How much do you tell your kids about sex.

[realcplub2]

The concept of kids having sex has been previlant since there were kids.. so the debate of how young some are, when they start is always a hot button issue..

My wife and I are both 43 now, and way back in the swingin 70's and early 80's it seemed like all of our friends were having it, except us.. She lost her virginity at teh tender age of 17, and because of the draconian parents at home was soon pregnant, with her/our oldest.. and had him at 18. I on the other hand was a little ealier at the age of 16.

Now I am sure we can all remember the "bad girl" who got knocked up in high school. there is usually always one.. and that was 30 years ago..

Jump ahead to today, before we moved south, the small town we lived in had actually started basic education in the 2nd and 3rd grade.. Here it started in the first grade.. and yes here it was absentance based.. But they also had at there hands a great tool that really needs to be expanded upon..

Here they have electronic dolls to simulate babies.. and they give them to 6th graders to care for, for 3 days.. ( thats the reason I said it needs to be expanded.. have them care for the little sucker for 2 weeks and see how quick they want to play Mommy and Daddy for real ) But it does open the door for the "talk" and we had it with both of the ones still at home at the age of 11.. as puberty was hitting.. explained yes its a wonderful feeling, but its not without risks, explained that, self love isnt abuse, but needs to be done in private. explained the whole concept of being in charge of thier own bodies, and what happens to them.. they knew at the end of the school program and the talk, where we stood on the subject.. what the possible consequents there are.. we told them about the choice of BC and to never allow someone else to take control of that for them. explained to the daughter, when she was ready we would get them.. the youngest, already has his insurance policy in his backpack, and one in the wallet. He is the worry..lol

The promicutity of youth has been blamed on everything under the sun, from soda pop to music, and i say music because the jitterbug was blamed.. depends on the times..

So, to answer the OP question, TV and moreover swingtowns is just the latest target.

[CallMeLoki]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

The promicutity of youth has been blamed on everything under the sun, from soda pop to music, and i say music because the jitterbug was blamed.. depends on the times..

Absolutely agreed! Teenagers have been having sex for centuries before soda and the Jitterbug existed. It's programmed into our instincts, there's no external cause for it that can be regulated!

I actually think it's a really good idea to teach our kids that there IS a difference between love and lust. How many couples do you see that got married because of lust rather than love, and are miserable after the lust fades? Or, how many folks convinced themselves that they "loved" someone because they had to justify lusting after the person? It really seems to me that understanding the difference would lead to better relationship decisions at a younger age. Thoughts on this?

I am so lucky that I got this right myself. (And I think that maybe I've "sort of" understood the difference between love and lust all along, just never understood exactly how to articulate it.) I still lust after my wife, but I also respect, admire, and just completely adore her for the person that she is. I wouldn't have married her if both of these were not true, and both of these are still true after 12 years of marriage and plenty of rough spots.

Loki

[Malachista]

A local Newspapper had an article today about the city thinking about starting sex ed with 7 year olds rather then with 10.
They reason that with everything being so sexualised these days the kids need honest answers sooner then they may get it at home.
When asked if this wasn't too much for the kids to handle it, the answer was that they don't think that will be a problem, as long as the teachers don't show them hard core porn.
(well, there was this case with that pregnant 9 year old a few months ago - I know I hit puberty in that age as well, but it is still scarry to think about them actually acting on their hormones in that age)