average duration of playtime?

[eros par]

We've recently had our first full swap with a couple! The play session with the same couple lasted around 2 1/2 to 3 hours. We had alot of fun but we're curious how long do couples expect to play.....an hour, 3 hours, all night?

We realize that every situation is different but we have no other frame of reference.

What are your expectations for the ideal duration of a play sessions?
(i.e. Not club encounters. The kind of play sessions that come after meeting for drinks/dinner, feeling chemistry then going to a hotel).

[SW_PA_Couple]

Six years of experience of "play" have taught me that the fewer the expectations we carry in with us, the greater the number or rewards we carry out with us. This would apply to how much time an intimate encounter might occupy.

I will now speak for myself, as a man. I am completely fascinated by the reactions a woman returns when I do this and that to her. That entertains my mind for no more than an hour before I must have my own satisfaction. That part might take only three minutes or could be as long as twenty. OK, the next part is really all about being a man. I've reached my goal, I've hit the target, I've captured my prey -- now my mind goes to things like, "I'm thirsty" or "I wonder what the other women downstairs are doing" or "I think I know were I left that Frank Zappa CD". So I stare into the woman's eyes long enough to not seem too much in a hurry to leave her company. And you know what, the woman seldom seems unhappy to receive my suggestion of, "Let's join our friends downstairs". Exception, the first time I become intimate with a sex partner, more time seems to be spent -- exploration of things new, getting to know each other and such.

Short form -- about an hour on average. The experience your have described is not out of the ordinary.

[Coupleerotic22]

Ditto what SW_PA_Couple said about expectations. It is real easy to meet expectations when you have none.

As for time? It can vary wildly. We don't get to play as often as we would like, so when we do we like to play for long periods of time. We have had partners that literally want to go all night and that is (almost always) great for us. We have others that feel like an hour is too long to be playing and are clear up front to set a time limit.

Other times are limited by when the sitter needs to get home or when kids need to be picked up.

I have been lucky and have not had a partner that could not go as long as I wanted (other than setting a time limit as stated above), but the wife has not been so lucky.

We have had some MFM that ended sooner than we would have liked as well.

We are pretty good about pacing. We are in no hurry so we are both adept at changing things up to extend play time and keep it interesting for both us and our partners. If we have to pick up the kids by a certain time we set alarms because 4-5 hours can go by very quickly.

Sometimes it depends on the circumstance too. If one more of us has had a long day or hard days work then we just might not be able to go for long. We went to a social one time after I had spent the day helping a friend move. We ended up just socializing and not playing because I was already exhausted and dehydrated. Had we played I would have been lucky to go for an hour.

In the end there are just too many variables to say what is "normal" or average. Though it is best that you talk with your partner and the other couple/single about what they are comfortable with before you start.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by eros par

We've recently had our first full swap with a couple! The play session with the same couple lasted around 2 1/2 to 3 hours. We had alot of fun but we're curious how long do couples expect to play.....an hour, 3 hours, all night?

We realize that every situation is different but we have no other frame of reference.

What are your expectations for the ideal duration of a play sessions?
(i.e. Not club encounters. The kind of play sessions that come after meeting for drinks/dinner, feeling chemistry then going to a hotel).

Yep. What they said.

We don't have expectations. I do expect us to have fun, but that's about it. If it's only an hour, it's an hour; if it's more, that's icing.

I have been fortunate enough in swinging, I haven't met any men that tried out their duration with me. I don't think I could handle that! When ever we've played and for how long... it's all been just right.

[TheSwingerSet]

We are with the rest of the posters so far and don't have any expectations for how long a play session should last, for us we like to take things slow the first few times with others, even to the point of taking breaks for water and snacks.

We have had encounters last for 15 minutes and others that have gone on all night and through breakfast. It all depends on what the others have already stated, kids and sitters, work the next day and maybe being tired from a long day.

We would never even consider a quickie with a first time couple. We both like to find out what makes them tick too much to not take the time to find out.

The short fast encounters are with people we know well and might be when we are sharing a room when at an out of town event, just something to take the edge off before going out for the night.

K

[Tina and Bob]

If we do separate hotel rooms we always put a time limit like meet you at the bar at a certain time, but two hour window is about right considering I need time to get ready again, clean up etc.

[sweet_tna]

If I'm paying enough attention to the clock to know how long playtime takes, it's probably not a good thing . . .

Seriously, I'm the queen of foreplay, and will draw it out as long as my partner or I can take it. So for me, a play session can easily last an hour or more. I also prefer if we can have more than one round of play, but that just depends on the circumstances.

My hubby likes to take his time, too (how do ya' think I got that way, ), but has encountered partners that like it quick and dirty. In those cases, they might be done in 15 minutes. It really all depends on the circumstances and the people involved.

=)

[wisconsin]

Last month I played with my BF it was little bit longer then usual about 6 hours. It was including breaks,changing positions,oral,pussy,anal.He texted me next morning for some more. Hubby just rolled his eyes.

Our regular sessions are about 4-5 hours.
I had to go back to gym again because I just can't keep up with him, I don't have stamina of 20 y.o anymore.He said he started working out some more too.
This is more abnormal then normal, I know but it works for me. I am never bored and honestly don't usually feel tired because I am loaded with adrenalin and other feel good hormones.

[SaSsyNsWeEt]

Normally our play sessions last about 3 hours, but we never have a set time limit in mind.

[willyoats]

If it lasts less than an hour, I consider it a disappointing "quickie".

Most of the two-couple encounters are about 2 hours long.

We never thought about setting a time limit. As said above by a very wise man, the fewer expectiations you have, the better.

[Tia Vampire]

We have stayed the night with a few couples. First round of play lasted for up to 2 hrs then we would wash up and go out for some drinks and dancing, then go back to the hotel or their place for some all night action. Fun stuff, fun stuff