Difficulty cumming during oral - male

[tittietwister]

Any other guys out there have a really hard time getting off from oral stimulation? I have no problems cumming vaginally or with a hand but it takes me a really long time to get there through oral stimulation. It creates some uneasy moments when the women seem to think it should happen quickly.

Any ideas on how to improve?

[BiloxiCouple]

Beats me...

[toycple]

Originally Posted by tittietwister

Any other guys out there have a really hard time getting off from oral stimulation? I have no problems cumming vaginally or with a hand but it takes me a really long time to get there through oral stimulation. It creates some uneasy moments when the women seem to think it should happen quickly.

Any ideas on how to improve?

I do that too. I can count on one hand the number of times I have been able to cum from oral. I think for me it is mostly a mental thing.

[fun4Ds]

Do you mean with your wife, playmates or both ?

[bryanlee]

I myself do not cum easily with oral. I have gotten the "are you there yet" look on several occasions. My g/f is able to get me "there" faster than any other woman i have been with. Another thing is if i have already cum once, I will never cum orally. Your jaw will fall off before it happens, lol. It feels great and I love it, but I won't cum.

Maybe you and your lady should do some experimenting to see if there is a more efficient method to get you there. If you figure our what works for you then you can convey that to you other partners.

Good Luck!

[ownerspet]

For me when I was younger, it took a while at times. In the clubs, sometimes if I'm distracted by conversations around, it might be problematic. So my only advice is be sure that you aren't distracted by unrelated surroundings such as other conversations.

[tittietwister]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Do you mean with your wife, playmates or both ?

Both.

[fun4Ds]

I think for me If I don't get off, its because of one or two things.
1. Oh no, if I get off that might be the end of play. That in its self, could hold me off.
2. The olé myth that all women don't like it. Its gross. Don't cum in my mouth. "YUCK". We have been mislead with most female conversations throughout our lives.
Some women however do like it... Well, Mrs fun for one.

I think that either of these two things cause some sort of mental block. I know I love getting off from a blow job. I know Mrs. Fun enjoys that also. She would be the first to tell ya with a sexy look "I want you to come " Her actually saying that, with sex in her tone can hurry the moment.

Can you try that ? Having your wife talking nasty to you for the climax. Moans and slurping sounds do wonders also.

The thing is, with Mrs.fun its o.k. if I get off. There are times she offers a blow job if we are in a hurry. You know, the quickie. I don't know how to put it diligently but....

"My wife sucks cock like a porno slut, And I love her to death for it". I just don't know how els to put it.

Its about knowing thats what my partner wants. She wants the cum, she wants me or us to get off. Thats what determines how fast. How bad she wants that. There again this is from talking about what I/we want. Good communication !! With new swing partners so far, I just hope for the best. I like getting a blow job for arousal but, we have two single females we play with that have been on our page so to speak. I let them actually control the situation. If they suck me off like BAM, they know I need brought back in a few. Nasty talk blows me away totally and the girls know it.

A week ago we played with a single male. One of our intentions was, Mrs.fun wanted to suck us both off. Like in a porno movie. Her on her knees with us standing to each side of her, while she was going back and forth on us. Honestly, we wanted to film it. Guess who forgot the dang camera though. Getting off wasn't the problem, because she wanted it. She let me know that. End of problem.

Although the play happened I think two guys cumming simultaneously would be tricky, looking back now. But thats a different topic.

[twohots4u2]

From our experiences, we don't think that is unusual. I have known only one woman who could get me off orally every time. She had a technique with her tongue on my frendum that just sent me quickly through the roof. Only a few others have been able to make me cum with oral. They usually have to give oral, then hand, then oral, then hand until I cum.

On the other hand (no pun intended) my gal, Tina, is the only woman who can get me off quickly with her hand. But, she has a technique seems to work quickly with almost every guy we have been with that she finished off with her "magic" hands.

[Vjklander]

With vaginal sex or masturbation there is a lot of 'pressure contact' on the whole penis, with oral sex there generally is only at the lips or deep in the throat. So deep throating typically will result in quicker orgasms. Also, when the male is directing the activity he knows how to build to an orgasm, whereas the female will often redirect the buildup away from climax. That can be a + or a - depending on what she is trying to do of course, but if she is trying to get him off it delays orgasm.
It helps a lot if the female really enjoys giving head. If she doesn't and is just doing it to please the man they both will know it and performance suffers. The female needs to be 100% tuned into the man. She has to be aware of his responses to her ministrations. There is nothing guaranteed here.
Try sucking in so the sides of the cheeks clench on the penis. If you have a good angle, press the penis against the roof of your mouth with your tongue. This gives a lot of pressure and feels great, but risks scraping the penis with your upper teeth if the angle is not up and in.
Another alternative is to use the hand(s) to stroke the shaft of the penis and just suckle the head. This also feels fantastic and the stroking can be done by the woman or the man himself. The man can also just masturbate until he is on the brink of coming and then the woman can suck him through his orgasm.
It helps tremendously if the woman swallows. The difference in sensation is so great, any more, I don't even bother if a woman doesn't swallow.
If you really really want to give mind blowing head, locate your local BDSM group and sign up for a class on fellatio given by a gay guy. Believe me, you will not be disappointed.

[Chris&Amelia]

Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple

Beats me...

Yeah, that helps at times.

I generally do not get off during oral. It is very rare when I do so, and the lady must be pretty darn skilled (and/or know how to press my buttons) to make me come.

This is fairly common with guys. It's just not you.

Even with those super-rare women who can make me come with their mouths, I usually will end up "gently thrusting" in and out. It seems to make it easier for me to get off when I have some hip movement going. Also, if the lady is using her hand in addition to her mouth, that really helps too.

[willyoats]

I'm slower with oral than any other contact. The first partner I had besides my wife gave me the best blow job I ever had, and I came in about the same time as with intercourse.

I've done it 3 times since then with my wife, but she gags when I cum, so we don't do it any more.

A few months ago, another woman did oral on me for a very long time without my cumming. However, part of that problem was that her lower teeth were rubbing on me, and it was a bit uncomfortable. We finished off with intercourse, but I was sore for three days after from the oral part of our lovemaking. On previous occasions, she had sucked me for a little bit just as part of foreplay but not trying to get me off. This time she was trying to get me off, but it didn't work. Even so, I have to say it was really fun. I'll see her again in a couple of months, and we will have some more oral play, I'm sure. She loves it and so do I.

[cplnuswing]

Originally Posted by Chris&Amelia

I generally do not get off during oral. It is very rare when I do so, and the lady must be pretty darn skilled (and/or know how to press my buttons) to make me come.

This is fairly common with guys. It's just not you.

Count me in with the fairly common group. I like it, no doubt about that, but it's a rare occasion that it takes me all the way.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by tittietwister

Any other guys out there have a really hard time getting off from oral stimulation? I have no problems cumming vaginally or with a hand but it takes me a really long time to get there through oral stimulation. It creates some uneasy moments when the women seem to think it should happen quickly.

Any ideas on how to improve?

Let me ask a question that most might not have considered..

Have you ever had a previous lover, tell you NOT to cum in her mouth.. This very thing the stigma of are they cool with taking/getting it? do they want it? are they gonna freak?

Mental blocks are the quickest to stumble over.. And often we re trip on the same ones..

Everyone here has said/posted for the most part that their own lover, can bring them off the quickest.. would that be because over the course of time that you have learned they are ok with it/want it.. And because of that you can relax and let go?

With a new playmate its easy to worry about what you dont know.. So.. since they have their mouth full, ask simple questions they can answer Mmm Hmm or Uh Umm ..

Simplest: God thats good, do you want me to cum?... depending on the answer.. Want me to tell you when I am close?

All the pressure is off, relax and go with it..

And as far as them not being able to bring you off with their mouth.. In my personal experience I had one person, a woman that i went out with years before meeting the Mrs.. who really had NO CLUE when it came to giving a blow job.. and even with her included, even at its worst... its still pretty good..

Oh and points are awarded for enthusiasm

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by tittietwister

Any other guys out there have a really hard time getting off from oral stimulation? I have no problems cumming vaginally or with a hand but it takes me a really long time to get there through oral stimulation. It creates some uneasy moments when the women seem to think it should happen quickly.

Any ideas on how to improve?

I'm the same way. I rarely, if only a few times in my life, cum through oral sex. Yet I have no problem cumming through vaginal sex or other methods. In fact, it's why I like oral sex so much... I get much more stimulation time out of it. I just look at it that way. No need to change anything.