vaginal O's

[wlhotwife]

Newbie Alert Here!
We haven't played yet, (getting close, think we found the right couple!) and I have only had sex with my husband.
I've never had an orgasm during intercourse, and need a lot of dedicated clitoral stimulation to come. Lucky for me, Mr. WL loves eating and playing with my pussy. I love intercourse, and feel like I've gotten very close many times, but I just can't make it over the edge. We've tried every position we can think of, and even used a vibrator on my clit while fucking, but it just hasn't happened.
Mr. WL is average sized, and we wonder if a different sized or shaped penis (or different technique) will make a difference, and I might finally experience a vaginal orgasm.
Anybody have any experience with this? It certainly isn't the holy grail for us, as I am very satisfied with Mr. WL the way things are. But it would certainly be a nice perk if it happens.

[sweet_tna]

First off, hello and http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...tml#post329356

Second, you're not alone. For the longest time I wasn't able to have an orgasm through intercourse, either. I have since learned that this is only possible for me if:

1) I've already had clitoral and/or g-spot orgasms prior to penetration
2) My g-spot is stimulated during intercourse

That said, you're right about it not being the holy grail. Still, it's not uncommon for me to grab a toy or let my fingers do the walking after intercourse, just for that extra "oomph".

Oh, and penis size can make a bit of a difference if the guy is unusually endowed, BUT it's more often the way a guy uses his equipment that makes the difference for me.

=)

[willyoats]

Freud really screwed up when he said that the only mature female orgasm is the vaginal kind. That's bull. My wife has been having great orgasms for more than 40 years. Only a couple of times has she said that she might have had a tiny vaginal orgasm during intercourse. Every swinging partner she has had who actually gave her an orgasm did it manually or orally before intercourse.

More than half of our swinging female friends (numbering about 40) don't have vaginal orgasms, no matter whom they are with. Some of the rest do occasionally, with only a very small fraction having them often.

I think WL is quite normal. My advice: lie back and enjoy the orgasms, however they may be brought on. That's what my wife, and all the other women I know who love sex, do. Don't chase the ephemeral Freudian BS.

[jetsetduo]

All this is good information to have, I was afraid I was going to be all alone in the lifestyle as a woman who can't always orgasm from intercourse. Actually, Mr. JetSet and I just had this conversation an hour or so ago - sometimes it doesn't matter how into it I am, if I don't hit my clit JUST right, I'm not going to have an orgasm. It just seems to take an inordinate amount of stimulation, and I wondered if there was anything I could do to "train" myself so to speak to orgasm more often. At any rate, the whole point was I'm glad to know I'm not alone!

Mrs. JetSet

[strathmore]

Everyone is wired a little differently and it takes two to tango. So both partners have to be individually and dually sympatico. My wife and I are lucky that way. She is highly responsive and O's to digital g-spot stimulation, and she loves having her pussy full more than anything. I happen to have a bit thicker than average cock. The combination works a high percentage of the time. She will often cum a few times before me. But other times nothing happens depending on the mood, situation, etc.

[Trace Ekies]

Wow, this describes the Mrs. to the last detail.

It's very rare that she has an orgasm through intercourse, but...put her on her knees with a pillow between her legs and a vibrating egg against her clit, insert two or three fingers to stimulate the G-spot and tongue her ass and the orgasms come two or three in a row and last for a long time.

I'm relieved to hear that one of the couples we play with are not necessarily normal because she can have an orgasm on insertion and continue to come for nearly the whole event. I was concerned that I wasn't getting it done so thanks letting me off the hook.

Trace

[funcpl4life]

I have one friend who claims to orgasm like Mariel Hemmingway in creator. "Hell, I have three while answering the door; I'm no mystery." Another who requires the better part of an hour of intense clitoral massage. (everything is just a lead up to 10-15 minutes with a Hitachi MW) Most are somewhere inbetween.

There was one friend who had never had a vaginal orgasm. We were playing and having a good time and I had a very zen moment where I was able to detach from the outcome. I would eat her until she was pretty close and then enter her until I was pretty close, lather rinse repeat. She finally came during penetration and came so hard that tears ran down her face and she dug gouges in her own breasts with her fingernails.
Her husband was really really jealous for a while. We finally talked it out. It was a combination of being relaxed, detaching from the outcome and a whole bunch of other factors that stacked up that night. He said that he really got over his jealousy when I told him that I was just happy to be there to see it and I kind of wished that I had been with my wife while watching that orgasm. (We both had some terrific sex with my wife while my friend lay there and gasped for a while.)
I don't think it was so powerful because it was vaginal as it was because it was delayed.
Mr FC4L