How to help wife be multi orgasmic??

[C/S]

First let me say that my wife is incredible in bed and that we have great sex together. I do also have to say that with her, you better be able to last because getting her to cum sometimes is a chore. She says that I am the only person that she has ever been with that makes her orgasm every time we have sex. She said it was very sparatic (sp) before we got together. I would love for her to be able to orgasm several times. She says that when I make her cum, that she orgasms so hard that it makes her head hurt and she is completely wiped out afterwards. Like I said, it is alot of work sometimes, so our sessions are not quick at all (even with ALOT of foreplay). I love watching her with other men, but would like to have her orgasm with them. We both agree that she does not want to orgasm with them, because she will be so "spent" that she will not want to have sex with me. Its funny (not really) because she reminds me of a man, after she orgasms, she lays there for a minute to catch her breath and then passes out. Are there any tricks/tips to help her become a multi?? Thanks

[SW_PA_Couple]

I know that this is not going to lead you to the answer you seek. I would recommend that you enjoy your wife as you find her. If she feels no need to become multi-orgasmic, you will risk frustration for both her and yourself if you try to change her.

[LFM2]

I don't think there's any magic spell to help her be multi-orgasmic. I think she is just the way she is.

Like SW_PA_Couple said, enjoy her the way she is.

[C/S]

Trust me I do enjoy her exactly how she is and I hope I did not come off that way. She has said as well that she wishes that she could have more than one orgasm. I just dont want it to sound like I am being selfish and this is what I want, she has expressed this as well. We were just wondering if there are kegles or something that may help. Thanks for the responses.

[dumbasarock10]

Hey CS, I've known your pain. A cute little red-head from the past took almost an act of Congress to get off. Getting her off more than once was a Marathon. Anyways, I found this. You've probably already seen it, but if not I hope it helps. Best of luck.
Multiple Orgasms

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by C/S

We were just wondering if there are kegles or something that may help. Thanks for the responses.

OK, now that it has been established that she want this, the Web link that dumbasarock10 found looks like it contains good ideas. If your wife has a favorite sex toy it might be therapeutic for her to practice pleasuring herself.

[slevin]

Relaxation and not caring about it coming quickly are important too. If she, or you, are getting frustrated that the orgasm is not happening fast enough then it will take even longer to happen. Relax, enjoy the journey and see what happens. Orgasm or not, multiple orgasm or not.

[CXXC]

One point that has not been discussed in this topic is the fact that the OP's wife gets a pain in her head when she has an orgasm. Now, I am not sure if this is somehting that happens every time or just once in a while so I will assume the worst case and go with all the time. Take a look at the following article about the sex headache.

FOXNews.com - FOXSexpert: Why Do I Get a Headache During Sex? - Sex | Erectile Dysfunction | Sexual Health

I suffer from them on time to time. They wipe me out completely. I feel absolutely exhausted after them.

As for having multiple orgasms, here is another questin. Is the OP speaking of clitoral orgasms alone? If his wife is like my Ex wife, she would have ONE HUGE Clitoral orgasm and that would be it! It took forever to acheive but would shake the earth when it did. (Not that I saw too many of them as she was a cold hearted beast who used sex as a tool to obtain her wants and desires. Do I sound bitter?)

Vaginal orgasms are another animal entirely. Those can be quite numerous and last for long periods of time. Hitting that elusive G-spot can bring about great pleasure for her and that may be your answer to the multi.

Hope this helps you!

[Just Passing By]

There are women who by their nature orgasm slowly but when they do it shakes the earth. That's just how they are, and enjoy them. But as mentioned above adding lots of G spot stimulation when they are aroused, and getting close can often be VERY pleasurable for them. It will still be 'only' one but it will seem like it goes on forever.

[Babysteps]

In my humble opinion, although multiples are certainly nothing to sneeze at, I think too many people, too often put too much focus on them. Relax, savour and enjoy just simply BEING together, and the PLEASURE, and enjoy the outcome whether it be ONE or several.
I'd also like to add, that if SHE feels like he's completely knocking himself out trying to get her off, IN HER HEAD, it can be a rather COUNTER PRODUCTIVE manouver. Too much pressure/expectations = NO orgasm, OR a difficult orgasm.
Am I making sense??

[C/S]

Thanks for the reponses guys/gals. She definitely is a clit woman. Again, I love her and the sex that we have. I dont want it to come across like I pressure this or am not happy in any way. We both have talked about trying to get her to where she would orgasm more than once. If it happens, great, if not, great. I do appreciate the responses and help. Chris

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by C/S

First let me say that my wife is incredible in bed and that we have great sex together. I do also have to say that with her, you better be able to last because getting her to cum sometimes is a chore. She says that I am the only person that she has ever been with that makes her orgasm every time we have sex. She said it was very sparatic (sp) before we got together. I would love for her to be able to orgasm several times. She says that when I make her cum, that she orgasms so hard that it makes her head hurt and she is completely wiped out afterwards. Like I said, it is alot of work sometimes, so our sessions are not quick at all (even with ALOT of foreplay). I love watching her with other men, but would like to have her orgasm with them. We both agree that she does not want to orgasm with them, because she will be so "spent" that she will not want to have sex with me. Its funny (not really) because she reminds me of a man, after she orgasms, she lays there for a minute to catch her breath and then passes out. Are there any tricks/tips to help her become a multi?? Thanks

Hello first off welcome to the boards..

Now then, the key to your wife, or any other woman ENJOYING the pleasure of orgasm multiple or otherwise comes from the biggest sex organ..

Her Brain

She can orgasm with you because she TRUSTS you.. But to take that up another level or two requires something else.. a total relaxation of her mind and body to allow her to "go with it".. Some women we have known dont let themselves go for fear of many things.. the worst is being judged by others.. I am not a doctor but I could play one on TV.. the headaches could be a symptom of this, as well.. Consentrating too hard on "trying" instead of just letting it cum.. so to speak

We have had a similar discussion on another thread about women ejaculating, If the women are honest about the sensations they are feeling and ALLOW themselves to flow with them it allows them to experience sex on a whole new level.

Ask any woman if during sex.. Oral intercourse or whatever, if they have ever had the sensation that they had to pee.. Some will say no.. others might admit they have.. but stopped themselves.. this is actually the start of the "squirting" process.. If they go with it.. there might be a pleasurable, albiet messy surprise.. But after the expereince Who cares about the mess, lol..

The same applies in this instance.. Have an honest conversation about trust, and letting herself go to enjoy the expereince, and things might just work in the direction you are seeking..

[K&JIntimates]

As a woman who normally only orgasims once (and pretty hard and long at that)I understand your wife's frustration. Often I've had to suppress the urge to climax in order to keep going. Once the O is on me and washed over me, sex isn't quite the same as it was before. Still pleasurable, still fun, still wow....just not in the same way as it was on the climb up.

I've spoken to K about my desire to be multi-orgasmic on several occasions and he understands. He's always quick to remind me that he likes me just as I am and doesn't need me to be multi but he's a willing participant in any practicing I might want to do!

And so.........To the point! If your wife is one to take while and it sounds as if she is, try a lot of internal stimulation without messing about too much with her clitoris. Have her tell you when you're on a spot that is working for her and keep at it. Combine that touch with other activities like kissing and breast stimulation and she may find herself with a feeling like she could cum. Or a feeling of a much reduced orgasim (is that spelled right?). As long as she stays aroused the big finish will still happen but with a lot of good feelings well before then.

For me this works out particularly well because in certain positions K is hitting that same spot so that when we're ready to finish we can switch around into a position that allows both of us to finish. It also intensifies my orgasim to a point where I've been known to 'squirt' a little.....and did THAT ever come as a surprise!

You may also want to talk to her a little bit too about relaxing and not putting pressure on herself to either cum or to hold off. Let your experimentation happen as it will. This isn't always easy....letting go and just not concentrating at all, to remain only in the physical. It is achievable however with a little practice.

Just as an aside.....When you're accustomed to the BIG orgasim it's sometimes hard to recognize the smaller ones. For me it's the same feeling as when I'm just starting to peak.

Keep talking and trying new things, put no pressure on yourselves and let things go. Might be surprised with what happens.

[The Fuse]

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Originally Posted by K&JIntimates

Just as an aside.....When you're accustomed to the BIG orgasim it's sometimes hard to recognize the smaller ones. For me it's the same feeling as when I'm just starting to peak.

I know this is sort of off-topic, but just had to chime in and say how true this is. For a long time I didn't recognize the vaginal orgasms at all, because although they felt like "peaks" of sorts, and were very satisfying, it didn't compare to the "big" orgasm I have through oral.

Then when we started swinging I realized my "peaks" looked like the orgasms I saw other women having during intercourse. When I squirted during intercourse, I said "okay, I guess there's not much question now". I realize it is possible to squirt without having an orgasm, but I don't think that's what happened.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by CXXC

As for having multiple orgasms, here is another questin. Is the OP speaking of clitoral orgasms alone? If his wife is like my Ex wife, she would have ONE HUGE Clitoral orgasm and that would be it! It took forever to acheive but would shake the earth when it did. (Not that I saw too many of them as she was a cold hearted beast who used sex as a tool to obtain her wants and desires. Do I sound bitter?)

Vaginal orgasms are another animal entirely. Those can be quite numerous and last for long periods of time. Hitting that elusive G-spot can bring about great pleasure for her and that may be your answer to the multi.

Hope this helps you!

See now I am the opposite. I can have a clitoral orgasm in no time (if I use my fingers or a toy) and can then have another one within a few moments. But, a vaginal orgasm is extremely rare for me and when I do have them I'm pretty much done for the day.

To the OP - do you use toys together? During sex? I find that that is the only way I can really come without it taking an hour, and have a possibility of coming again.