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[heidiandjohn]

My husband is getting more and more depressed because his semen volume has decreased dramatically over that last few years. To top it all off, it'll take him forever to cum, which I don't really have a problem with . He's seen a doctor and there's no health problems (he 46 yrs old) whatsoever. Doesn't even need the little blue pills to help. I was wondering if any you guys have experienced similar issues and if you know or used any supplements that may improve this situation?

Thanks in advance

-Heidi

[Spoomonkey]

I don't have a solution for the "delayed reaction" as far as orgasm goes. I have the same "problem" myself. It could be distraction - as a doctor he likely has a lot of things going on in his head. But that is just me spit-balling...

As for a decrease in semen one way to fix that is to drink at least as much water as you're supposed to per day. More water is even better. Also add zinc to your vitamin regimen (or is it regiment? I never get that right no matter how many times my trainers try to teach me.)

Another thing would be exercise. Core, ab and leg work will increase the ejaculation velocity and the increase in testosterone and blood flow should improve response time - it does improve sensation which makes lasting longer much more enjoyable.

Of course, I hesitate to say anything since he's a doctor and I'm a monkey. He probably already knows all of my little fitness cliches. So before he reads this, make him promise to laugh behind my back like everyone else

Spoomonkey

[exploringRM]

All sounds like the normal part of aging. Everyone experiences this to some degree or another.

[LFM2]

First of all, to the Swingers board.

Secondly, I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on television, either. So... take this as it's meant... (read: don't take it too seriously!)

Thirdly, wondering if your husband takes any sort of medications? Some medications make it hell to orgasm. You say he's in his mid 40's, which is enough to cause prostate problems. You said you had him checked out by his doctor, so hopefully, all of that was ruled out.

It very well could be a product of aging. I'm not a man, so I can't comment there but I am getting old, too.

[it'sso]

46 is pretty early in the day for a guy to be having these issues. Is he overweight? I'm working on dropping about fifteen pounds hopefully the majority of which will come off my mid section. The reason for this is that I too have been lasting so long that my wife gets sore from the never ending pounding she is getting.
I'm considerably older than the OP's spouse.

Extended foreplay will build up volume.

Also the "get really close to cumming and squeeze hard at the base to prevent ejaculation" method can put more charge in the pipes.

PS: This is age at work, like other posters have said.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by heidiandjohn

My husband is getting more and more depressed because his semen volume has decreased dramatically over that last few years. To top it all off, it'll take him forever to cum, which I don't really have a problem with . He's seen a doctor and there's no health problems (he 46 yrs old) whatsoever. Doesn't even need the little blue pills to help. I was wondering if any you guys have experienced similar issues and if you know or used any supplements that may improve this situation?

Thanks in advance

-Heidi

taking forever to cum? God, complain why dont ya!

As far as the decreased amounts.. plenty of fluids, cut back on coffee, or caffinated drinks.. and plenty of vitamins..

Enjoy it.. follow the regiment and it will get better..

[magnum]

Originally Posted by heidiandjohn

My husband is getting more and more depressed because his semen volume has decreased dramatically over that last few years. To top it all off, it'll take him forever to cum, which I don't really have a problem with . He's seen a doctor and there's no health problems (he 46 yrs old) whatsoever. Doesn't even need the little blue pills to help. I was wondering if any you guys have experienced similar issues and if you know or used any supplements that may improve this situation?

Thanks in advance

-Heidi

Good luck with that.

I am not sure about my spem count...How do you now what your spem count is?

I am 50 and I have not noticed anything different. I had a fun play date last week and came all over my friends wife face.

I am not familiar with any "pill" that would help your husband, I am sure there is something out there that can help. Good luck.

[magnum]

Originally Posted by heidiandjohn

My husband is getting more and more depressed because his semen volume has decreased dramatically over that last few years. To top it all off, it'll take him forever to cum, which I don't really have a problem with . He's seen a doctor and there's no health problems (he 46 yrs old) whatsoever. Doesn't even need the little blue pills to help. I was wondering if any you guys have experienced similar issues and if you know or used any supplements that may improve this situation?

Thanks in advance

-Heidi

Welcome to the board by the way...

[Avjoe]

Hi, I;m not sure about the volume but medications will make a difference. I took one one time and could not cumm for anything. Had fun for awhile but it just would not happen. I'm 46 and finally happy that it takes me longer. LOL Not laughing about his problem. I will say from being a male, the mind has a lot to do with it. I have worried before about different things (sometimes unrelated to relationship) and it affected me in ways. Maybe with firmness, time or even if I was interested in having sex. Worring will not help. I find usually exercise helps me with just about any problem I have, it gets me changing my routine, thoughts and I start felling better about my self. Good Luck

[interested-05]

the more you think about it the more difficult it becomes. Take the time to enjoy the foreplay, when the moment is right, it will cum.
When he focuses on your pleasure, things seem to work better

[JD62]

I'm a 47 yr old male and had a similar problem about 2 yrs ago, upon speaking with my Dr. and research (on the internet) you can achieve better results with plenty of water and a daily dose of L-Arginine-Ornithine 2000 mg which I take 2 a day, with L-Lysine 500mg which I take 1 a day.
I saw results within 2 weeks, good luck and welcome. (keep us posted)

[Spoomonkey]

All kidding aside about his "god-like" staying power, I do feel his pain.

I was on an anti-depressant sometime back that made it impossible to cum. I went two weeks without being able to and Mrs Spoo was a trooper, but after a while it just became too much.

I didn't get the pleasure out of it and she did get sore from my desperate attempts - and let's face it, two weeks is going to lead to some desperation.

I am not sure if that issue might have something to do with it, but I quit the medicine (not advisable without a doctor's supervision - but I am a blockhead) and took up running. It fixed the depressive issue for a while and completely solved the stamina "problem". I can still last a long time - sometimes too long for my playmates, which I feel really badly about - but I do have the control now to cum when I need to.

Spoomonkey

[ItTakes3]

After my vasectomy at age 35, my volume was about half what it was before the surgery. It was a pychological problem for a while, but time resolved that issue. Now, at 68, I produce the same volume, but not if the frequency is every day or two. If I go more than a week, it's like being 35 again.

I also go much longer before ejaculating, but I don't lose any pleasure, and sometimes experience what I call a mini-orgasm when almost nothing is produced.

Though I don't need a pill to get hard, I do find that Cialis gives a firmer erection, which translates into more feeling and a more predictable outcome. However, I only seek pharmaceutical help for special occasions. If I find my sexual interest lagging, I take a supplement called ArginMax that seems to tweak the system a little bit, but it's not a magic pill.

Men age at different rates and with different results, so if he is healthy, it might well be a minor psychological issue that needs to be faced. We men are famous for worrying about performance problems that are not as big a deal as we sometimes make it out to be.

[Edison Carter]

Ed here-- Again, this was just one person I know, a buddy. He's 48 and had some of the same concerns. Okay, some of it is psychological as once you start to worry about 'performance' you start to cause the exact problem you are trying to avoid.

What worked for him was getting some weight off and going to the gym. Now, since he's approaching 50 and injury is easy, any weightlifting should be done with high reps. Instead of pushing hard for ten reps, he would lift a lighter weight at 25-50 reps. This greatly reduces the risk of injury. He also swam, but kept it at a leisurely pace. As always, if your new to exercise, check with the doctor beforehand and take things slowly, Rome was not built in a day.

Also, the wife should be slightly more vocal or into it, which will help with the mindset. In my friend's case, when she was telling me about it too, I said,"It wouldn't hurt if you yelled out,'God you're amazing,' or 'Fuck me !' and grab his ass, claw his back a bit too. "