Kissing: "active tongue" or "slow tongue"?

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by PB&J

I played with a guy who stuck his tongue in my nose.... again and again.. thought it was sexy... I don't play with him any more.

Spoomonkey

[PB&J]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Spoomonkey

I agree, Spoomonkey. NOT a turn-on for me. My reaction was pretty much

[Tia Vampire]

We both prefer slow tongue action and the occational little nibble on the in the bottom lip.

[truckerbuddy]

Slow and soft.. I will take my tongue and softly lick her lips. and you gotta nibble a little

[The Fuse]

Originally Posted by PB&J

I played with a guy who stuck his tongue in my nose.... again and again.. thought it was sexy... I don't play with him any more.

Well that is something I never expected to hear.

Ew! Did you tell him you didn't like it? What happened?

Anyone out there identify themselves as "active tongue" kissers?

[Alura]

I guess I never thought about it but I think my tongue is more active on nipples and in pussies than mouths. In the former the goal is to make things happen; in the latter the object is to lightly tease.

I will also say that softly sucking on the tongue is welcomed but is quite painful, and thus a turn-off, when sucked hard.

Mr. Alura

[PB&J]

Ew! Did you tell him you didn't like it? What happened?

Well, I was sort of taken aback, didn't say anything hoping that it wouldn't be repeated- it was- and there were enough other "chemistry issues" that what they had hoped would be a long-term "thing" was not going to be. So I didn't go into details with him, just said we didn't mesh very well. If only he'd done that before we'd gotten into bed together, that would have been a good thing. (as in we would NOT have gotten into bed together)

[sweet_tna]

I swear, I think I say this in darned near every post regarding preferences, but here I go again. For me, it's a mood thing. Sure, slow and sensual is definitely hot, especially if you're starting slow or someone's feeling a bit tentative. But fast and active is great when you're in a "Fuck. Me. Now." kinda' mood.

That said, I wouldn't be too keen on the pb-jar cleaner type, or the hyper Teletubby.

=)

[JustAskJulie]

Interesting comment on the kissing style coming as couples. I don't know if they evolve or perhaps that just what they like so they are attracted to the same.

I prefer somewhere in the middle. I hate "dead tongue". If you are going to stick it in my mouth you better be doing something with it, or I will suck it (whether you like it or not). And I hate over-active tongue (really do you need to lick the roof of my mouth?).

[LingerieKarla]

My Opinion: There isn't anything better that kissing a woman nice and slow.

Good question.

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Tonight we were at a house party. We were in the hot tub and I started making out with a guy I'd seen earlier and thought was attractive. He was quite cute... but he had what I'd consider an over-active tongue during kissing.

Does anyone else find that there's something of a divide between people who kiss slowly, use their tongues slowly, use their lips etc., and people who seem to stick it in there and wiggle it like a teletubby on five cups of coffee?

I'm just curious. It's obvious from my post which I prefer... but I'm only one person. I am wondering what others think.

Oh, and we tend to find that "over-active tongue" people tend to come in couples, which makes sense. Over time you get used to how your SO kisses, and each person's kissing style probably evolves to become more like theirs whether or not we realize it.

Comments?

[Willing29]

Since we just started swinging last year I had not kissed another woman other than my wonderful wife for a long long time. It's amazing how many different types of kissers there are out there. Some fast, some slow, some real good, but as many have said it depends on the moment. As for the nose licker that's just plain weird. My favorite is still my wife.

Rose here:.. it does depend on the mood.. but slow yet strong.. not mushy is the best...

Mo here: for me slow and sensual is always the best...

[CXXC]

As with all things related to sex, it depends entirely upon the mood and situation.

If Mrs. CXXC and I are in the mood for slow, passionate sex, we expect the playmate to match the tempo with us.

When we are in that "Take it/Give it to me like the slut you/I am!" mood, fast and furious works perfectly!

We too cannot suffer the dead tongue. As kissing is such an important part of the "Turn-on" for us, good kissing is rewarded by an equal ferver.

Sucking on the tongue is fun. Nibbling is also nice at times. Licking the roof of the mouth is not a good idea.

[lakelife69]

I like the slow and deliberate kiss. However the active kisser seems like she would be a great head giver.

[wisconsin]

Kissing is a most important part of foreplay for me.It starts my engines going. I would consider myself "active tongue'' person. but usually can adapt to the style of my partner if I can.

I go slow and passionate first and try to match to my playmate's style and rhythm then I would do little more and active and watch for response.
By our kissing I usually decide if I am going to play or not. However, couples experiences are different then singles.
When I play with single man I carefully choose my pray and may go around in circles flirting, mingling, kissing, dancing trying to pick the one I feel more chemistry with and won't settle for something less.
When we play with couples I am more willing to adapt to everybody and kissing isn't the priority as long as he is more less attractive and can get it hard.