Does sex get better with age?

[LFM2]

There are so many things that fight with our bodies as we get older: stress, insomnia, lack of hormones, the lubrication in women wanes and erections for men can be harder to get or the libido in both just goes south. We even think certain personal lifestyles can decrease sexual desire such as a lack of a good diet or a good exercise program that can affect your sexual regimen.

We believe our sexual life has gotten so much better. When we were first married, we had sex a lot, but not with the vitality, spark or energy that we have now. There is a familiarity with each other that makes making love so much better. Our love is so much deeper and more emotional, we can't imagine life without the other! Besides, sex is really one of our basic physiological needs, according to Maslow

Do you have an opinion?

[JustMrJ]

I don't think that the sex necessarily gets better, but the 'technique' and 'confidence' goes way up and makes for a much more enjoyable experience.

I'm sure that I had WAY more sex drive when I was about 21, but the sex act itself is much more enjoyable and there isn't nearly as much 'trouble' getting started.

[sweet_tna]

I'd have to say that yes it DOES get better with age. Mr. Sweet and I may have had more energy, and less responsibility/stress when we first got together (15 years ago), but it was offset by lack of experience and self consciousness. As we've gotten older, we've gotten more comfortable with our bodies, more adventurous (even without swinging), and less inhibited. So while we may have it a bit less often, it's quality over quantity.

=)

[lookingfornow]

The question suggest the following relationship...that sex gets better because of age. I would have to say no (from a male perspective)because of all of the physical changes that tend to inhibit performance, particularly in males. Of course, modern pharmaceuticals help somewhat. But, they are no replacement for what nature has taken away.

I do think that, for some people, sex can get better in spite of age. We certainly work harder at being sexual today in an effort to generate the intensity that once occurred naturally. That effort results in more complete and often fulfilling sexual experiences (either with one another or with others) than we had when we were younger.

I agree that it would be nice to take what we know today and apply it using the bodies (and souls) that were given to us years ago. However, there are very many couples out there that are not applying effort to their sexual relations and, as a result, are not enjoying as robust a sexual relationship as they once did. I think that proves that aging does not inherently improve sex.

[SexyNSingle]

I would have to say that my sexlife has gotten better as I have gotten older. Whether it be maturity, experience, having the right person as your lover or partner, I think all of those things can add to your enjoyment. I will be 40 this year, my sex drive has not waned nor has my personal lubrication, if anything it is higher than I seem to remember On a positive note, for me it has been encouraging that my drive hasn't waned due to medication which I know can happen to some.

[likeitalot04]

Absolutely!

Our 60's are better than our 50's, which were better than our 40's, which were better than our 30's, which was better than our 20's! (We are 63/60)

Over 40 years together and have never been hotter for each other!

Just stay healthy and enjoy yourselves whatever age you are, it will only get better!

[socolais]

I've often thought fair skin was wasted on the youth. They have their gallons of hormones racing through thier brains and actually get distracted by physical beauty. Imagine how much better the world would be if our skin and muscles got firmer as we matured and settled down to enjoy the finer things in life (sex included).

I think there's a stronger corelation between experience and sexual satisfaction. We can choose some of our experiences - we have little choice in the matter of ageing (the alternative sucks).

[Pensacolapair]

We put a slightly different spin on the question as our answer: Sex should get better with age!

We would submit that the biggest reason that sex might seem to go downhill with age for many is because as a society, we feel that it should - it's 'spoda! There are 2 predominate stereotypes, one for each sex:

• For guys, starting at age 30, subtract 2 minutes of duration from every hardon for each year after 30...needless to say, by 40, all men are 'minute-men' - and by 50 it won't get hard at all without chemical assistance.
  
• For women, starting at age 35, they develop a Nun-like attitude towards all things sexual in preparation for a potential 'Gramma' or matron role. This Zen-like pursuit has the physical effect of causing their breasts to migrate south at a rate of 1 inch for every 5 years and dry up their girly-parts progressively until pubic hair is considered a fire-hazard due to potential labia-panty friction.

But seriously, yes, some people do have diminished physical capabilities as a result of age.. but our experience has been that some people's age-diminished cababilities are still on a par with the current capabilities of some younger folks. And it's suprising how many 30-something fellas have a problem with performance anxiety and/or premature ejaculation! But the thing about the whole age issue is that it's one of those 'eye-of-the-beholder' things: To a 20 year-old.. the idea that their 40 year old mother can suck a golf ball through a garden hose or that Dad can lay pipe better than the local utility company is guarenteed to be considered both gross and impossible. And how many 30 year-olds could conceive that their 8 year old's 50 year old 'Nana' won the Sexy PJ contest at Hedo and that both she and Grampa were the ringleaders of a multi-couple group-grope in the hot-tub later that evening?

As has been pointed out by others in this thread, with age (hopefully) comes experience. One learns what pleases others and learns better what pleases themselves. For couples, ideally you become sexually well 'tuned' to each and develop a special playfulness that lends itself well to more openness and experimentation. Additionally, (again, hopefully) your life tends to become a bit more stable - less pressure career-wise, personal relationships mature, and peer pressure becomes more the minor issue it really is. Perhaps a better way of putting it would be that you just don't take things as earth-shatteringly serious and as a result can just kick back and revel in what sex should be about - one hell of a lot of fun!

[TNT]

I'll let you know... when and if I decide to start aging


Sex, like most everything else, is one of those things that the more you do it, the better at it you get. I know for us, it keeps getting better and better...is it due to age or experience or both? It's one of those things I've never really thought about because, well...I refuse to grow old...the body will but, my spirit won't and that is what keeps sex exciting and better each time.


Teresa

[driveajeepnaked]

But the thing about the whole age issue is that it's one of those 'eye-of-the-beholder' things: To a 20 year-old.. the idea that their 40 year old mother can suck a golf ball through a garden hose or that Dad can lay pipe better than the local utility company is guarenteed to be considered both gross and impossible. And how many 30 year-olds could conceive that their 8 year old's 50 year old 'Nana' won the Sexy PJ contest at Hedo and that both she and Grampa were the ringleaders of a multi-couple group-grope in the hot-tub later that evening?

LMAO about this aspect. We're M40/F46 and I have two kids 26 and 22 from a prior marriage. We are nudists and sponsor a Hedo2 trip every November, we both ride motorcycles and scooters, partake in nudist camping most weekends, operate a Sybian rental business and educate couples on their relationships, healthy orgasms and squirting... and have a great and healthy sex life ourselves

I have been a very sexual person all my life, have a great relationship with my adult kids (both know about the nudist LS not swinging LS, though...)

Sex with Mr. Jeep has been the best, and getting better day by day...

Val

[celtic239]

I believe our attitude towards sex has definitely gotten better with age. We got married in our late 20's and had our three kids by our late 30's. I can say that physically we were both in better shape at the time we got married. However over the last 27 years we have matured in our outlook on sex. Before the kids it was, for me the husband, how many times in one day can I get laid, after the kids it was do we have enough energy just to take our clothes off and now that the kids are moving out and menopause/ED issues are resolved, I believe that we are finding sex to be fun.

[RDfnd]

We adhere to the use it and not lose it philosophy. We've been together for over 20yrs, R early 50's and D mid 40's. Both wish we could have done it 20 years ago as well as now. With the privacy we have, one or more opportunities a day poses no problems thankfully.

[it'sso]

It can be better, IF, all parties involved maintain a sense of humor.