When do you cum?

[foozballnow]

Hello fellow swingers. I was interested in something and thought I would put it out there. When you are in a swinging situation when do you cum? What do I mean? It depends on each couple and the situation but most get started with oral. Do you cum during oral or only during intercourse? Or both? I was mostly going to direct my question to men because it is a little harder for us to continue after cumming once but women feel free to chime in and tell us about yourself and your mate.

[exploringRM]

Depending on a number of things (alcohol, time of day, etc) cumming during a blow job may end me for a bit. I can usually hold out during a blow job but that depends on how enthusiastic my partner gets, hehe. So for me I usually cum during intercourse with my partner.

[foozballnow]

sorry. I forgot to be clear. What is your intent though. Do you cum during oral so you last longer during intercourse, or is it assumed that you come once. I mean we were in this situation this weekend and I was like well does this girl want me to cum now during oral? Or am I supposed to wait until intercourse.

[sweet_tna]

I orgasm when whatever my partner does hits the right spot. It's most often (and most likely) during oral, but fingers and toys work well, too.

Heck, I've even orgasmed just from making out if the mood and chemistry are right.

As to the question of whether to hold out for intercourse to come, it's not an issue. I'm multi-orgasmic. I'm kinda' like a can of Pringles (once you pop, you can't stop).

=)

[exploringRM]

Originally Posted by foozballnow

sorry. I forgot to be clear. What is your intent though. Do you cum during oral so you last longer during intercourse, or is it assumed that you come once. I mean we were in this situation this weekend and I was like well does this girl want me to cum now during oral? Or am I supposed to wait until intercourse.

My intent is to last through oral sex and continue with intercourse. And if I feel I'm about ready to go during oral I'll slowly disengage from oral and move onto intercourse. If I knew for sure that I could cum once during oral and then continue I'd go with that, but too more often that not I would be useless after cumming.

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

I orgasm when whatever my partner does hits the right spot. It's most often (and most likely) during oral, but fingers and toys work well, too.

Heck, I've even orgasmed just from making out if the mood and chemistry are right.

=)

This bit RIGHT HERE is evidence of why the female anatomy is a w e s o m e!!

If this worked for guys the world would be like that Andy Samberg/J Timberlake film short "I Jizzed My Pants" (look it up! )

On topic, Ive never had a problem cumming and then getting hard again BUT I rarely cum from oral anyway.

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by foozballnow

sorry. I forgot to be clear. What is your intent though. Do you cum during oral so you last longer during intercourse, or is it assumed that you come once. I mean we were in this situation this weekend and I was like well does this girl want me to cum now during oral? Or am I supposed to wait until intercourse.

In general, if we are wanting to full swap and the guy has any recovery period (as most do -- not many can just keep going), I would rather him wait for intercourse. I love giving blow jobs so I'll do that for a while , and enthusiastically. But that doesn't mean I want the play to end there! If the guy is getting close, I hope he tells me so we can ease off and either move on to intercourse or something else. This is especially true if one orgasm is going to be it, because that's how he's made or because time is a factor.

I remember one time early in our lifestyle experience when a partner came during a "titty fuck" and then couldn't do anything the rest of the night... or the next morning. I was a bit bummed because I felt if he knew he didn't recover well, it would have been more considerate to wait. The fact that we had driven over two hours to see them just added to my disappointment.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by sweet_tna

I orgasm when whatever my partner does hits the right spot. It's most often (and most likely) during oral, but fingers and toys work well, too.

Heck, I've even orgasmed just from making out if the mood and chemistry are right.

As to the question of whether to hold out for intercourse to come, it's not an issue. I'm multi-orgasmic. I'm kinda' like a can of Pringles (once you pop, you can't stop).

=)

What was that commercial? "Crunch all you want. We'll make more!"

Swinger style; "Cum all you want, we'll fuck more!"

[SW_PA_Couple]

I make no attempt at scheduling a climax or having an orgasm-on-demand. Cum simply happens when it happens (if it happens).

~Michael

[YZF]

If my partner does oral to completion, I won't lose my hardon and can keep on going with oral or intercourse.

[cari and mar]

Originally Posted by foozballnow

Hello fellow swingers. I was interested in something and thought I would put it out there. When you are in a swinging situation when do you cum? What do I mean? It depends on each couple and the situation but most get started with oral. Do you cum during oral or only during intercourse? Or both? I was mostly going to direct my question to men because it is a little harder for us to continue after cumming once but women feel free to chime in and tell us about yourself and your mate.

Mar is seems to be in the minority, as one of the guys who don't think oral is the end-all, be-all. So he typically doesn't have trouble lasting through that part of an evening. Not to say it isn't pleasurable for him - just that it doesn't take his breathe away.

Cari can cum either way, although the most effective methods involve something being near her g-spot (be it a finger or some other appendage :-).