How Long Does It Take For Men?

[youngish56]

Wait till you get to be 56 years old and you're constantly haunted by the fear of losing the ability for some geriatric reason. As if we didn't have enough to worry about with providing you girls with both physical and mental stimulation. Har-dee-har. see current thread on organisms and orgasms.

I can still do it three times a night. I just have to add water to the powder that comes out.

[darling]

loved the add water comment. lol And don't forget they have Viagra now!!!

[youngish56]

Thanks Darling. So far no need for Viagra, although my wife has shown some interest in just what would happen. As yet, I have no problem with performing, it's the "production" that is obviously waning. I guess unlike Hollywood, good actors are not also good producers.Har-dee-har.

[Regularguy]

If I really concentrate, I can come in 10 minutes after alot of foreplay, but if I was inclined, I could go for over an hour although I have still not met a women who can have rythmic even gentle thrusting for that long without getting worn out.

For those with hardness problems, why sweat anything-take Viagra. Us guys who don't remotely need it take it recreationally anyway to make things even better, and it cuts down refractory periods by about half.

[Blacklightphantasy]

But I agree with the best advice so far, just go with it and cum, then finish her off with either a toy, or orally. Personally-I rarely ever cum even with oral, I gotta do it myself, but that's ok. It's just how it is. Honey works wonders with the dildo I bought though, and him sliding tex in and out while I do what I need to do, makes me the one putting it off sometimes. LOL

I really had issues with the fact that my Honey sometimes was too quick for my tastes, but we compromised, and we are now some very happy campers.

I also loved the add water to the powder comment. LMAO!!!

[Mariposa_y_Oso]

Better late than never? lol Well, here's my take, even though some of my point were already touched upon...

On occasion, I have this problem, too. Usually, it's when I'm mentally horny but physically wiped out and tired. Other times, it's as someone else mentioned, I get it into my mind that I have to cum and I don't. I especially used to have a really hard time reaching orgasm while having oral performed on me. I'd get really close, then I'd start worrying about if I was taking too long and whether or not my wife was getting tired or whatever and then forget about it...it would never happen. I'd wind up having to finish myself and I'd feel bad and she'd feel bad, thinking that she hadn't done that good a job. Not much fun, all the way around.

Here are a few suggestions that have really helped me, they may work for you, too...

Most importantly is communication. I had always sort of assumed that giving me a BJ was sort of a no-joy prospect for my wife. Talking about it, however, and being complely honest...well, I came to find out she really enjoys it. Sure, there are some times when she really doesn't feel up to doing it for an hour, but most of the time she doesn't mind taking her time and making me feel good. Knowing this has allowed me to relax and stop worrying, which in turn has allowed me to just let it happen and it's pretty rare when it takes even a fraction that long anymore.

Another thing I discovered was that she really gets turned on watching me masturbate. So on the occasions when, for whatever reason, I just can't seem to relax and cum, it's "okay" for me to finish myself off. She enjoys watching me do it, I get the release, and all is well with the world.

My wife and I have been together for almost 14 years. She knows me better than I know myself sometimes. Since we've learned to open up to each other and share our fantasies, she's proven to have an uncanny knack for saying the right thing at the right time to get me "over the hump". Talking dirty definately helps!

Lastly, I've finally come to a point in my life where I've realized that it's OK not to have an orgasm. For years, there were plenty of times when I'd cum and she wouldn't and she'd reassure me by saying that while cumming is nice, there is a lot of enjoyment to be had just from being together. I never really understood/believed that until recently. Now, if I'm really tired or I can't seem to relax, or the planets aren't aligned, or whatever the reason...I don't worry about not being able to cum and when she does, we just sort of curl up together and take a nap and try again later. Ironically, now that I've grasped the concept that it's okay if I don't cum, it almost never happens. lol Sort of a nice side effect, wouldn't you say?

Not sure if any of this helped in the least. Just thought I'd throw in my $.02 worth.

Cheers!
~Mike

[joseph3d]

This topic has been going on a long time, but I am aware of some research that I have tried for myself, and I have observed that it helps me "cum" faster.

It's to take a small amount of melatonin each evening at bedtime. 1.2 mg or ?

Probably the smallest dose available would be adequate. This hormone resets the body clock and promotes sleep. As you get older, you do produce less of it.

[wifeandhubby15]

hello, im a 33 year old male thats new here. first off, i wanna say i would love to have the late shooter problem.
it takes me about 10-15 strokes and im done . the record for me is 45-60 seconds. i first satisfy my wife, then its my turn. there are times where i dont even wanna have intercourse after i satisfy her because of my problem. i tried the squeeze methods,keegles.-no luck. i could and do masterbate every day and about 5 times before we have sex. i thought that would "unstimulate me" but it just shoots out another load!. i watch tv while shes on top, (longest lasting position) i think about such odd things during intercourse like repairing something, a day at work, or projects around the house. it just does not work for me. i was wondering if there is surgery? i dont wanna rely on delay gels either, i just wanna be normal.

[curious24]

Originally Posted by wifeandhubby15

hello, im a 33 year old male thats new here. first off, i wanna say i would love to have the late shooter problem.
it takes me about 10-15 strokes and im done . the record for me is 45-60 seconds. i first satisfy my wife, then its my turn. there are times where i dont even wanna have intercourse after i satisfy her because of my problem. i tried the squeeze methods,keegles.-no luck. i could and do masterbate every day and about 5 times before we have sex. i thought that would "unstimulate me" but it just shoots out another load!. i watch tv while shes on top, (longest lasting position) i think about such odd things during intercourse like repairing something, a day at work, or projects around the house. it just does not work for me. i was wondering if there is surgery? i dont wanna rely on delay gels either, i just wanna be normal.

Have you tried condoms? Creme that makes you less sensative? I know that the combo of a few drinks and condoms and I can go for hours.. especailly if there is little or no foreplay.

[kittycat11]

This "problem" that our OP talks about hits real close to home here. My SO takes a daily medication that has this side effect. We have marathon sessions alot of times. He can go forever it seems sometimes and be soooo close but it can take a very, very long time to get there. Personally, except for his frustration sometimes, I love it. We've figured out that keeping that bottle of lube nearby is a helpful for me because he simply outlasts me but the good old KY does the trick for both of us and Im never sore. We also take breaks, have a smoke, go back to foreplay or just let him cool down and regroup. We've gotten pretty inventive too along the way! When he does come...watch out, its a biggie and I love it. I love the whole experience so the length of time it takes is just not an issue- its fun. But I would suggest the bottle of KY warming liquid, turn the clock around and forget time, take a break now and then and just relax.

[oreophxation]

i have found that if one has a problem shooting too quickly then masturbate an hour or so before intercourse it helps you to last longer. Its why he did it in the movie Something about Mary........when you are getting intimate start with foreplay and pleasure you better half first make sure she cums then have intercourse.............then it really does not matter if you shoot too quickly.....


Mr. Oreo

[wifeandhubby15]

ive tried the masturbating thing an hour before but i still last a short time. i heard depression medicine works?

[pinquita]

Foreplay and spice. Get erotic w your partner before even getting your clothes off. It is not only about your penis, and her body, but about the minds. Read erotica books, not really porn, becasue porn has you focus on bodies and other images......some people have trouble transfering porn stimulation to their partners......it could take you away from your partner ( not my case, but I had seen cases like that).....so read erotica.....
What I do....I like to write about erotic situations...and visualize it....sometimes I surprise my partner w a "letter".......
You will be surprised how women react to a letter about a sexy sexual story in which she and you are the main characters.
Take her to a new place....and get sexual....change the vibes in your mind...rearrange the old program.........