What is the difference between making love & having sex? - Page 3

**Alura** · 03-14-2009, 08:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TNT

Emotion.

I'm not for sure when/where the defining point is/would be...I think maybe it's when you realize that what you share with a particular person, your bond, your emotions, transcends the physical act of sex and with that realization there's a certain freeing of soul.

Teresa

And that, Teresa, is where the magic enters. Thank you!

Mr. Alura

Cpl2share · 03-15-2009, 08:39 AM

For us sex and "making love" rarely combine. We are so deeply in love that every touch and look is part of our lovemaking. Sex is just that. We often have sex just because it is Saturday night. On occasion we do have sex to feel closer, or because we feel very close. But it is not usually in any way attached to love. We love each other with or without sex. Probably the biggest difference between sex (just us) and sex with others would be taking one for the team. Neither one of us will take one for the team in a swinging situation. We will "put out" to cheer the other one up etc. Usually Mrs. Cpl will give me some if I am in an extremely bad mood just to "level" me out. She doesn't "want" sex, but knows that I get in a better mood after getting laid, so she takes one for the team (from me). That could be considered making love I guess.

sweet_tna · 03-15-2009, 09:46 AM

Thank you for such a beautiful post, Mr. Alura. It brought tears to my eyes. I'm truly sorry for your loss, but am happy that you've been so blessed to have shared such a love with Mrs. Alura.

Hugs,

Jen =)

it'sso · 03-22-2009, 05:20 PM

"making love" is what your wife does when you are fucking her.
(sorry, I couldn't resist)

JustMrJ · 03-23-2009, 12:39 AM

I believe Mr. Alura said it best. It's a connection that goes beyond the physical. I have that with Mrs. J... We connect in a way that is beyond hot, sweaty, passionate sex.

Yes, we enjoy fucking... I don't think we would be participating in this LifeStyle if we didn't. But we find that 'making love' is being able to share that 'beyond physical' connection while being physical. The emotion of the moment... getting lost in one another. Whatever you care to call it, it's MORE than sex.

Mr. Alura... a big *HUG* to you... I seem to have leaky eyes today.

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03-15-2009, 08:39 AM	#32 (permalink)
Cpl2share Is it too cold for beer? Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 344 Location: Way up north. Status: Couple	Re: What is the difference between making love & having sex? For us sex and "making love" rarely combine. We are so deeply in love that every touch and look is part of our lovemaking. Sex is just that. We often have sex just because it is Saturday night. On occasion we do have sex to feel closer, or because we feel very close. But it is not usually in any way attached to love. We love each other with or without sex. Probably the biggest difference between sex (just us) and sex with others would be taking one for the team. Neither one of us will take one for the team in a swinging situation. We will "put out" to cheer the other one up etc. Usually Mrs. Cpl will give me some if I am in an extremely bad mood just to "level" me out. She doesn't "want" sex, but knows that I get in a better mood after getting laid, so she takes one for the team (from me). That could be considered making love I guess.

03-15-2009, 09:46 AM	#33 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 4,221 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet Swing Lifestyle Name:Sweet_tna	Re: What is the difference between making love & having sex? Thank you for such a beautiful post, Mr. Alura. It brought tears to my eyes. I'm truly sorry for your loss, but am happy that you've been so blessed to have shared such a love with Mrs. Alura. Hugs, Jen =)
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03-22-2009, 05:20 PM	#34 (permalink)
it'sso Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 263 Location: Lakewood, Ohio Status: married male	Re: What is the difference between making love & having sex? "making love" is what your wife does when you are fucking her. (sorry, I couldn't resist)

03-23-2009, 12:39 AM	#35 (permalink)
JustMrJ Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 491 Location: San Mateo, CA Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:JustMrandMrsJ	Re: What is the difference between making love & having sex? I believe Mr. Alura said it best. It's a connection that goes beyond the physical. I have that with Mrs. J... We connect in a way that is beyond hot, sweaty, passionate sex. Yes, we enjoy fucking... I don't think we would be participating in this LifeStyle if we didn't. But we find that 'making love' is being able to share that 'beyond physical' connection while being physical. The emotion of the moment... getting lost in one another. Whatever you care to call it, it's MORE than sex. Mr. Alura... a big HUG to you... I seem to have leaky eyes today.
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