Mother Nature/Father Time

[hotjazz]

I'm a man in my early 60's. I was always physically in decent shape not only in body but in libido as well. But in the last couple of years I noticed that even after making love to my wife or after playing with another couple or even in our preferred MFM's-- after I got off the first time, I'd lose interest and end up as a spectator. "Little Willy" just did not want to cooperate even after the 15 to 30 minutes it used to take to get him going again. I call it the Don Juan syndrome--After Juan I'm all Don!!!
I know age may be catching up with me and I'm not the typical male that falls asleep after the deed is done that some joke about and, seemingly, MrsHJ is satisfied but when I'm ready for round 2--Bupkiss!!
Are there any other guys(my age)out there that have this problem? It's getting a little frustrating especially since I have a multiorgasmic wife.

[padoc]

Welcome to the latter part of middle age! I think that being able to get hard and get off is a wonderful thing. If you can't delay your orgasm until your partner is sated then you should consider tongue exercises or perhaps a nice vibrator. Wanting your dick to recover like it did 40 years ago is completely unrealistic. Someone once told me that a man gets a finite number of erections in life so never waste one. As we get older, not only should we not waste one, we should thank the sex gods that we still get one!

[bbarnsworth]

I think all of us, should we get old enough, end up being a single shooter. When I was in my twenties, I carried a six shooter. Even seven once. No more. When I was 20, I could keep right on going between #1 and #2 with no refractory period at all. As time marches on, we have to make adjustments.

Now, in swinging, I don't allow myself to orgasm until near an obvious end of play time and/or my play partner is fully satisfied. I treat it as desert, not the main course. If I get desert, great. If I don't, I don't. My wife and I will go home and go at it like bunnies afterwards anyways. I can't guarantee I can go a second or third time in swinging. With my wife, yes. In swinging, no. So, I save the one.

[joluwole]

Originally Posted by hotjazz

I'm a man in my early 60's. I was always physically in decent shape not only in body but in libido as well. But in the last couple of years I noticed that even after making love to my wife or after playing with another couple or even in our preferred MFM's-- after I got off the first time, I'd lose interest and end up as a spectator. "Little Willy" just did not want to cooperate even after the 15 to 30 minutes it used to take to get him going again. I call it the Don Juan syndrome--After Juan I'm all Don!!!
I know age may be catching up with me and I'm not the typical male that falls asleep after the deed is done that some joke about and, seemingly, MrsHJ is satisfied but when I'm ready for round 2--Bupkiss!!
Are there any other guys(my age)out there that have this problem? It's getting a little frustrating especially since I have a multiorgasmic wife.

Just wait until your early 70's, my friend! You'll fondly recall your early 60's, not to speak of your 50's and 40's, etc. Just take care of yourself and continue to savor life's better moments as they present themselves, even if they are less and less frequent.

[Cajun2Step]

Originally Posted by joluwole

Just wait until your early 70's, my friend! You'll fondly recall your early 60's, not to speak of your 50's and 40's, etc. Just take care of yourself and continue to savor life's better moments as they present themselves, even if they are less and less frequent.

To that I would like to add a big AMEN. Enjoy what you have while you have it.
Never

[hotjazz]

Thanks to everyone that offered support. I guess that's what I was looking for.

[SW_PA_Couple]

My first time was a good one...my furnace was robust.
My second time much better, I stroked the fires of lust.
My third time a little slower...my weapon not too stout.
I would've made a fourth....but my pilot light went out.

But now I am so old and gray. My pilot light's gone out.
What used to be my sex appeal, is now my water spout.
I used to be so embarrassed to make that thing behave,
Each and every morning it'd stand and watch me shave.
Now I am much older...and it really gives me the blues.
To see it hang down........and watch me shine my shoes!

[hotjazz]

Thanks again for your terrific responses--and now I DO remember my father quoting that poem to me many moons ago. LOL--Too bad, though, he never made it to my age. All the best to all of you. Although I/we don't post too much on Swing Lifestyle we find the info here invaluable.

Mr&MrsHotjazz

[ldenn2]

I am somewhat older than you so I'll give you some advice son. A time comes when it's over. Your satisfaction will come from having her enjoy it. Have your doctor check your testostrone. If it is low the shots may help.. Try viagra or cialis.. With me. Cialis worked better.. After these things don't work, just enjoy your memories. Later you could get an implant. I won't go to that trouble. You can still give your woman pleasure and that is worth a lot.












cialis worked for me better

[ItTakes3]

Yep...once for me is normal, with an occasional double, and I have no health problems or hormone deficiencies. To make sure my wife gets all she needs, I found her a 42-year-old boyfriend to supplement the action. It keeps a smile on her face, and he's handy when I need help with heavy chores.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by ItTakes3

I found her a 42-year-old boyfriend to supplement the action. It keeps a smile on her face, and he's handy when I need help with heavy chores.

That's a great way of wording that!

My wife and I are trying to find just such a man for her to have as a regular. The search continues...

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

The search continues...