Women And Blowjobs

[olycouple]

Originally Posted by LFM2

On your profile, it states you're 22. Boy, do I remember that age! I really didn't care to care to give blowjobs to ANYONE at that age -- mostly because it was never reciprocated or because guys that age had the impatience to NOT let me lick, suck and just enjoy myself. They'd often grab me by the back of my head forcing my face into their crotch. I even had one guy grab my ears like they were handles and start pumping away. He thought he was sexy and a stud. (He really wasn't) That is all such a no-no.

Out of curiosity, have you asked your wife "WHY" she hates giving head?

I totally agree! Even when I was younger, giving head seemed like a power trip for me...only instead of me carrying the power (to please), the young, dumb, "stud" used it as a way to subjugate or force his will. This is such a huge turn-off. Now that I've got a relationship with a man who doesn't mind (in fact loves) me taking over and doing my thing, I dig having him lay back and let me take my time. Sometimes, he "guides" me, but there's no pushing, and his hands on the back of head in my hair just kind of "going along for the ride" actually get me a little worked up. He just uses his hands as a que for what he wants and when he's getting more excited. Then, I have the power to take it back down a notch or two if I choose. I love to make him cum this way because it's all about me and my ability to please the man I love...and it's erotic that he allows himself to be "vulnerable" to me in this way.

I, however, have never enjoyed the taste of cum and don't prefer to swallow. It doesn't mean I won't or that I don't have the option of getting up to spit it out, get a glass of water and come back for a little more fun! I know for some girls who don't like to swallow, it's enough to make them never want to do it at all. I gave up doing it all for awhile because I didn't want to offend my partners. Could be your gal's issue, too. Also, some guy's seem to want it all the time. I want to do it when I want to do it. It has to be my idea or I don't like it at all. You should talk to your gal about why she doesn't like it. Every conversation I've ever had with my hubby about sex has usually led us to trying something new or finding ways to add it to our sexual repertoire...and it usually gets us in the bed right away!

[Zoe&Wash]

Count me in as another of those women who didn't get it at first and thought it was just plain icky! But I also knew it was something guys really liked, so I kept doing it. After a while, I found out it could be a lot of fun, too.

Of course, if a guy isn't clean down there, that's a HUGE turnoff! But as long as he's clean, it's a wonderful way of finding out what he likes and what really turns him on!

It's so much fun to hear the moans and see/feel the body twitches. And it can be a lot of fun to bring him right to the edge then hold back so he has to wait to cum. It makes him cum sooo much harder!

Then there's hearing a guy say he's never cum in a girl's mouth before. I take that as a personal challenge and am very proud to say that I haven't lost a challenge yet!

And yes, oh yes, I LOVE to swallow!!!!!!!!!

- Z

[orchid84]

I LOVE giving head, probably more so than actual penetration. I've had to be convinced before to stop so we could get down to business I've never cum while doing it but then I'm new at it so we'll see what happens down the road. I do get extremely wet while doing it tho

[N8ture Girl]

Originally Posted by lovinher

I wouldn't play with a woman who refused to do it or made it clear she didn't enjoy it.
It says a lot if a person doesn't care about pleasing the person they are with and seems extremely selfish to me.

How would a guy be received if he said he wouldn't go down on a woman and just wanted to fuck?

That sounds a little self centered to me. To each their own I guess, but I wouldn't be offended if a guy I was with didnt like giving oral. I would be glad he was honest about it up front. I would be offended to be told "you have to give me a BJ or we wont play".
There are plenty of other things to do other than BJ"s. I myself dont care for it, however I would love to be able to and enjoy it like so many others do. Unfortunately the "gag reflex" has been a major stumbling block. . Yes I know practice, practice. Years of practice has not gotten me very far.......but I am still trying.

[it'sso]

Originally Posted by N8ture Girl

That sounds a little self centered to me. To each their own I guess, but I wouldn't be offended if a guy I was with didnt like giving oral. I would be glad he was honest about it up front. I would be offended to be told "you have to give me a BJ or we wont play".
There are plenty of other things to do other than BJ"s. I myself dont care for it, however I would love to be able to and enjoy it like so many others do. Unfortunately the "gag reflex" has been a major stumbling block. . Yes I know practice, practice. Years of practice has not gotten me very far.......but I am still trying.

You may find tis hard to believe, but probably around five percent of the guys who are into swinging, can just about guarantee you that you won't find the need to gag, should you go down on them.

[midnightplayer]

My wife does not enjoy oral. She did not suck my cock for 14 years and would not let me go down on her either. Now she will do it "only" when I ask her to give me head, and she uses her teeth so much is it not pleasurable and when I try to tell her what I want she asks "were do you get your information on how it is to be done"? Huh? Last time I asked her to suck my cock she said "I suppose you want this done everytime we make love"? That shows me she does not like it; does not want to do it; and doesnt gie a crap if I have any pleasure from it. So goes the life of a female prude

[Hw&Cuck]

My wife of over 20 years never cared for giving me BJ's. A few years ago her and an old boyfriend started seeing each other on a regular schedule. She wanted to give him BJ's and even swallows for him. She has never done this for me and has told me she has no plans to in the future. She has on occasion sucked me briefly showing me the way she blows him but does not do it very long. I know many husbands would hate this but I get turned on knowing my wife gives BJ's to completion and actually enjoys it.

[quivers4me]

I'm another woman who enjoys giving BJs. I don't know why I enjoy it and really don't need to know why. I just do. I don't cum from giving a BJ but it does get me excited to see & hear his response to what I am doing.

I don't think I've met a man yet who didn't enjoy getting a BJ and would be very surprised if I did. To me it is a natural form of foreplay.

[fun4Ds]

Mrs.fun can suck cock like a nasty slut. She can look at me with those big, beautiful, brown eyes........ and moan as I climax

And I love her to death for it, She is amazing.

Actually, a few other lucky guys have bared whitness....


We got it on film also

[mixtupcpl]

Originally Posted by quivers4me

I'm another woman who enjoys giving BJs. I don't know why I enjoy it and really don't need to know why. I just do. I don't cum from giving a BJ but it does get me excited to see & hear his response to what I am doing.

I don't think I've met a man yet who didn't enjoy getting a BJ and would be very surprised if I did. To me it is a natural form of foreplay.

Im actually not really that into it! LOL! And Im not just fucking with you. Not sure why, but its never been a big thing for me. Im sure I can find some psychological reason for that, but why bother.

I'd actually rather go down on the lady I'm with than have her go down on me. 69 is cool though.

So there ya go! Color you surprised!

[mervsmom97]

Giving head is my favorite! I get so turned on that I can get the Mr. so rock hard in my mouth, I'm drooling just thinking about it

[SecretAsianMan]

One gal I know is really uncomfortable with giving head ... she had some horrific experiences with it when she was younger and just hasn't gotten past the psychological fear of repeating that. (One former partner basically jammed himself down her throat which caused her to gag and vomit)

... so, she just doesn't feel comfortable with giving oral sex anymore.



Then again, I know others who are just incredibly oral (almost orally addicted) and LOVE the feeling of giving a fella head.

[LFM2]

Originally Posted by mixtupcpl

Im actually not really that into it! LOL! And Im not just fucking with you. Not sure why, but its never been a big thing for me. Im sure I can find some psychological reason for that, but why bother.

I'd actually rather go down on the lady I'm with than have her go down on me. 69 is cool though.

So there ya go! Color you surprised!

You are the second man I've heard say that! I do wonder why a select few men are not that turned on by either having it actually happen or even the thought of some lovely woman going down on him.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by LFM2

I do wonder why a select few men are not that turned on by either having it actually happen or even the thought of some lovely woman going down on him.

I am turned on by blowjobs. That said, it can be very difficult for me to orgasm this way with a woman I do not know very well. There's something about a blowjob that is more intimate to me on some level that makes it more difficult for me to orgasm unless I'm really connected to the woman. It's not that I can't; I can. It's that it's harder. Weird wiring I guess

My wife on the other hand... She's amazing. When she was pregnant with our second child, the last two thirds of the pregnancy featured a dearth of vaginal sex for various reasons (nothing to do with our relationship of course). She made up for it by working really, really hard to become extremely talented at giving head. has it paid off in spades! I can get hard just thinking about being in her mouth. And cumming? Fagetaboutit! No problems there

With the various women I've had vanilla relationships with (~10) I've never encountered one who actively disliked giving head. A couple were not good at it at all. One had never done it before (with expected results). But, none of them were ever repulsed by the idea.

[JustMrsJ]

I love giving pleasure to my husband and other man.