For Bareback-Only Couples/Males/Females

[AussieMinister]

This is a thread for bareback-only couples/males/females

I don't mean those who differentiate between long-terms FB's and casual partners. I'm talking here about people who NEVER use condoms, whether with a FB, stranger or a gang-bang.

Questions:


1/ How long have you been bareback-only?
2/ How did you come to this decision?
3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged)
4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)
5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners?
6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.


I will answer my own questions fullly later, however, but just to start the topic off, Sarah and I have been in the swingers lifestyle for the past 14 years and Sarah's been 100% bareback-only the entire time. No condoms for us!


NOTE: There is to be no judgemental moralising on this thread. I respect other's decisions to use condoms and your should respect my wife and I's decision not to do so.

[jessicat78]

No replies yet... LOL, we will be the brave ones...

1/ How long have you been bareback-only?
We both have been 90% bareback only for as long as we can remember. The reason for 90% is mainly for me (Lance) as I have not had a vasectomy yet, so must use condoms with women who are not fixed or not on birth control.

2/ How did you come to this decision?
It comes naturally (no pun intended).

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged)
Sex is incomplete without a sensual liquid exchange. It feels better mentally and physically.

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)
Nearly every couple or single we swing with have been open and inviting to bareback!

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners?
Not at all!

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.
Yes, we have been to many parties that are orgy style and bareback only! FUN!

:-) Lance & Jess

[Alura]

We were always bareback. Laura was on birth control pills. They'd proven extremely reliable. We only played with five couples, one at a time. They all had successful, long term marriages. One of our playcouples had both never had sex with anyone except each other. Not much chance of AIDS there, and we started "spouse swapping" before AIDS reared it's ugly head. The worst disease one could get in the early 80s in Oklahoma, was easily cured with one shot of penicillin.

Bareback extends a lot of fun possibilities that don't exist when condoms are used, I would think. It's pretty erotic to come deep in a woman's pussy, then slide, still semi-hard into your wife, who's hot pussy has just been similarly filled.

It's good to know the people with whom one has this kind of fun, pretty well...

Alura

[mde 4764]

When I was part of a couple, we always went bareback. We felt the risk are blown out of proportion and condoms certainly kill the pleasure.

[Lascivious L&L]

We are bareback only also. The reason is both physical and psychological. There is no comparing the sensation of bareback to wearing a condom. If you only have sex with your wife or life partner using condoms, then it would be more understandable to swing using condoms. But if you take a delicious, keen pleasure out of swinging, why swing? We simply wouldn't swing if it meant reducing the quality of sex.

Of course it means we are very picky in our partners and don't play all that much. For us it has never been a variety thing as much as a goal of wonderful sex. There is much two can't experience in sex that three or four can. Even in pure touch, four hand massage is something that two hand massage simply can't be. Two and three partner sex is a whole universe that one partner sex never gets to experience.

We haven't met much resistance to bareback sex because we make it clear that's our style. Some couples have turned us down in the email stage because of it.

[AussieMinister]

TO ANSWER MY OWN QUESTIONS



1/ How long have you been bareback-only? We have been married 14 years and my wife and I have been swingers the entire time. During that 14 years, we have been 100% bareback-only

2/ How did you come to this decision? Was a mutual decision by both of us, although Sarah was particularly insistent

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you (and your wife, etc) physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged?)?For us it is both physical and psychological.

4/ Do you find many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)We certainly find a much higher number of swinger couples are bareback-only that will openly admit it.

We have been to parties and venues where condoms are provided, but have on some occassions observed not a single one being used.

5/ Has it ever seriously limited the number of potential partners? No, in fact it has in our opinion increased interest in us.


6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.Yes, we know of and have attended several bareback-only events/venues here in Australia.

We also are involved in organising regular bareback-only parties in Sydney, at a friend's house (they are also involved in the lifestyle). Condoms are not part of the acceptable 'dress code' at these events.

[willyoats]

I have been bareback only all of my life. I don't seem to be able to use them. They kill the pleasure and the erection. No woman in more than 20 years of swinging has ever asked me to use one.

My wife preferred condoms most of the time, but did bareback with men that we knew quite well.

The only time I remember condom use being a problem was the time that a particularly attractive woman and I agreed to find a room, but she would not go with me unless her husband could go with my wife. (She got lots of invitations; he did not, and she was "protecting" his ego.) My wife was also eager to go with the husband, but she insisted on a condom because she did not know him very well. He could not use one. They killed his erections, as condoms did for me, also. That killed it for all of us.

If she had not been so beautiful, I wouldn't have cared much. But I also knew that my wife's needs came first.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by willyoats

They killed his erections, as condoms did for me, also.

This isn't isolated. I've seen a number of men in the lifestyle who had difficulties maintaining an erection while wearing a condom.

[NealnAnji]

Even though we have not been strictly bareback only, we can see and particularly feel the difference between sex with your swing partner with, and, without a condom. There is no comparison between intercourse with your penis covered with a condom and intercourse without the condom interfering with the pleasure that bareback sex is capable of bringing. It is the feel of the female's vagina the warmth and moisture that the man's prnis gets to experience that makes bareback sexual intercourse so much more pleasurable.

1-How long have you been bareback-only? I would say 70% of the time since I broke my virginity. I was in a LTR and we went bare for the length of the relationship
2- How did you come to this decision? Naturally, the difference in sensation is definitely like night and day. There is also something special about feeling her wetness on me.
3- Is the attraction of bareback to you physical: I would say for me it is both, like I said the feeling of her wetness on me
4- Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? Yes
5- Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners? I would like to think that I am a gentleman, if the lady says that I wear a condom then I will willing oblige her.
6- For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues. Yes, but everyone had to show some papers to prove. But for those that were still not comfortable condoms were available.
Personally, I love sex the natural way but I would also love my partner(s) to be comfortable and if it is condoms they request then its only fair for me to slip one on.

[JDApopka]

Ok I'll take a stab at this.
well our 1st mfm was in the early to mid 80's and it was with a friend and we never considered a condom because we knew he had only been with 2 girls and my wife had only been with me and at this pont we had been married about 8 years. On top of seeing her with another man I also had the desire to see what it would feel like after they had sex.
We have never been to a swingers club or event we have only done mfm 3 sums.
It does hamper finding playmates but we have been very fortunant to have made some good friends for regular encounters.
Right now e have a very nice single black friend that we try to have over at least once a month

[highlander]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

This isn't isolated. I've seen a number of men in the lifestyle who had difficulties maintaining an erection while wearing a condom.

This is a very real issue with the old-fashioned male condoms. One work around are female condoms-but those are less available and a big more tricky to use.

Personally if I rate bareback a 10, and a male condom a 1, I rate a female condom a 7.

[swmnkdinthervr]

We have been with only a few exceptions bareback only, we don't seek out playmates that are strictly condoms only but have found ourselves in a scenario that required condoms and while that's not our preference we have complied. We are very careful about who we chose to meet/play with and prefer long term association/friendship over a one night stand.

1/ How long have you been bareback-only? We both have always been bareback even before exploring the lifestyle, both have been married before but she had her ex as her only previous lover, he had 2 other marriages and several lovers.

2/ How did you come to this decision? It was less a conscious decision than it was just a natural conclusion that we seemed to come to without discussion, we have since discussed this aspect and agree that we prefer bareback.

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged) To some degree "all of the above" fits. There is no sensation to compare with skin on skin and anything less is so much less satisfying, he does occasionally have trouble with a wilting erection largely due to the knowledge that the sensation will be hugely reduced and we simply like cum!!!

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)It has been our experience that almost all the contacts we've made are with people that prefer bareback and agree that the number is likely higher than admit it due in some part at least to a fear of not being accepted and even being ridiculed/shunned by their peers.

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners? To date we have had no more trouble finding bareback partners than we have finding any partner considering the number of fakes/posers and those not really serious about meeting.

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues. We no longer attend clubs, the cliquish atmosphere and sometimes alcohol fueled "free for all" sexual approach don't fit our idea of intimate, sensual encounters. We have never been to a condom only/bareback only event, it has always been participants choice where we've attended.

[Wildthingplus]

Wife's perspective.

1. 10 Years.
2. I am allergic to Latex and do not enjoy condoms.
3. Physical, condoms do not feel good to me. The guys seem to really enjoy cumming inside. I don’t want cum anywhere else.
4. Probably 50/50
5. I check the guys carefully before letting them in. Usually the guys are ok. I have had as many as 20 guys in one night.
6. My husband and I always swing at clubs. We have been to gangbang events but not bareback only.

[dr_pepper]

I am glad to see the positive response here. I have never liked condoms and only used one once at my partners request. That is the only time the subject even came up. I love the feelings and intimate exchange that goes with it.