Any spankos out there? We need some advice.

[IrisWalker]

I guess everybody has their kinks, and they're all unique to talk about, but in my experience, spanking is a weird one.

For a lot of people, it signifies BDSM or some real dominance, and it goes along with bondage, torture, etc. My wife is really into being spanked, but for her there's not really a level of dominance involved, it's just really pleasant to have her ass smacked. A lot. With lots of different implements. For a lot of people it's apparently more of a psychological thing than a sexual thing. Not so in this case.

Now, when I'm in the mood, I truly do enjoy spanking her. It's not my kink (my kink is what brings me here in the first place, I'm more into big, sweaty naked piles of people), so while I get into it, we can't help but wonder what it would be like for her to experience it with someone for whom it *is* their main kink. Someone who genuinely gets off on spanking someone else.

The issue is finding that person. If you just post an ad saying "we're looking for someone who would love to spank this ass," we'll get tons of responses from people who would just be looking to get some. I'll be the first to admit that I'd pretend to be into it ("Oh yeah, it's all I think about") to get at many of the asses I see walking around every day.

Or, on the other extreme, we'd likely get lots of responses from people who are into much heavier stuff, which we'd rather avoid.

It could just be that we're way overthinking all of this, but I was wondering if there's anyone else out there who has been through all this....

[LikeMinds321]

I took a look at your Swing Lifestyle profile and I'd suggest adding a single line that lets people know she's fond of spankings and finds them pleasant. It could fit nicely in the "experiences and fantisies" section. Test that out and see what response it receives.

LM

[realcplub2]

I dunno, making a subtle indication rather than spelling it out that it MAY be on the table..