Women, how long does it take you to achieve orgasm?

Bambi · 10-11-2002, 12:55 PM

My husband and I are wondering how long does it take a woman to orgasm? He complains it takes me about 20-30 minutes. Is this normal? I tell him that I enjoy the feeling of him eating me out and that is why it takes awhile.

OhioCouple · 10-11-2002, 03:23 PM

quote:
Originally posted by Bambi:
My husband and I are wondering how long does it take a woman to orgasm? He complains it takes me about 20-30 minutes. Is this normal? I tell him that I enjoy the feeling of him eating me out and that is why it takes awhile.

From a female perspective here it varies greatly. With my husband it can be within 5 or so minutes (as he knows all the spots to hit) or can take as long as a half hour or better, especially when we get distracted by the phone, doorbell or the dog whimpering to go outside.

With other sexual partners it varies greatly also and depends on whether it is a goal or a prelude to other activity. For us when there are other people involved it is as much an enjoyment to receive and give as it is to watch our partners in the act. If we are all involved at the same time in oral play, then it can take quite some time due to the focus on all the mingling bodies.

Personally I prefer oral as a prelude to actual intercourse. The build up sets the stage for a mind blowing orgasm.

Lori

Lorrelei · 10-11-2002, 03:37 PM

Lori is right. I've had orgasms in under 1 minute, and other times it has taken as long as 20 minutes, depending on how horny I am. Or sometimes I want to wait longer to have an orgasm--the build-up feels very good too!

Quin · 10-12-2002, 06:05 AM

Same with me. It can take a few minutes or 30 minutes. Depends upon a host of things. Longest it's ever taken....over 80 minutes...with an ex-boyfriend whom I broke up with immediately afterwards. I read a book, answered the phone and talked while he was performing oral, and finally decided might as well just go with it since it seemed he wasn't going to stop until I came. That wasn't the reason I broke up with him, I had it in my mind to do so beforehand and had even begun the process but he was just bound determined to have sex. BTW, that's all he got was to perform oral on me.

Quin
[Smiley_sex]

sportync · 10-15-2002, 12:22 PM

Quin, you are a little devil, aren't you? I would have to agree (although from a male perspective) that a lot of factors are usually at work which can greatly alter the event...and rightly so. It would seem to me that sex would get kinda' boring if it was exactly the same each and every time. Mrs. Sporty can pop one off as soon as I enter her, and then keep having them until we finish, but sometimes she's building up to that earth-shattering one that might register a 6.5 on the richter scale, and often that one can take a while but, man, let me tell ya' it's well worth the effort that went into it(no pun intended). Sportync

L&K · 10-16-2002, 10:46 AM

Time Fram on a orgasm is something that I feel is in the mind set. Where your mind is and if you can relax enough to enjoy what you are feeling. Allowing your mind to feel each and every sensation you can. And allowing the energy from your partner to enjoy you and react to each others moves. When this happens I feel is the most climatic orgasm anyone can enjoy. This is why women and some men can orgasm with out taking any clothing off. As women we have a advantage on the Men when they orgasm weather it be big or small it is once and then they have to work up to it again. While we can orgasm again and again in shorter time spans. The human mind is a strange and wonderfull thing that none of us can totaly understand but letting it do the work for you is the best way to go.

S. [kiss]

babydragon · 10-16-2002, 11:29 AM

Many different things cane either speed your climax up or slow it down. If your mind is on something else or your distracted in any way, you have a long time to go before you reach your climax. On the other hand your horny as hell it could be all over and done with in seconds.

The problem lies in the fact that woman need not only physical stimultation but mental stimultation aswell.

dreamguy4fun · 10-16-2002, 08:50 PM

Here is my experience with momen. Women require foreplay and stage setting before she will have organism. Kisses, oral, soft touches on the right places help stimulate and contribute to the final stage of organism. It can take as little as few minutes to hours to get to that stage. I pay a lot of attention to the moans and groans, and body reactions of women during the foreplay and continue to stimulate until they come. Women can have multiple organisms. I have made a woman come five or six times until she got exhausted. I have met a woman that hated sex because she had some very bad experience. She would get irritated when talking about having sex. I totally changed the way she was thinking after our first encounter. Now she loves sex and can't get enough. Getting a man to have organism is easy, getting a woman to have organism and having multiple organism is an art. You have to master and perfect it. Not every man can do it. Let me know what you think?

DragonsLair · 10-16-2002, 09:52 PM

Yo, dreamguy4fun,

The word is orgasm, not organism. lol

Sorry, a pet peeve of mine. Just had to do it.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A. [fun]

Lorrelei · 10-17-2002, 01:22 AM

[quote]Originally posted by dreamguy4fun:
[QB]Here is my experience with momen. Women require foreplay and stage setting before she will have organism.

I don't. I think the more relaxed and comfortable someone is, the easier it will be for them to have an orgasm.

Also, there's really no "foreplay and stage setting" with quickies; a lot women have probably had orgasms during quickies.

[ October 17, 2002, 01:23 AM: Message edited by: Lorrelei ]

dreamguy4fun · 10-17-2002, 04:51 AM

Hey DragonsLair,
I'm glad you got a laugh. [lol]

I think I need one before I can spell orgasm.

Lorrelei,
When you talk about quickies, it reminds me of a joke.

"A man went into a restaurant for lunch. He saw this new item pictured in the menu and had no idea what it is. It looks like some kind of pie but it is call "Quische" on the menu. He decided to give it a try. When the blonde waitress came and ask for his order. He politely replied to the waitress..."I would like a quicky". "Slap"....

"

hehe. Sorry, got side track from the original topic.

J & K · 10-17-2002, 05:54 AM

How long does it take? I wish we males knew what it felt like to have an orgasm like a woman. I just once wish I could feel what a woman does.

Now back to the question---I have seen my wife have one as little as 3 minutes and as long as 30 minutes. It seems to vary time to time. 10% of the time she can have one with just me inside her and the other times when her clit is being attended to at the same time. Sometimes we skip the foreplay and it takes a little bit longer than most, but foreplay seems to make it happen faster.

I really feel for women that can't have one. I think upbringing and how well a woman feels about herself sexually depends on orgasms with women. If she can touch her clit durning sex in front of the other person--super!!! Men like that I believe. Now the fun part---both having an orgasm at the same time. Awesome!!!!

Bambi · 10-17-2002, 11:17 AM

After reading some of responses I figured out why it may take me a while. Hubby does not like to kiss but I do. Kissing to me is a part of foreplay and gets you in the mood. He likes to get to the point where I get off then him.

FTnPV · 10-18-2002, 10:49 AM

Heck, I don't care how long it takes! It just means that I (or some other lucky guy) get to do the things that I love doing to/for her. I could perform oral sex all night with her. As long as it feels good for her and she does have an orgasm or 2 or 3. The times when she isn't getting off right away, due to stress or whatever, I just spend more time kissing and licking her all over. I try to hit all the areas that she likes (because I like them too). If she orgasms really quickly and isn't in the mood for more, then I don't get to partake in my favorite part of sex........ building her up to that point!

DragonsLair · 10-18-2002, 08:14 PM

According to my husband it's 2.3 seconds.

What can I say? He's got talent.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A. [fun]

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10-11-2002, 12:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bambi Active Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 22 Location: Oak Lawn IL.	Women, how long does it take you to achieve orgasm? My husband and I are wondering how long does it take a woman to orgasm? He complains it takes me about 20-30 minutes. Is this normal? I tell him that I enjoy the feeling of him eating me out and that is why it takes awhile. __________________ Bambi

10-11-2002, 03:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
OhioCouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 6,616 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female	quote: Originally posted by Bambi: My husband and I are wondering how long does it take a woman to orgasm? He complains it takes me about 20-30 minutes. Is this normal? I tell him that I enjoy the feeling of him eating me out and that is why it takes awhile. From a female perspective here it varies greatly. With my husband it can be within 5 or so minutes (as he knows all the spots to hit) or can take as long as a half hour or better, especially when we get distracted by the phone, doorbell or the dog whimpering to go outside. With other sexual partners it varies greatly also and depends on whether it is a goal or a prelude to other activity. For us when there are other people involved it is as much an enjoyment to receive and give as it is to watch our partners in the act. If we are all involved at the same time in oral play, then it can take quite some time due to the focus on all the mingling bodies. Personally I prefer oral as a prelude to actual intercourse. The build up sets the stage for a mind blowing orgasm. Lori __________________ Remember that human beings are complicated creatures. We like our bedtime routines but dislike routine in our bed times. - Sallie Foley, M.S.W.

10-11-2002, 03:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
Lorrelei Active Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 54 Location: MI	Lori is right. I've had orgasms in under 1 minute, and other times it has taken as long as 20 minutes, depending on how horny I am. Or sometimes I want to wait longer to have an orgasm--the build-up feels very good too! __________________ Lorrelei

10-12-2002, 06:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
Quin Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 1,136 Location: Ohio Status: Single Female	Same with me. It can take a few minutes or 30 minutes. Depends upon a host of things. Longest it's ever taken....over 80 minutes...with an ex-boyfriend whom I broke up with immediately afterwards. I read a book, answered the phone and talked while he was performing oral, and finally decided might as well just go with it since it seemed he wasn't going to stop until I came. That wasn't the reason I broke up with him, I had it in my mind to do so beforehand and had even begun the process but he was just bound determined to have sex. BTW, that's all he got was to perform oral on me. Quin __________________ One thing about me is that I'm consistant in my behavior, my thoughts, and my posting. I don't sell out or change for any reason outside of my own self wanting to. What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that.

10-15-2002, 12:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
sportync Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 232 Location: eastern north carolina	Quin, you are a little devil, aren't you? I would have to agree (although from a male perspective) that a lot of factors are usually at work which can greatly alter the event...and rightly so. It would seem to me that sex would get kinda' boring if it was exactly the same each and every time. Mrs. Sporty can pop one off as soon as I enter her, and then keep having them until we finish, but sometimes she's building up to that earth-shattering one that might register a 6.5 on the richter scale, and often that one can take a while but, man, let me tell ya' it's well worth the effort that went into it(no pun intended). Sportync __________________ this ain't no dress rehearsal

10-16-2002, 10:46 AM	#6 (permalink)
L&K Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 197 Location: michigan Status: couple	Time Fram on a orgasm is something that I feel is in the mind set. Where your mind is and if you can relax enough to enjoy what you are feeling. Allowing your mind to feel each and every sensation you can. And allowing the energy from your partner to enjoy you and react to each others moves. When this happens I feel is the most climatic orgasm anyone can enjoy. This is why women and some men can orgasm with out taking any clothing off. As women we have a advantage on the Men when they orgasm weather it be big or small it is once and then they have to work up to it again. While we can orgasm again and again in shorter time spans. The human mind is a strange and wonderfull thing that none of us can totaly understand but letting it do the work for you is the best way to go. S.

10-16-2002, 11:29 AM	#7 (permalink)
babydragon Active Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Posts: 102 Location: U.K Status: couple	Many different things cane either speed your climax up or slow it down. If your mind is on something else or your distracted in any way, you have a long time to go before you reach your climax. On the other hand your horny as hell it could be all over and done with in seconds. The problem lies in the fact that woman need not only physical stimultation but mental stimultation aswell. __________________ Always try things three times: 1st time to try it out. 2nd time to see if it's better. 3rd time just to recap 1st and 2nd.

10-16-2002, 08:50 PM	#8 (permalink)
dreamguy4fun Registered Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 4 Location: WA	Here is my experience with momen. Women require foreplay and stage setting before she will have organism. Kisses, oral, soft touches on the right places help stimulate and contribute to the final stage of organism. It can take as little as few minutes to hours to get to that stage. I pay a lot of attention to the moans and groans, and body reactions of women during the foreplay and continue to stimulate until they come. Women can have multiple organisms. I have made a woman come five or six times until she got exhausted. I have met a woman that hated sex because she had some very bad experience. She would get irritated when talking about having sex. I totally changed the way she was thinking after our first encounter. Now she loves sex and can't get enough. Getting a man to have organism is easy, getting a woman to have organism and having multiple organism is an art. You have to master and perfect it. Not every man can do it. Let me know what you think?

10-16-2002, 09:52 PM	#9 (permalink)
DragonsLair Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 1,020 Location: Cleveland, OH Status: Married Couple	Yo, dreamguy4fun, The word is orgasm, not organism. lol Sorry, a pet peeve of mine. Just had to do it. DragonsLair He is T. I am A.

10-17-2002, 01:22 AM	#10 (permalink)
Lorrelei Active Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 54 Location: MI	[quote]Originally posted by dreamguy4fun: [QB]Here is my experience with momen. Women require foreplay and stage setting before she will have organism. I don't. I think the more relaxed and comfortable someone is, the easier it will be for them to have an orgasm. Also, there's really no "foreplay and stage setting" with quickies; a lot women have probably had orgasms during quickies. [ October 17, 2002, 01:23 AM: Message edited by: Lorrelei ] __________________ Lorrelei

10-17-2002, 04:51 AM	#11 (permalink)
dreamguy4fun Registered Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 4 Location: WA	Hey DragonsLair, I'm glad you got a laugh. I think I need one before I can spell orgasm. Lorrelei, When you talk about quickies, it reminds me of a joke. "A man went into a restaurant for lunch. He saw this new item pictured in the menu and had no idea what it is. It looks like some kind of pie but it is call "Quische" on the menu. He decided to give it a try. When the blonde waitress came and ask for his order. He politely replied to the waitress..."I would like a quicky". "Slap".... " hehe. Sorry, got side track from the original topic.

10-17-2002, 05:54 AM	#12 (permalink)
J & K Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 189 Location: Middle GA Status: Couple SLS Name:OKC_CPL	How long does it take? I wish we males knew what it felt like to have an orgasm like a woman. I just once wish I could feel what a woman does. Now back to the question---I have seen my wife have one as little as 3 minutes and as long as 30 minutes. It seems to vary time to time. 10% of the time she can have one with just me inside her and the other times when her clit is being attended to at the same time. Sometimes we skip the foreplay and it takes a little bit longer than most, but foreplay seems to make it happen faster. I really feel for women that can't have one. I think upbringing and how well a woman feels about herself sexually depends on orgasms with women. If she can touch her clit durning sex in front of the other person--super!!! Men like that I believe. Now the fun part---both having an orgasm at the same time. Awesome!!!!

10-17-2002, 11:17 AM	#13 (permalink)
Bambi Active Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Posts: 22 Location: Oak Lawn IL.	After reading some of responses I figured out why it may take me a while. Hubby does not like to kiss but I do. Kissing to me is a part of foreplay and gets you in the mood. He likes to get to the point where I get off then him. __________________ Bambi

10-18-2002, 10:49 AM	#14 (permalink)
FTnPV Active Member Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 20 Location: Pittsburgh, PA. USA	Heck, I don't care how long it takes! It just means that I (or some other lucky guy) get to do the things that I love doing to/for her. I could perform oral sex all night with her. As long as it feels good for her and she does have an orgasm or 2 or 3. The times when she isn't getting off right away, due to stress or whatever, I just spend more time kissing and licking her all over. I try to hit all the areas that she likes (because I like them too). If she orgasms really quickly and isn't in the mood for more, then I don't get to partake in my favorite part of sex........ building her up to that point! __________________ FTnPV

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