Alcohol and the female orgasm

[Mr. Truelove]

There has been a lot of discussion about men's ability to perform or lack of. Many reasons for not being able to could be level of intoxication, stress or nervousness, lack of sensitivity, etc. I've noticed personally though that even though sometimes I can perform, or get hard, my ability to orgasm will often be affected by my drinking. So I usually choose the way I am going to play for the night. I'm either going to drink, or I am going to play. Can't do both.

Now my question is, are there similar things that keep a women from having an orgasm? I have met women that are multi-orgasmic and often times their orgasms seem to happen no matter what they do. However there are many women that have a hard time coming under normal circumstances, and I've noticed some of them can't come at all in a play setting. Do many of you notice a decline in orgasms when you drink. Is there anything you avoid so you'll be able to.

[sexyrose582]

For me there is definitely a correlation between my alcohol intake and my ability to orgasm. More than one or two glasses of wind and I just can't cum. On play dates I like one glass of wine to relax me and nothing more. I'm there to have play, not to drink.

[The Fuse]

If there are too many distractions in the room, it inhibits me from focusing on my partner and my own pleasure. Sometimes it's fine and I can still orgasm, sometimes not.

I almost never get more than somewhat buzzed, but up until that point I would say alcohol helps me relax and really let go.

Like a lot of women, I sometimes let too many things bother me: has it been too long since I "freshened up", does my tummy hurt, am I tired, hungry, etc. Those things can interfere with orgasm as surely as alcohol. I've learned to ignore those things once play starts, but a lot of women are probably affected by things like that.

If there is any tension in the room over anyone's insecurities or something bothering them, I can only enjoy sex up to a point. For me it's easy to tell if something is a little off, and I'm always watching to see if we need to call a halt. Only when I can see that all is well with Mr. Fuse and his partner, and my partner and I are both really up for play, can I enjoy sex as much as I would like, regardless of orgasms. It's for that reason I prefer to play in separate rooms when we reach that point with a couple.

[sweet_tna]

I don't think alcohol intake really affects my ability to orgasm, though I generally prefer to limit my intake if there's any chance of playtime. This has more to do with making sure I'm fully in control of myself.

Like The Fuse, outside factors are more likely to have a negative influence than alcohol. I too prefer separate play (in general), and find that I'm more relaxed when that happens.

=)

[celtic239]

This situation is a Catch-22 for my wife. She says that if she has a few drinks it lowers her inhibitions BUT one too many interferes with her being able to orgasm. I guess it's all about the timing.

[Learning]

I enjoy sex when I have some alcohol but only about 1, if I have more than 1 no climax. When we were swinging, I rarely drank. I just liked to remember the night in full detail. When I did drink it was purely out of the slummy atmosphere we were in.

[shrevecouple]

I would say yes that alcohol has an effect on me and my ability to orgasm. I not always an easy one to climax but if I drink too much it's like everything down there goes numb. So yes...I usually have to choose alcohol or sex. Basically once i get that buzz I have to stop if i want mine that night.

[PnJDay]

If I drink then everything distracts me and I can't keep focased on what I am doing. No orgasm with alcohol on board, I'm just too nosy I guess LOL.

[TnMtns]

I never had an orgasm from vaginal intercourse (I had always required some oral help or clit stim to push me over) until I was 23 to 24 and well into my first marriage.
There is a happy medium with alcohol that helped me learn that relaxation is key, or help me reach the perfect point of mental relaxation (not worrying about things like: "am i attractive, do I stink, does this feel good to him, do my boobs look ok, should I play with his balls, I hope I can cum without having to fake one").
Just like the song...."Relax if you want to cum" ;-)

[essexcouple]

Just a glass of wine can make it harder for me to have an orgasm. The times when I've had a few glasses I really struggle to have orgasm. As I get older takes me longer anyway, you always seem to get less sensitive!

[BravoEcho]

I have actually heard from a few close female friends that alcohol makes it easier for them to orgasm (relaxes them). I guess it depends on how intoxicated you are. My wife doesn't drink at all but sometimes she has an orgasm easily, sometimes not so much.

[rick181au]

My wife must be having a fantast time then as she never touches Alcohol at all, all the playing we have done (and we sure have done some over the last 30+ years) she has done stone cold sober “out of pure lust” I tell her.