Do you have any special way to make love as a couple?

[BigNikki]

Big Nikki here.

Do you have any special way to make love as a couple? A way of having sex that is reserved for just you and your partner?

We do.

Because we were both raised in households with lots of rituals, we have a ritual way of making love, that we would never do with anyone else.

Sex is usually quite free-form, but this is very formal.

We stand straight in front of each other, and formally undress each other. I remain wearing a sleeved top.

I get on my hands & knees and John does me anally, until I come. I remain silent and motionless and bite my sleeve, Kabuki-style, when I come.

Then John lies on his back, I take off my sleeved garment, and mount him. I rise and fall, rather slowly, until I come. I am noisy.

Then John lays me on my back and mounts me missionary style. We go wild. We make every effort to come together, at the same moment.

Then we lie side by side and catch our breath.

It's all very ritualistic and it grounds us in each other and grounds us in our heritage.

That's us.

What do you do that's special only for your partner?

-- Big Nikki

[Coupleerotic22]

BigNikki, you are certainly an enigma.

As for special ways, no, nothing more than the fact we are making love more than just having sex. I can't explain how or why it is different. It just feels different. Perhaps that is just the wonder of being in love.

But, when we first started swinging we had a long list of rules. Certain things we would not do with others and keep to ourselves.

It didn't take long for us to drop almost all of our rules as we realized for various reason we really didn't need them. About the only rule about how we have sex that has survived is that we do not have sex with others in our bed. But we have kids at home and never bring playmates home. If it were not for that I am not sure we wouldn't drop that rule as well, but for the next few years it is not really a factor.

[BigNikki]

Big Nikki here.

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

BigNikki, you are certainly an enigma.

I should clarify that this is a ritual that we don't do often (every coupla weeks?) but it is an important bonding ritual for us. It's as important for us as a certain famous end-of-life ritual.

We live by the customs of our ancestors, while despising them.

But enough about weird us. What are your special ways of making love, not to be shared with anyone else.

-- Big Nikki

[funcoupledayton]

Is this your culture's traditional way of having sex? That kind of seems like a good way to get a vaginal or bladder infection unless you're using condoms for anal first.

We have positions we like best but no formal rituals. We like to change it up depending on our moods, the amt of time we have, etc. Although, we have no idea how our ancestors had sex.

[Dont.Stop]

We reserve anal play (intercourse, anillingus) for each other.

I don't know of the sexual rituals of my ancestors, though I did once walk in on my parents in the act.

Thankfully it wasn't oral.

[-jb-]

Originally Posted by Coupleerotic22

BigNikki, you are certainly an enigma.

As for special ways, no, nothing more than the fact we are making love more than just having sex. I can't explain how or why it is different. It just feels different. Perhaps that is just the wonder of being in love.

But, when we first started swinging we had a long list of rules. Certain things we would not do with others and keep to ourselves.

It didn't take long for us to drop almost all of our rules as we realized for various reason we really didn't need them. About the only rule about how we have sex that has survived is that we do not have sex with others in our bed. But we have kids at home and never bring playmates home. If it were not for that I am not sure we wouldn't drop that rule as well, but for the next few years it is not really a factor.

Originally Posted by Dont.Stop

We reserve anal play (intercourse, anillingus) for each other.

Wow, that is us exactly. When I was first reading the OP, I wanted to say that we first had a rule that said something like “no making love”, then we tried really hard to define what that was.

Missionary? Moving slow? Kissing?

We found out that all that can happen in a swap scenario and we both love seeing each other doing it.

So what makes it different?

It feels different. that’s all. She can be in a deep kiss with a man on top of her, pushing deep and slow into her, and to all involved it is hot sex.

Us doing a visually identical thing--we are making love.

We reserve anal for each other.

Crazy how we come to conclusions that are identical, independent of each other.

-b- (husband)

[MN Tom]

We do one position that we dont do with others, but it's not due to it being special per se, more that it just hasnt worked with others yet. It's been tried, just didnt line up well.

We have run into some things that people have jumped on as sort of a "sanctity" thing, only to find out after discussion they were just disappointed that they didnt do it first.

One was the kitchen counter. My wife and her playmate did it on his kitchen countertop one day (this was probably their 6th meeting at least, so they were quite familiar by now), and when he told his wife later that night about it, she wasnt happy. She initially was mad that she wasnt the "first" , but then relented after he recalled her telling him no numerous times in the past when he asked.

I guess the only "special" way we have as a couple is having sex with kids banging around in the house. We wont be doing that with other people..

[Speed and Syn]

When we first started wehad planned to keep anal sex for our selves but that went out the window as Syn became the centerpiece of an anal gangbang at our very first party.

Now she is always up for anal with the male half of a couple we play with. He is a good and attentive lover and she always cums several times while he is in her ass. This happens with no one else.

She does not do anal every time we play but will be receptive to it if a big enough cock is there.

[shy_couple]

In the butt!

[sweet_tna]

Hmm, we're more along the lines of what Coupleerotic22 said. We make love with each other, but there's not much we've done together sexually that we haven't done with play partners. For us, it's the emotion, not the motions.

That said, ya'll have an intriguing ritual.

=)

[NWAtlSwing]

Originally Posted by Dont.Stop

We reserve anal play (intercourse, anillingus) for each other.

I don't know of the sexual rituals of my ancestors, though I did once walk in on my parents in the act.

Thankfully it wasn't oral.

That is were we pretty much are

[Whoahblackbetty]

Big Nikki, please tell me how to cum from anal! I love it but didn't think women could cum that way!

To answer the qx, I My Love and I open our hearts to each other. We don't do that with others. My brain is in a different place with him. It's much more spiritual. We do that for a few hours...then we might role-play or get rough and mind fuck.

[russiansin]

No not really-unless there was something i missed??!