirting and all) is not a destination, it's a journey. So if a woman doesn't cum from kissing or nipple play or teasing or cunnilingus or screwing or whatever...then I mix and match and try different combinations of the above until I can find a way to satisfy her and give her "release." After all, those "triggers" aren't always physical ones, and sometimes it's the mind that needs to be stimulated to set off the Big O.

Baddog

[Mr. Bliss]

Yes, I can cum from oral sex and mrs. Bliss sure knows how!
(although I think you must be really bad at sucking dick to not make me come)
As for the sensitivity, I can actually be to sensitive sometimes when this happens I don't like being sucked !?!????!!!! (imagine that)

[RW1F]

Interesting, I don't think I've ever in my life recieved a blowjob without some sort of hand masturbation from the lady. Not sure if I'd come just from mouth to penis stimulation but I'd guess that would be a yes. I just took for granted that a hand sliding along with the mouth or squeezing the boys was part of the deal. Guess I've been lucky.

I promise that every one of the guys that have said "no I cannot cum from oral" can certainly cum from masturbating with their own hand while thinking about Jenna Jameson so I'm a little confused I guess. Is a hand stroking the shaft/squeezing the boys while giving head not part of the deal or considered cheating?

[MrsBliss]

I always use my hands too, I don't think it will work any other way???

[Brit_Pair]

Originally Posted by RW1F

Is a hand stroking the shaft/squeezing the boys while giving head not part of the deal or considered cheating?

I've always thought of it as part of the deal. If your cock's in a woman's mouth, then surely she's giving you oral sex/head/a blow job? The hands are just a supplement, IMHO. They don't negate the oral element.

Or do they?

[LOOKIN4AGUY]

My first wife made me feel so uncomfortable about "cumming" in her mouth, that I never could. My "new" second wife took that as a challenge, and now she can make me cum in about 2 minutes!!! I love it, and the fact that she loves doing it!!

[F16AV8R]

It's weird. I am the first, and so far the only, able to make Mr AV8R cum from a blow job. He says he loves them and Iknow the visual drives him wild...But we've been married for 11 years and I have only been able to get him there maybe 10 times in our whole marriage. Sometimes, it relaxes him right to sleep. I have at times woken up the next morning with his pecker in my mouth as if I'd been nursing on it all night. He loves that. More often though, he just goes soft and we can't complete it for him. When we are having regular sex though, he's like the energizer bunny...he keeps going and going...Am I doing something wrong? Why is it sometimes he just goes soft even though he tells me it feels great?

[FunPair in VA]

The only variable is whether Mrs. FP wants me to or not.... sometimes she has other plans for my bod, sometimes she doesn't. And she certainly doesn't need to use her hands to make it happen.

[20ishCouple]

Mr. 20ish can orgasm when recieving a blow job, sometimes he will j/o a lil bit before I start giving him a blow job, it makes it a lot easier to orgasm, and a whole lot more intense.

[MV325]

Mr loves oral and has no problem. Always available for it!!

[Cpl2share]

Mrs. Cpl does not want any in her mouth, so I have never tried to, but on a few occasions it has been very very very close. I would have to say, yep in about 5 minutes if ever given the chance.