recharging sex drive

[av8tor]

Our question is, how many can say their sex drive has been improved or revived after they have become part of the lifestyle? The question stems from after passing 50 years old one wonders if the atmosphere swinging affords can recharge the sex drive regardless of a couples level of swinging.

[ncmd_couple]

av8tor,

The reality is that sexual desire is in your head as much as anything else. Yes, the sexuality of the swinger environment will help, but the bottom line is what is in the head.

S

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by av8tor

Our question is, how many can say their sex drive has been improved or revived after they have become part of the lifestyle? The question stems from after passing 50 years old one wonders if the atmosphere swinging affords can recharge the sex drive regardless of a couples level of swinging.

You mean that the anticipation of meeting new people, without the pretense of mind games, that these people may actually be looking to take you to bed?

That you are making new friends, and they want to play with you.. in a very good way.. this doesn't stimulate you?

Hmm.. Ok

Ok, lets assume you aren’t all that experienced..And lets also assume you are the male half of the couple..

Lets also assume, that since you have yet to partake.. You are asking if there is any benefit..

Can you remember the first time you had sex with your wife?
What she was wearing before?
What she did to you?
what you did to her?
How about the first time you went down on her, and could actually see heaven?
How about the first time she went down on you?
How about the first time she let you cum in the backdoor?
Can you still picture the first time you took a shower together?
How about the first time you and she went bareback, and you didn’t have to pull out?
What was the first piece of lingerie she wore for you?
What color was it?
How about the first time you saw her in a garter belt and stockings?
Now what is the point of asking those questions? Did they in someway make you feel stimulated?

Imagine the memories of the adventures you can have.. The excitement of sharing her, with another person or people.. seeing her between another persons legs.. Or them between hers.. Male or female? Or both?

The Flaunting, taunting, and Teasing.. the touching, the kissing... Leading up to the either over excited fucking.. or the methodical slow comfortable screwing..

How much of a turn on is it for you to see your wife orgasm? Imagine her oragsming with another person.. Driving to a explosive finish.. and as he withdraws.. you climb between her legs, present her with your very excited manhood, and before she can cum down.. you push her orgasm even higher..

So.. After thinking about all of these wonderful possibilites....does it recharge the sex drive.. I'd say so..

[realcplub2]

Ok.. after writing that last post it got me thinking, maybe it was the male half of the couple, perhaps it was the fairer sex..

Recharging the sex drive for her?

Women, are the central point of the lifestyle, thier desires, or preferences dominate everything a couple does. The man can want a FMF threesome, but if she says No, he has to hunt up two willing participants.. and do so without her conesent.. TROUBLE

Imagine a situation where a Genie appears before you and says you may have whatever your heart desires, so long as you are willing to accept it.. Fantasies can come true.. So long as you say yes

Now the reality, way back when women where fawning over Fabio, you cant really get him, but a stand in can surely be found..

But more importantly, by doing this as a couple and sharing the expereinces, together, just as fast as many think it divides us, it draws us together.

For us, I can be just as happy seeing, and hearing Mrs Real, as she orgasms with a friend or two.. As she is recieving the exstacy.. And there have been a few times when a woman was driven to delights by me, that she was just as delighted.. Knowing exactly what I was doing, she loves done to her.. Has even said how proud she felt afterwards..

Again, as far as recharging the sex drive.. Not sure if thats the case.. But if a woman, can free herself of the mental roadblocks placed there by society.. And allows her to enjoy herself, the sky is the limit

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by av8tor

Our question is, how many can say their sex drive has been improved or revived after they have become part of the lifestyle? The question stems from after passing 50 years old one wonders if the atmosphere swinging affords can recharge the sex drive regardless of a couples level of swinging.

Mrs. Diggs and I have and has always had a fantastic sex life. When we got into this lifestyle, it had nothing to do with improving our sex life or sex drive. It was about wanting to experience again, that lustful feeling of first meeting someone and having sex with them that mellows over time in a relationship.

As a side effect, our sex drive has shot through the roof since we got into swinging and it was already incredible to begin with. I think that says it all.

Welcome and good luck.

[mnd7398]

The first time you had sex was so good you had to do it again and again. The sex was so good that you both said the "L" word which after some time led to getting married. As the years passed the sex was the same old same old. It just wasn't anything special anymore until it got to the point where it didn't matter anymore if it happened or not. There wasn't anything wrong with the abilities of either person. Sex just became boring. Swinging, which I think means as swapping mates, is an excellent idea. You have sex with someone new and then you go home to your house and kids. You still have the love and security but you have the spark and intensity of incredible sex with strangers. I know I missed a few points so help me out.

[DigginIt]

Originally Posted by mnd7398

The first time you had sex was so good you had to do it again and again. The sex was so good that you both said the "L" word which after some time led to getting married. As the years passed the sex was the same old same old. It just wasn't anything special anymore until it got to the point where it didn't matter anymore if it happened or not. There wasn't anything wrong with the abilities of either person. Sex just became boring. Swinging, which I think means as swapping mates, is an excellent idea. You have sex with someone new and then you go home to your house and kids. You still have the love and security but you have the spark and intensity of incredible sex with strangers. I know I missed a few points so help me out.

I think you hit on something that is right on the mark with many, not everyone, but many couples who have been married for a long time. Mrs. Diggs and I never quite got to that point where we didn't feel it was no longer special but a good word that springs to mind would be that it was very "routine"

I have always been the 'pusher' in the family to ensure we continued to take time away from the kids and to have real dates but we do believe that there are couples out there that are at that point where the sex is boring or nonexistent. Unfortunately, some start to believe that they just don't love each other any longer. When people start to convince themselves that they are no longer in love, it's easy to rationalize why their sex life is at such a low. Next thing you know, they are divorced. This is all my opinion of course.

For us, being able to recapture that 'zing' that you get from someone new, without all that is involved with a new relationship, then go back home to the person you love is like having your cake and eating it too !!!