question about penis size

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
I couldn't resist Maybe I'm one of those women who sounds unbelievable, or so I recall threads like this and was then generally surprised to hear so many say size really does matter. Also the conviction if a woman says otherwise, it's probably not total truth, of course, not everyone feels that way, but more than I thought, if I remember right.
Honestly, kind of the same way that I can go for either gender, depending on the person, it's the same way with chemistry and size. If one is secure in themselves, it is easily felt, for me, always a turn on. I think any stressing I ever did about size, was the guys close to me who truly might have agonized over it, and be hard to console, so to speak. Then it's b/c I'm pretty empathic and sensitive, that I might feel nervous for the person if it's a real problem.
For real, to me,if there's chemistry, everything is good, and desirable, as is, not some pre set idea about size. Actually, when I first started to have actual orgasms, it was in young marriage, and he was a little under average...I guess...but not by much, and only can say this, b/c that's how he described himself, I'd say "average-ish'. It had nothing to do with size, everything to do with being super comfortable with myself, finally, after having such a steady partner I really trusted on a friend level first. I had to really feel secure in my own body, as far as body issues, before I could enjoy someone else the way I can now. The orgasms were not better or worse than with other people, who had larger ones...it was me, really, finally letting go more.
OMG...I had this one experience, (actually a few, with one person) with a male friend of mine when we were both single...and...I can't even describe, but I told him half-jokingly he really should have "warned me". In this case there was actual good chemistry, but it took a bit for me to "get there" b/c initially, so painful. It was actually a bit of a drawback, b/c the desire to keep it going for more than one go, each time, was limited, due to soreness.
In both cases there was genuine chemistry, and adapted around things. I know it's not something that would ever make or break a natural, sincere, and fun connection. Best, karmic

[amid]

Gynecologist examing patient

"Wow you have a large vagina, wow you have a large vagina"

Patient

You didn't have to say it twice!!

Dr.

I didn't

after that intro.. there is an awful lot of talk about Penis size. What about vaginal canal size.. I've been with a few women that were "tight" and a few women that well let's say they were loose. I'd say I'm on the slightly above average size with girth.. so if I've come across loose vagina's where the stimulation wasn't as great I'm sure some of the average to lower than average guys have.. But I guess no one complains about a BIG pussy, can't see it from the outside!

Definition of Vagina, it's the Box that a Penis Cums in..

Just find a Box to fit your Penis.

[TheLorax]

Vaginal size can be adjusted to a large degree by exercises (kegals) and stretching. I dated a woman who had worked on it so much that I could fist her and then she could turn around and squeeze my cock so hard it was almost painful. Obviously not all women can have that much range, but there is a lot a woman can do if she wants to work on it.

While I can honestly say that most of the women in my life have been perfectly happy with my size, I can also say that there's been at least two who have negatively commented directly on it and a couple more who made comments along the lines of leading me to believe it wasn't enough for them, even though they were trying to be nice about it.

So it's hard to get over that kind of negative self image.

[it'sso]

If you've only had to listen to it three or four times, you probably are packing enough to suit 90 % of the available women who indulge in the lifestyle. If you hear it far more often, your only option is to grow a thicker skin since you sure as hell won't be growing anything else thicker.

[Sunswept]

I think it was William Faulkner that said:
"Everyone is happy, until they start thinking about how happy they really are."

So my phallic collorary to Faulkner's quip is that happiness is to be found in maximizing the time spent using one's penis -and minimizing the time spent measuring it.

[mixtupcpl]

This:

Originally Posted by it'sso

If you've only had to listen to it three or four times, you probably are packing enough to suit 90 % of the available women who indulge in the lifestyle. If you hear it far more often, your only option is to grow a thicker skin since you sure as hell won't be growing anything else thicker.

And this:

Originally Posted by TheLorax

While I can honestly say that most of the women in my life have been perfectly happy with my size, I can also say that there's been at least two who have negatively commented directly on it and a couple more who made comments along the lines of leading me to believe it wasn't enough for them, even though they were trying to be nice about it.

So it's hard to get over that kind of negative self image.

Basically prove out that yes, size certainly does matter. I mean guys with 8", 9" and beyond never hear these things at all right? So I suppose there are times they have to deal with "oh my god, thats so big!" or "please take it easy, that thing is just TOO big!" Im sure thats got to be rough for them

And most women can manage to accomodate all but the true circus freaks, so I would think with some caution it all works out fine and everyone is happy in these situations. The most honest sounding feedback I see from many women on the topic is "well its the kind of thing where its amazing to indulge occasionally, but you wouldnt want that full time!" That kind of says it all and OF COURSE most guys reading this would prefer to be in the "amazing rarity" category .

But as has been said numerous times even in this thread, you cant do anything about it, so it really isnt good to obsess over it. We all do it of course (again, except for that top few percent), and sometimes its cathartic to bitch and moan, but the key is to not let yourself get too down on yourself over it and keep in mind that most of us are in the same boat (and just PRAY you never have the misfortune of running into a size queen with a cruelty streak )

[Karmickiss]

Hi All,
I thought amid's response was interesting. I recall learning some things about vaginal "size" in a human sexuality class...lol. The whole thing about kegals in my opinion, definately is a good tool to use if one is interested in exploring results with this.
I have of course, heard the old saying about "whores" are suposedly "loose" b/c they are being "stretched" regularly, thus, causing a looser vagina. If I remember right(time to pull out some saved literature to take a look). And even thinking that "tightness" then is sign of a "good girl". There's some interesting tied in things.
At the same time, if one is anxious, or even unconsciously has some issue, there can be unusual tightness(rare extreme would be vaginitis, IF I recall the term properly, it means vaginal 'freezing' that can be unpenetrable so clamped, or worse, getting "stuck" with some man's penis stuck insde, whatever the size, and have actually have to go get medical help to get apart!)...that would be there even for the smallest "piece". Or, if the woman is not adequately turned on...it could make one unusually "tight". I recall hearing that the more relaxed, and/or turned on a woman might be, the looser it may seem. Thus thinking about a person who might be very unshy and uninhibited of course, she can seem a little looser but of course, doesn't dictate as a rule for many varieties of reasons, and again, kegals are great for varying the control by will, if one wants to.
I feel like I learned somewhere that the average vagina actual size, is close to same in all women. The only thing that truly might "stretch out" a vagina would be childbirth. I read that no matter how much sex one has, it is not enough to actually "stretch it out"...that it always "bounces back" to original size, with many different factors as to how tight or loose one might be at any given time. Supposedly, IF childbirth stretched anything permanently, it was only by a very small degree...and then, again, kegals..
A bit over tired, so I hope that all came out right. I've always been conscious of those wonderful muscles before I heard about kegals...and been told I'm "tight"..lol..but there are so many other factors that could be attributed to this. Again,a little wiped out tonight, hope it all came out right. I so could be wrong on some of this, but at least it's interesting to think about and surely probably able to be researched, I'm going by memory, and thought it fair to put in a response to the "other side" of the equation when it was brought up. Wishing all the best tonight!!Warmly, karmic

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

What author is this chronicalling the love lives of genetically engineered super soldiers? I dabble at writing myself and am a huge sci-fi junkie. I particularly love when an author can place outrageous characters and settings into an immediately acceptable and believable context. This isnt a series I recognize right off the bat but would love to check it out.

Umm.. Joe Simon/John Romita/Stan Lee .. Captain America... Jerry Seigel/Joe Shuster ... Superman..

Ok, enough comedy...

While EVERY man thinks having a 8, 9, 10, 12 inch cock is the IDEAL situation, and would gladly take the UPGRADE.. reality is, some women CANNOT accomadate, or even ATTEMPT such severe sizes.

Now pay attention... immedately after reading mentally fold and place in the back pocket of your BRAIN..

Its not the size of the wand but the MAGIC you do with it

There are guys out there, that the size of their cock is what they THINK makes them appealing..

there are more weapons than just the main cannon to bring to bear before winning the battle of the female orgasm.. or satisfaction

[thecandyman]

The A.A. creed always comes to mind here...

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.