Age and its effect on erections

[Cpl2share]

I am 40, so at just the right age to see the decline of western civilization. Last night I got hard and went soft 4 times while waiting for Mrs. Cpl to get into bed. She knows how to play me. As both of us are fixed, I am not used to condoms. That really is the biggest downer (pun fully intended) for me. I did discover that there is a difference in size of condoms. Apparently there is a small size, and gracious hosts often place these in the bowl at a party. I now check the size before trying to put one on. If it is too small, the erection goes away and then (all in my mind) I am unable to get back up. Other than that, so far I have nto found that I have any troubles as I get older.

[VANudistcpl]

As the male half (49) I haven't really seen any problems. I get hard with a good kiss, when the Mrs. dresses up and when we go out to play.

Just this past weekend we visited our favorite club and had a very good time, not to mention how long we stayed in the play areas.

[willyoats]

I went from 5 times a week with screaming good orgasms to maybe twice a week with so-so orgasms in the past 6 years.

Part of that is probably due to the enlarged prostate, the drugs that were prescribed to control the problem, and the surgery tha was done as a last resort.

Part of that is surely due to the aging process. It's too bad, but I will not enrich the chemical companies to "solve" this "problem." I still get enough sex with (at the present) three partners so that I am hardly climbing the walls.

Guys, as you are creeping up on 70, don't be too surprised at a little slow-down.

[celtic239]

When I was a kid I couldn't walk past a copy of National Geographic without getting a hard on. I am in my fifty's and have no problem admitting that I use the little blue pill.

[femnewb4u2]

Originally Posted by TNT

To answer your question...I really don't know. I've never expected a man to get hard by just looking at me and to this day, I'm still surprised when it happens. In fact, there are times I wish they wouldn't get hard so quick...I do so enjoy sucking on a soft dick. It's something I rarely get to do or for the length of time I want to do it.

Ted and I will play a game of me sucking him while he's soft and once he starts getting hard I quit and I refuse to start again until he's soft again...the game never lasts very long . I've found that a man trying to go soft is just as difficult, if not more so sometimes, than trying to get hard. Oh well, it is fun while it lasts.

Teresa

Ditto with TNT

There is sensuality and enjoyment in bringing a man to full erection, for me. Sometimes the longer it takes the more erotic. I too would never expect a man to come to attention just because he saw me. Not at 21. Not at 35. And now. The thought has never occured to me. And have learned that an erection is not a measurement of one's desire to be sexual with me. After all, he could have just seen a great movie!

[crazinred]

Well 46 here and suffer ED. I can't really say when it set in as I had about a 5 year dry spell (sexually)and during that time things in my body changed. When myself and Red got back together I realized things just weren't right. Before hand just about anything got me hard and now nothing gets me hard short of a shot. But I sure do still have the desire. During the 5 year dry spell I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and blood pressure problems. Also in this time lots of stress from work and personal life. I attribute all this to the death of my erection. As for relationship to age it is more common for these problems to occur with middle age even though they are possible with all ages.

[it'sso]

Originally Posted by crazinred

Well 46 here and suffer ED. I can't really say when it set in as I had about a 5 year dry spell (sexually)and during that time things in my body changed. When myself and Red got back together I realized things just weren't right. Before hand just about anything got me hard and now nothing gets me hard short of a shot. But I sure do still have the desire. During the 5 year dry spell I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and blood pressure problems. Also in this time lots of stress from work and personal life. I attribute all this to the death of my erection. As for relationship to age it is more common for these problems to occur with middle age even though they are possible with all ages.

I don't know what you are taking for the high blood pressure, but I take Diovan twice a day and I get hard if the wind blows by my little friend.

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Do guys as they get older become more like us women and actually require a little more effort? Why do we as women look at men and expect that they should just get hard at the sight of us? I've seen this attitude of women mentioned many times in other threads - the women who think that the guy should be hard just because she's there. Why do we expect more effort out of them than we are willing to give ?

Yes, more effort is required. But the cause which goodtimes describes, becoming accustomed to seeing women naked, does not seem to be a factor in my case. My "cause" is my number of years. When I was in my teens, I had an erection morning, noon and night. No stimulation had to be present. When I was forty, I had come to that blessed period in my life when I could walk into the shower in the fitness center and not be embarrassed with a boner-on-display. At my present age, it works on-demand but I have to give it an hour or more for a repeat performance. We know a coupe many years older than we. Both have equipment that works perfectly. This has give me hope.

[crazinred]

Originally Posted by it's so

I don't know what you are taking for the high blood pressure, but I take Diovan twice a day and I get hard if the wind blows by my little friend.

I am on athenolol and from what I have researched it is high on the list of meds know to cause ED and that along with Diabetes seems to have done it to me. My family Doc does not seem interested in changing it at this time. and my urologist says they don't diag the cause of ED just what it takes to get around it. So now I use injections of trimix and it works but still getting the doseage amount worked out.

[Lascivious L&L]

There is such a difference between individuals! I've been swinging since my twenties. Been a nudist since then also. Erections didn't come from the sight of nude females then nor does it now. Erotic intent is what has always caused erections for me, when in a sexual situation with another or more than one other. As a teen, I'd get erections from looking, but those weren't sexual situations.

Now nearing 60 I've seen so many naked women that expecting an erection from sight alone seems so juvenile. But the sex itself is so much smoother, less nervous, more confident, and more connected than when I was young. To even equate sex with an erection seems silly now. Erections are a wonderful part of sex, but they are not the be all or end all.

If the arousal, the comfort, and the connection are there, erections tend to be no problem at all. With my wife, no problem. With someone new, it takes time to create the space of comfort, arousal, and connection. Some people don't need the big three. I always have needed it, even when 20.

[starryeyes]

Originally Posted by good times

So yea, I think as a guy gets older, and also gets more experienced as a swinger, it may take a little more effort. But then again, slowing down a bit can also allow one to better enjoy the experience.

It takes hubby a bit longer to get the engine warmed up and ready for take off. During that time there is so much more going on other than the slam bam thank you ma'am. I believe it has helped us really extend our playtime. When he does achieve a diamond cutter.....

The one thing we have noticed is a little longer refractory time... but once again, there are plenty of things to do during this time.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by Cpl2share

I am 40, so at just the right age to see the decline of western civilization. Last night I got hard and went soft 4 times while waiting for Mrs. Cpl to get into bed. She knows how to play me. As both of us are fixed, I am not used to condoms. That really is the biggest downer (pun fully intended) for me. I did discover that there is a difference in size of condoms. Apparently there is a small size, and gracious hosts often place these in the bowl at a party. I now check the size before trying to put one on. If it is too small, the erection goes away and then (all in my mind) I am unable to get back up. Other than that, so far I have nto found that I have any troubles as I get older.

One of our 'bad' swinger stories involved a couple where the guy had a REALLY small penis.

We used their condoms (unaware of his issue) and between the woman a horrible sex partner, and the ultra tight condom I really had to work to keep Mr. Happy happy.

[The Fuse]

Mr. Fuse is 43. We have sex a bit less often than we did in our 20's, but he is always so hard that he leaves me much more sore than others, even if they have unusually large cocks. He never needs any direct stimulation beforehand, either. We have plenty of foreplay, but he never needs any stroking. Makes him a good swing partner because he almost never has any problem getting it up. When I'm with other guys I have to remind myself that most are different than that.

I consider myself and him lucky. I figure as long as he stays healthy, he will be relatively unaffected by performance problems for a lot longer in life than most men.

[fun4Ds]

The sight of a woman starts the wood, her smell intensifies things, her voice or what she says or sounds she makes, her actions... could make or break the deal.

If every things good, no problems. (Chemistry ?)

If not, I will touch myself a little, secretly.

If we are still not getting the necessary wood, again secretly, I will be thinking the most nastiest, deviate, slutty thoughts about you. I mean that in a good way.... I does seem to make hard, harder, even at best.

Still no wood ?

Well let me start the laughter, We'll do something else for a while and try later if ya still want to.... Deal ?

Been that way since a youth, still that way at 48.

And yes I have a prescription for Viagra. Although not always needed, I like the darn things, and wish I had them in my younger days also.

[Tadahiko]

I'm 40. The site of a naked woman can still make me hard. It doesn't always, but it can. Once the weather heats up, Kari is ordinarily topless (at least, but sometimes completely nude) at home most summer evenings from before dinner until bedtime. But all she has to do is bend over the right way or pose in the right light and I can feel myself rise. Anna rarely goes around naked, but she's braless in a low-cut top, that can at least get my shaft to tingle.

That being said, I used to enjoy walking around with a rock-hard shaft, even without the immediate prospect of sexual activity. As a younger man, I could manage that for an extended period with just some female flesh to stare at and a few well-timed yanks on my crank every few minutes. Now, it doesn't stay up unless I am actively involved in something sexual that provides direct, constant stimulation. I'd love to go back to having a raging hard-on whenever I wanted, as long as I wanted. It ain't gonna happen, although I recently started taking Cialis regularly, and it does allow you to fit more erections into your day, even if they don't last forever between servicing.