stage fright

[newsoftswapcpl]

Hey, so my wife and I are fairly new to the swinger lifestyle and have played a few time with other couples, and both loved it. However, I've notice that I've had a hard time... getting hard. We are only into soft swapping, and watching her and another girl is super hot and I get very very turned on. But then when it comes to me its like it just doesn't want to work.. I they and focus on other things or what my wife is doing, to get turned on, and it works but it still doesn't get hard. Has anyone else had issues with this? What did you do to over come? I want to continue the life style just need to figure out how to get over the stage fright or if its just a new setting and I'm having a hard time focusing. Anyway any tips would be great for this newb.

[TheLorax]

Ach, it happens. It takes me some time to get comfortable with a new partner which is why I like regular ones. Erectile drugs can help some, but I don't like taking any drug if I can avoid it.

You're not alone out there, it's relatively common. Less so among established and experienced swingers, but it still happens to a lot of guys.

[LFM2]

There are many threads in these forums that discuss ED during playtime. Here's a link to some of them.

an open and honest talk about ED

Having trouble staying 'up'

single male with erectile dysfunction

There are a plethora of threads like this. It seems to be something that almost every man has had problems with -- mostly during swinging. You're not alone and if you want to read more threads like this, please use the search button above.

[bobcat2712]

My hubby takes this little blue pill...It has made a world of difference if our swinging lifestyle. He is still able to ejactulate, and get hard again and again. Normally if he was to ejactulate that would be it. Plus, it takes that oh my goodness will it get hard out of the equasion. The ladies like it! Its an option.
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[MothersHelper]

Blue pill\ or liquid is the way to go until your confidence is where it needs to be.

[swinger5]

Just FYI, those pills don't work on everybody. My husband has tried them many times and still has a problem. It's all mental for some.

[newsoftswapcpl]

Thanks for all the options and links. I'm just trying to figure out how to go to a doc at the age of 27 and tell them it doesn't do its job it needs help lol. But its nice to know this seems to be fairly common with people new to swinging. And it help let the wifey know it had nothing to do with her or that I wasn't enjoying it, because my god I was. Thanks again everyone.

[socolais]

If you don't have erection issues at home, just relax and things will take care of themselves in due time. Women have similar issues too, it's just that ours are out front for everyone to see.

[LagniappeDC]

I agree, just keep trying -- I found I had some of the same issues once we got more active. Sometimes getting erect, other times being erect but not being able to cumm. It was mostly mental. Adjusting to this new experience of being with new people, trying to concentrate with so much other sexy action going on, etc. If you don't have issues at home, it's really about getting comfortable. Once I made the mental leap it's been "blast off" ever since

[newsoftswapcpl]

So I was looking into some things to try and use until I get more comfortable with the new experiences and was wondering if anyone else has tried any of the products. I was looking through gnc.com to see if they had any herbal type of supplements and I came across one called Prolatis.. It had high reviews but for almost $50 I'm still cautious to try it. I'd like to avoid the dr office for now, due to not having insurance until next month. Or if anyone know any other over the counter supplements to try that worked feel free to post.

[xxxboxy]

$50 puts you within striking distance of stuff that actually works vs. the "it's natural" stuff that, well...doesn't have any clinical data to back it up.