Does anybody else find anal a turn-off?

[Miss Sunshine]

I enjoy a finger or a smaller toy while I am being licked, it heightens my orgasms when he does this, helps build them up and explode. Having a cock in there is ok but not my favorite thing.

[SheLovesTheSun]

I don't mind it, but I have to be the one to initiate(let him know I'm interested in it) it. I can see why people may find it a turn-off, but I can also see why people like it.

[BamaRide]

In all my years there was only one woman that I encountered that was really into anal... yeah I did it... was it good ? yeah... but it was because it was something she enjoyed...I have no desire for anal sex execpt to please the lady I'm with... if I'm into her and she is into it..I"m there!

BamaRide

[couplers]

Hi, Petra here. Bf occasionally wants anal, hubby never does, which is good because although they are about the same length hubby is much much thicker. It's like doing oral, the physical sensation for me isn't the primary reason I will do it, it's the psychological sensation of being a bit wierd and Red getting this different pleasure. The only way I can come this way is by stimulating my pussy too. What I do enjoy, however, is just a little fingering around my ass while fucking or getting licked. Just barely going inside.

[TheLorax]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Personally I don't understand the great attraction.

Its like perfectly good hole, completely wrong hole, take your pick.

As a side note, every profile I've seen where the woman 'loves' it and talks about it, tends to have below average penis sized males. Mind you its not many to compare to, we don't go looking for it, but it makes sense.

Well, I'm average sized length and thickness and for Jen I can be too big
sometimes for her regardless of which hole I'm in.

As far as feeling goes (when I'm on the giving end...) it feels a little different to me.

As far as the psychological aspects, when I am in the mood for it it's really hot. Otherwise I can take it or leave it. Jen often begs for it.

As far as my own ass goes, when I was playing regularly with toys I could accept a lot more size and vigorousness than I can when I haven't been playing for a while, so a lot of it is what you are used to. When you anticipate it being painful you tense up more which makes it more painful.

The upside is, if you enjoy it, great! If not, why bother? That's true of just about everything sexual

[Rackir]

My feelings are very similar to Lorax's. For giving, the feeling is slightly different and different is often fun. The psychological part (watching my wife tense, force her way to relaxation, have the "ooOOOOO" moment, and then start to get into it is really hot, and the visual I find to be a big turn on. None of it is so great though that (after the first time or two) I find any need to encourage her to try it if she doesn’t bring it up first (unless I'm just feeling really kinky that evening).

For receiving, I've had it be really bad, and I've had it be "OH MY FUCKING GAWD" good. It's definitely one where the more you do it, the more likilly it is to be good. So there are definitely time when I want a bit of hard anal penetration (not counting tongues, cause that ALWAYS feels amazing!), but more often than not I can pass with ease. When I am in the mood for it though, I have to say it does some really amazing things to my orgasms (guys if you haven’t tried it, give it a shot, it can be great). Certainly not a turn off though.

[SecretAsianMan]

I've had a few partners who really REALLY enjoy anal sex and it's always a turn on to pleasure a partner in a way that they seriously enjoy.

If my partner doesn't enjoy it - it's not something I'd pressure her to do. (But I've been known to play with her ass from time to time - fingers, tongues & such)

[ConnieJim]

Originally Posted by Tadahiko

My wife, our lover and I have rarely had anal sex, and never have it anymore. It's just not appealing to any of us. I am fond of saying, why fuck an asshole when you've got an orifice custom-made for fucking three inches away? From reading this forum, I think we must be the only three people in the world that don't enjoy anal?

My Connie is not into it.I don't really get the alure.Years ago I dated a girl who loved it.Gave her sensations that nothing else did.I think the turn on is it is such a taboo.I'm with you.A sensous mouth,womans touch,and that holy place called vagina.All I will ever need.

[mixtupcpl]

For Mrs Mix its a HELL NO!!!!! (thats a quote) For me it isnt a turn-off, but isnt a turn-on either. Anything which reduces time spent inside a vagina seems dubious to me

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

For Mrs Mix its a HELL NO!!!!! (thats a quote) For me it isnt a turn-off, but isnt a turn-on either. Anything which reduces time spent inside a vagina seems dubious to me

Typical male. One track mind. Get born, spend the rest of your life trying to get back in.


For my wife, anal isn't her cup of tea, but she's occasionally willing. Before me, the only time she had attempted it was a fumbling effort on the part of a young man who tried it without any lube whatsoever. Needless to say, it didn't go well and my wife maps anal with that experience.

She and I have done anal a few times, but it was pleasurable (and then only slightly, briefly) just once. However, there's two other aspects to this. First, when we've used toys on her anally, she's often enjoyed it. I think she can and would enjoy anal sex except... Second, while I'm average in length, I'm top 10% in girth. Taking me anally is hard on her. I think if she were to have anal sex with a man of average girth (or even less) she'd enjoy it. Over time, I think she'd develop a strong liking for it. With toys, it really can accent things for her.

For my part, I far prefer vaginal sex over anal sex. But, anal sex offers a taboo aspect and it is also a different feeling, often tighter than vaginal sex. An old girlfriend of mine and I had anal sex a few times, and she enjoyed it. It was always a good experience with her, and we both came away very satisfied from it. I'd like to have that with my wife, but it's her decision and I would never presume to pressure her.

[Rackir]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

I think if she were to have anal sex with a man of average girth (or even less) she'd enjoy it. Over time, I think she'd develop a strong liking for it.

Sir, my just slightlly below average penis is at your disposal for this worthy endevor .

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Rackir

Sir, my just slightlly below average penis is at your disposal for this worthy endevor .

Get thou to Indiana post haste, or I shall be forced to put my wife on a plane west!

[TheLorax]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

Get thou to Indiana post haste, or I shall be forced to put my wife on a plane west!

Horace Greely was incompletely quoted.

He said "Go west, young man! But wetuwn to my woom later!"

[Rackir]

Originally Posted by TheLorax

Horace Greely was incompletely quoted.

He said "Go west, young man! But wetuwn to my woom later!"

Literature Nazi

[Mrsxxxboxy]

You guys all crack me up! It's a little difficult to concentrate on exactly what I want to share while sitting here watching Nickelodeon with my 3 year old practically in my lap...

I've read that some say HELL NO to this subject some say could take it or leave it, it's too painful, etc. All of these things are nothing new to me. I'm a 38 yo mother of 2 (girls 3 & 5) and have felt/thought all of these things. Mrxxxboxy and I have been married 15+ years and early in our sex play he shared with me that it was a turn-on for him so naturally I was willing to try. He started out very slow and gentle with a thumb while doing it doggie style and because that position was really hot for me, I really enjoyed it.

Over the years, we've done more and more, one finger while being licked, two fingers (OMG the orgasms are incredible) and the occasional "fuck my ass" cuz I'm so hot! Now mrxxxboxy is average length and above average girth (yum) so needless to say anal had to be a gradual thing. I had to learn to relax which isn't so easy with that orafice, but if you can get past the first inch it's easier. After a while of consistently increased anal activity it has become something I CRAVE. The orgasms I've had while being anally stimulated are incredible. One night recently, I came home from work and told him to fuck my ass in the kitchen while I was doing dishes. It didn't take much effort and we ended up in bed doing nothing but that and me diddling my clit (we had to move the action upstairs as I couldn't stand any longer).

There are times when my vagina is so wet that I really didn't feel much. At that point I ask for anal penetration (well begging is asking with emotion). I can feel every inch and it feels so hot. Sometimes I use a dildo or fingers to stimulate my clit and vagina and sometimes I just want it in the ass! I don't think I'm far from a DP, I can imagine the sensation will be incredible. So far sex with others hasn't included anal (we've really only had one play date) but for the time being we are just reserving that for us. I can however see trying it with someone I trust to be gentle and possibly be willing to do a DP with the Mr.

Now as far as giving, we just recently discovered that mrxxxboxy LOVES a finger or two massaging his prostate while I suck his cock. Infact I love it so much I have nearly orgasmed while doing this to him

When it comes right down to it anal sex/anal play can be FABULOUS! Just relax and take it slow and gentle. It can really add a new spice to your sex play!