What is the difference between making love & having sex?

[I'm his]

I think that is the most beautiful thing I've every read. To have that kind of love in your lives is amazing and inspiring. Your words honor the love that the two of you shared.

[athenagirl]

What a magnificent post... you and Mrs. Alura were truly blessed to have had each other. I'm sorry for your loss, but I know that you will always have her love in your heart. Athenagirl

[I'm her's]

Alura, thank you so much for sharing something to dear to you. I know it's hard, even though I do not know you or her...I feel your love and for that, I thank you. *sniffle*

[Tia Vampire]

Mr. Alura, that was one of the most beautiful and heatfelt post I have ever read. Sorry for your loss. I also felt the love and I agree 100% that there is a big difference in love making and just sex. Just sex you can have with anybody, but love making is shared with someone you truely love.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by sexylady1970

Amazing post Alura. I'm not sure if anything else can be said after that. We hope you find all that you are looking for.

Thank you, Sexy Lady! I'm not really looking for anything. I am trying to look to the future but my 29 years with Laura will sustain my needs at least for the rest of this lifetime.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Alura,

Thank you for sharing. I feel like you've given me something.

It is nice to write a post in which someone finds meaning, The Fuse. The sharing was at least as theraputic for me as for anyone else. Thank you!

[Alura]

Originally Posted by curioussnk

Yes, Alura, that was a great read. And i can see your relationship and love in your words.

How beautiful is it that 2 people can be together so completely that in the final moments of that relationship those topics can be discussed and with such passion

Thank you for sharing!

Thank you, Curioussnk. On our second date, Laura and I agreed that we would never become angry at any question that was asked and that we would always try to answer completely. We never had a fear to talk about anything.

Although it may sound strange, facing death with her was one of the most rewarding experiences of our marriage.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by I'm his

I think that is the most beautiful thing I've every read. To have that kind of love in your lives is amazing and inspiring. Your words honor the love that the two of you shared.

Thank you, I'm his! I'm pleased with the way the post turned out but the truth is that words can never express what we had together.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by athenagirl

What a magnificent post... you and Mrs. Alura were truly blessed to have had each other. I'm sorry for your loss, but I know that you will always have her love in your heart. Athenagirl

Thank you, Athenagirl. When I met Laura I'd not had a date in over a year. All I did was work, eat and sleep. I had totally given up on ever finding a woman with whom I could communicate to the degree I dreamed. She turned out to be so much more.

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by I'm her's

Alura, thank you so much for sharing something to dear to you. I know it's hard, even though I do not know you or her...I feel your love and for that, I thank you. *sniffle*

Thank you, I'm hers. I'm truly a lucky man!

Mr. Alura

[Alura]

Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

Mr. Alura, that was one of the most beautiful and heatfelt post I have ever read. Sorry for your loss. I also felt the love and I agree 100% that there is a big difference in love making and just sex. Just sex you can have with anybody, but love making is shared with someone you truely love.

Thank you, Tia Vampire. I couldn't agree more.

Mr. Alura

[turnuptheheat]

Al, That was great to read. I know you have experienced much in your life with and before Laura.
Now, I pray for you to regain peace and comfort for many years and in all you do.
After reading that, I am more sorry I could not be the Celebration than I was before....C

[Alura]

Originally Posted by turnuptheheat

Al, That was great to read. I know you have experienced much in your life with and before Laura.
Now, I pray for you to regain peace and comfort for many years and in all you do.
After reading that, I am more sorry I could not be the Celebration than I was before....C

Thank you, C. We missed you and your beautiful wife at Laura's party. 104 attendees were not enough. We needed two more. The memory of Laura and T cheering in harmony at the Jenks championship football game is as precious to me as the memory of you and John singing "Danny Boy." I'm grateful for the friendship you've given me.

Mr. Alura

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by IvoryTowers

Mr. Ivory here. I dislike the use of the term "making love." There's an air of puritanism in the way we tend to invent euphemisms to attempt to "elevate" copulation into a grand, metaphysical event. The things in my relationship with Mrs. Ivory that I think help to "make" our love are our shared core values, our companionship, our world views, our way of making each other laugh, etc. To the extent that anything can be said to "make" love, I'd say these things do.

Sex is something we do for fun (whether with just each other or with playmates) and because it feels great. Yes, it can deepen our emotional connection to one another, and yes, it can sometimes be very "loving," tender, and deeply fulfilling. But really most of the time it's just sex. It's pleasurable, and it nourishes us. We wouldn't give it up for the world. But we prefer not to pretend it's magical either.

I was very pleased and surprised to read this, mainly because most of what you say is how I feel and I've always felt I must be an oddball.

The only thing I have a different feeling about is the term "making love." I don't mind using the term because I do so only to describe playful fun-loving sex. But I understand the genuine feeling by some to elevate that term to mean a blessed event by those in love. And obviously for many couples, sex is a time when they most feel their love is shared.

For me and MrLM, we have felt our greatest momemts of love when we are not having sex. We feel most in love when we console each other, help each other see things from a new perspective, are creative together, touch, caress, hold, and kiss.

Making love comes every day and it most often doesn't include sex.

LM

Edit: I realized I kind of unsaid what I said without realizing it. LOL Rather than erase it I'll explain that the last line "Making love comes every day and it most often doesn't include sex" was written in an attempt to use the terms in the title and to express that love making doesn't have to do with sex...at least it doesn't for us.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

In YOUR opinion, what is the difference between making love and having sex?

Emotion.

Making love goes beyond a physical act. The difference between what Ted and I share together when we have sex with each other and what we share when we have sex with someone else, is a universe apart. The mechanics (the physical act) are the same but, it’s the emotion that is different.

Making love is the sum of all the good and bad, big and little moments we share and have shared throughout our time together. It can’t be duplicated with anyone else because those moments haven’t been shared with anyone else...they are unique only to us. It’s the sharing of that special bond that changes the physical act of sex into making love...it doesn’t matter if we’re just fucking, if we’re just having sex or if it’s the slow, sensual touching, tasting and kissing that one would associate with when they think of the difference between sex/fucking and making love, the emotion makes it all different.

I do think it’s magic to a degree. I’ve fucked and had sex with many, many men and to this day it’s never been the same with them as it is with Ted. If that’s not magic to a degree, I don’t know what is.

At what point does one become the other?

I'm not for sure when/where the defining point is/would be...I think maybe it's when you realize that what you share with a particular person, your bond, your emotions, transcends the physical act of sex and with that realization there's a certain freeing of soul.

Teresa