Women, how long does it take you to achieve orgasm?

[Lorrelei]

Sounds like you would have had an orgasm without his help; I think your horniness deserved most of the credit.

[DragonsLair]

It usually takes longer. And I don't mind a bit.

But, when I'm really ready, it happens very fast.

And he is talented. As he proved again this morning.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[nychicknfl]

Like alot of things there is no set formula,It is fun reading these responses... I am just like the rest of the women out there.. The mood has to be right, the right man, the right time, sometimes quick, sometimes I like to make it linger, its all enjoyable and hopefully you have a partner with patience. Its about pleasing each other no mattter how long it takes... had to give my input. I love to write and give my 3 cents at all times... gb

[Blacklightphantasy]

I take forever, and not only that-I have to do it myself BUT I take longer than most women, and it is hard for me to orgasm when men stimulate me, they always seem to stop juuuust before I get there. It all fades away, and we have to start again. This gets really irritating really quick due to the disappointment. In twenty-five years of having sex, I've been with one guy who actually knew what he was about enough to do it every time, but it still took forever-the poor thing. I have better orgasms after sex. But better sex after orgasm. Husband didn't have alot of sexual experience before we met, but he's been able to bring me over the edge a few different times. Women can stimulate me to orgasm EVERY TIME, not only that, the time it takes is shorter. Go figure. Orgasm is a finiky animal. What'll kill it every time is a whiney, selfish partner, crying "arent you done yet???" I'd rather be alone. But my orgasms are better when I do it myself, so I just do. We incorporate it into our sex without batting an eye, maybe you should too.

[ October 20, 2002, 11:57 AM: Message edited by: Blacklightphantasy ]

[Lorrelei]

My orgasms are very different from doing it myself and having someone give me one.

Among other things, the energy is so different. I can feel much more energy being released when a man or woman is eating my pussy. The energy is SO INTENSE. Plus, love it when I stare into the lover's eyes during my orgasm; makes it more intense.

[Rhythm_Blues]

I have to laugh because my husband says I prolong oral sex. I don't want it to be over in seconds because then my clit will be too sensitive for him to keep going. As for the almost getting there and then they stop or move positions, I would suggest telling them that they are doing a great job and don't stop and don't change a thing. If you don't communicate to your partner be it a man or a woman they can't read your mind.. (they could read your body language if they really wanted to and took the time but thats another story). A selfish partner just wants you to get it over so they can get to what they want to do... a good lover doesn't care how long it takes they just want to please you.. luckily I married a good one!

[Blacklightphantasy]

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I would suggest telling them that they are doing a great job and don't stop and don't change a thing. If you don't communicate to your partner be it a man or a woman they can't read your mind..

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This never works. I always get, "Ok" and just a fraction of an inch makes all the difference, and it just gets lost. Retraction under the clitoral hood and everything. But, when it DOES happen--WOOHOO!!! You can hear me yellin' outside. And I agree, when your partner does manage to get you off without you doing it all yourself the energy and release is truly different, and better-but I know how to keep it going longer before becoming overstimulated.

I have a related, but somewhat different situation. I am a 37 yr. old healthy male. In the last 3 or 4 yrs., I have had a serious problem having an orgasm. When I masturbate, it only takes about 3-5 minutes, but when having intercourse with wifey, I can go an hour or more. I never lose the erection, I just can't make it over the " top". This may not sound like much of a problem, but the wife is getting sore as hell, as she wants me to experience an orgasm, and will usually hang in there until I do. I think the problem is purely physical; it seems in my older years ( LOL) my dick just isn't as sensitive as it used to be, and I feel numb after 10 minutes or so, then it's allmost impossible. Any other males having this kind of problem? Just wondering if there is a solution.

[OhioCouple]

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Originally posted by <Dougiemanonamoon>:
I have a related, but somewhat different situation. I am a 37 yr. old healthy male. In the last 3 or 4 yrs., I have had a serious problem having an orgasm. When I masturbate, it only takes about 3-5 minutes, but when having intercourse with wifey, I can go an hour or more. I never lose the erection, I just can't make it over the " top". This may not sound like much of a problem, but the wife is getting sore as hell, as she wants me to experience an orgasm, and will usually hang in there until I do. I think the problem is purely physical; it seems in my older years ( LOL) my dick just isn't as sensitive as it used to be, and I feel numb after 10 minutes or so, then it's allmost impossible. Any other males having this kind of problem? Just wondering if there is a solution.

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My husband experiences the same difficulty at times with me in which I really get sore and the sensitivity lasts for days. Since this is something I would like to know more about from the male perspective, I am going to copy and pose your question on a new thread here in the "Help Forum".

Lori

The longer it takes , the better....I love going down on my wife and she milks it for all it's worth........the longer it takes, the harder she comes.....sometimes she just wants it fast, but that is a rare occurance....I usually don't even touch her pussy for at least 10 to 15 minutes.....this drives her wild and then she savors it even more when I go down on her.....she's a glutton....but I l love it.....

Personally I don't know why a man or woman would want their partner to cum so fast....teasing and tkaing it slow makes for amazing orgasms.....my wife does not have vaginal orgasms so clitoral stimulation is her bissegst pleasure...

CBoy

[youngish56]

Minor comment about women requiring both mental and physical stimulation. Did I miss a class ?

Just because we may have different fantasies, its still mental stimulation. Some of you women are spoiled to the point that you think that taking off your panties constitutes "foreplay" to all men.

Yes, we're a bunch of horny dogs looking for any bitch in heat. And yes, we require less stimulation(generally) than women(generally).

Please remember the biological purpose of sex for men. You women don't have erections. After the little head tells the big head to proceed, the big head appreciates erotic settings and presentations much the way some of you women suggest is unique to women. Au contraire, s'il vous plait.

Tell the truth girls. Didn't that French turn you on ? Yo, foreplay!!!