is this normal for men to lose their sex drive???

[azwildcat]

well, the question i have is it normal for men to lose their sex drive ? i always thought of it to be the women to lose it first but does it happen to men as well?

not saying i have a problem , i just thought we needed something differnet to talk about

[DragonsLair]

I'm sure there are many reasons that can cause anyone to lose their sex drive. Stress is a huge factor. Illness, aging, lack of time and boredom could all be causes.

I think it's more commonly talked about with women, as men have the reputation of always being ready, willing and able to have sex anytime, anywhere.

But I've seen where outside pressures can cause a drop in sex drive. It's frustrating for the other partner. But if it's temporary there's not too much to worry about. If it lasts too long then a trip to the doctor may be in order.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[jdf7379]

I don't feel like I've lost my sex drive...I'm just not as desperate as I was when I was 18 to get laid...at 18 I didn't know what I was doing...I just wanted to do it!....Now I understand better the pleasures of sex and patience.

Does this mean I getting wiser...oH NO!

[DragonsLair]

Originally posted by jdf7379
I don't feel like I've lost my sex drive...I'm just not as desperate as I was when I was 18 to get laid...at 18 I didn't know what I was doing...I just wanted to do it!....Now I understand better the pleasures of sex and patience.

Does this mean I getting wiser...oH NO!

Be afraid, be very afraid. It sounds like you're getting close to being a grown up.



DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[M&B]

It certainly can and does happen to men. I suppose to women, too. All of the reasons cited by DragonSlair are most of them.

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[couple5251]

Yes It does happen to men. And more often than anyone cares to talk about.All of the thing listed above in other post have a lot to do with it,But in my case I think it was a lack of sex I am not a chetting mate so when my wife did not feel like it I was out of luck.It seem for a long time I was getting a lot of ( not right now or maybe latter ) I think getting into swinging or at least going to swingers clubs has helped both of us.

[Misty&Todd]

Oh yea it can happen to men although you rarely hear about it, we used to have sex 3-4 times a week at the least, now it is less mabye 3 times a month i will admit that when we do have sex it is very good.. is it normal for a woman to have such a high sex drive? :evil:

[Flori_DAMAN]

All the women I have been with have a huge sex drive.

Now that I am single I have practically none. There are a few people on this board that really help me out in that dept. but when your testosterone level goes down it goes down.

I can go for weeks without even masturbating now.

Its something that I felt important to check out. When you are with someone that is highly sexual it can actually cause you to lose your drive. Odd as it sounds, it is possible. The reason is because lifes events don't necessarily correspond with your partners personal securities.

Just a thought.

John

[lovers]

I guess it depends on the guy. I've always had an extremely high sex drive and it's been a plus (when I'm with a partner that has a high sex drive) and a minus (when I'm with a partner that doesn't).

Just go with it and make the best you can of the situation.

[bbcpl4cpl]

My hubby always had a huge sexual appetite, then he got put on some meds and it dropped so low that it was strange!!!

He could have had the redskinettes and the dallas cowgirls in front of him naked and nothing! Fortunately, they changed his meds and boom...the man I know was back!! YAY!

He once told me that Italian men never lose their sex drive. I'll keep ya informed.....


Tigress xx

[Vjklander]

various things can affect it, fatique,, cold, fatique, meds, fatique, bp, etc etc, fatique. Damn, sometimes I just can't get it up more than 2-3 times a day.
J

ps, did I mention fatique?

[ashki2374]

as stated before there are many things that can decrease sex drive. One that has not been mentioned is antidepressents. I know that one of the side effects of zoloft is a lowered sex drive.

someone also asked if it is normal for women to have such a high sex drive. It should also be noted that women and men reach their sexual peaks at different time. while this is not exact research men are often at the peak of their drive in their early twenties. women during late twenties into the thirties.

now this does not mean that someone can't have a high sex drive at 60 or 70 or 12, each individual is of course unique.

just remember that sex and driving is inadvisable

[thump29]

Both men and women can lose their sex drive. When my husband and me first married he had more of a sex drive than me now that we have been married ten years and have 2 children, his has dropped a little and I actually have more of a drive than him. Like the others said medical conditions, and prescriptions and stress all have a factor on your sex drive.

[Flori_DAMAN]

Originally posted by ashki2374
as stated before there are many things that can decrease sex drive. One that has not been mentioned is antidepressents. I know that one of the side effects of zoloft is a lowered sex drive.

someone also asked if it is normal for women to have such a high sex drive. It should also be noted that women and men reach their sexual peaks at different time. while this is not exact research men are often at the peak of their drive in their early twenties. women during late twenties into the thirties.

now this does not mean that someone can't have a high sex drive at 60 or 70 or 12, each individual is of course unique.

just remember that sex and driving is inadvisable

First of all, if I were depressed and the anti-depressant made lose my sexual appetite, id be depressed again.

Women and men do reach their sexual peak at different times if you look at statistics. Mens testsosorone level peaks late teens. Females actuallly peak sexually in the 40 year age bracket. That and a nickel will buy you a ride on a very old ferris wheel.

I would never want to be like I was when I was 19. I could sure peak but it took bout ten minutes. Maybe I could do it twice or three times, but the maturity level of sexuality was just not there, so it didn't really matter. Now, concerning females. Yeah, they may have the higest desire around 40, but you see females are like irons. It takes them a long time to warm up and a long time to cool down. I have noticed that a female in her late twenties has bunch of sexual desire, even though it may increase for a while, and many gals in there late 50's are still hot to the touch.

THe very concept of sex and driving is what the neighbors buy such expensive cars for.

John

[windsor4fun]

[quote]Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN
[b]First of all, if I were depressed and the anti-depressant made lose my sexual appetite, id be depressed again.

That's exactly why I don't take my meds anymore!