Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend

InterMike · 10-21-2009, 08:53 PM

Sometimes my girlfriend and her friend fool around and french kiss, while I don't mind this before, I'm a little bit more uncomfortable about it, as her friend now has a boyfriend who is 17 years older than her. I'm also uncomfortable because her friend's boyfriend - who knows how many partners or diseases he could have - I don't want my girlfriend catching anything. And just thinking about her kissing her lips that have been on his lips just makes me really, really uncomfortable. I don't wanna come off as rude or anything, though. So, any suggestions, thoughts about it, etc? Thanks

exploringRM · 10-21-2009, 08:58 PM

Are you active swingers? While you may control who you play with, you don't know who they play with. Is this really any different? (other than your perception).

xxxboxy · 10-21-2009, 09:04 PM

I suggest that you get over it, you had no idea where her friend had been back when you thought it was OK.

**Alura** · 10-21-2009, 11:32 PM

Exactly what does age have to do with it?

Mr. Alura

**SW_PA_Couple** · 10-22-2009, 05:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by InterMike

So, any suggestions, thoughts about it, etc? Thanks

My thought, brother InterMike, is that you are displaying a bit of a controlling attitude. An old person having a greater or lesser number of germs is apart from the point.

~Michael

Additude · 10-22-2009, 07:08 AM

That perspective sounds immature to me. Consider the fact that the BF is 17 years older for a reason....it's because he is NOT all diseased and drugged out. He made it that far because he has taken the precautions and is clean.

bbarnsworth · 10-22-2009, 09:10 AM

If you don't want your girlfriend catching anything, I strongly recommend you don't let her touch grocery cart handles. Filthy, disease covered things.Grocery carts are veritable petri dishes teeming with human saliva, mucus, urine, fecal matter, as well as the blood and juices from raw meat.. Also, armrests of public transportation are particularly bad; even worse than grocery carts. You can't be too careful!

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10-21-2009, 08:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
InterMike Registered Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 8 Location: NS Status: Couple	Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend Sometimes my girlfriend and her friend fool around and french kiss, while I don't mind this before, I'm a little bit more uncomfortable about it, as her friend now has a boyfriend who is 17 years older than her. I'm also uncomfortable because her friend's boyfriend - who knows how many partners or diseases he could have - I don't want my girlfriend catching anything. And just thinking about her kissing her lips that have been on his lips just makes me really, really uncomfortable. I don't wanna come off as rude or anything, though. So, any suggestions, thoughts about it, etc? Thanks

10-21-2009, 08:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
exploringRM Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 850 Location: York, PA Status: Couple - he posts/reads Swing Lifestyle Name:hereforfunrm	Re: Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend Are you active swingers? While you may control who you play with, you don't know who they play with. Is this really any different? (other than your perception).

10-21-2009, 09:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
xxxboxy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 360 Location: Near Seattle Status: Male half of couple Swing Lifestyle Name:xxxboxy	Re: Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend I suggest that you get over it, you had no idea where her friend had been back when you thought it was OK.

10-21-2009, 11:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,136 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	Re: Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend Exactly what does age have to do with it? Mr. Alura
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10-22-2009, 07:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
Additude Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 623 Location: OBX-NC	Re: Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend That perspective sounds immature to me. Consider the fact that the BF is 17 years older for a reason....it's because he is NOT all diseased and drugged out. He made it that far because he has taken the precautions and is clean.
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10-22-2009, 09:10 AM	#7 (permalink)
bbarnsworth Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 1,870 Location: South Central Indiana Status: Couple	Re: Uncomfortable about girlfriend french kissing friend who has much older boyfriend If you don't want your girlfriend catching anything, I strongly recommend you don't let her touch grocery cart handles. Filthy, disease covered things.Grocery carts are veritable petri dishes teeming with human saliva, mucus, urine, fecal matter, as well as the blood and juices from raw meat.. Also, armrests of public transportation are particularly bad; even worse than grocery carts. You can't be too careful!

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