Would you play with someone who has undergone gender reassignment surgery?

[Pinmonkey]

What would you do if the person you are attracted to and hoping to have sex with has undergone gender reassignment surgury? Would you want to know before playing? Would you want to know at all?

[sweet_tna]

Originally Posted by Pinmonkey

What would you do if the person you are attracted to and hoping to have sex with has undergone gender reassignment surgury? Would you want to know before playing? Would you want to know at all?

That's an interesting question. My answer would be yes, I would prefer to know. But really, if that person doesn't obviously look as though they belong to their originally assigned gender, how would you know (before playing) to ask? It would be up to him or her to choose to tell you.

My father had this surgery, but still does not look feminine at all. So anyone interested in "her" would have to at least suspect something.

[ncmd_couple]

Pin,

As a male, yeah, I would want to know that in advance.

[Pinmonkey]

Would that stop you from becoming involved with her? Even if she was fairly attractive?

[thegardiner]

It would be up to that person to say and yes I would like to know. If a person just does not 'look' the part, and given the increase in frequency of this occurrence of this change, a conversation along those lines would suffice. I believe most persons would state so if indeed they don't 'look' the part. However for those that DO look the part, they may decide to not tell.

Would I still be attracted if I knew? That's a good question, I'd take it by a case by case basis. For instance, let's say that a person is not into gang-bangs and orgies but rather one-on-ones and threesomes and he/she meets someone they are very interested in. After a great time of finding out more about each other and of course flirting that person then comments on the great weekend he/she had in this orgy/gang-bang the other day. Even though there's a first attraction, additional information can change it and depending on the level (or intensity) of attraction he/she may decide he/she is still game.

Thus it may be a case by case basis. However for another person it may be a situation where once you were not born that way its NO WAY.


Nice question though - kudos

[ncmd_couple]

Pin,

Honestly, I don't know, that is truly uncharted territory for me.

S

[Bama0468]

I would like to know, and as thegardiner said it would likely be a case by case basis

[velbuzz]

I would like to know especially from the health perspective. Although alot depends on the personality of the person and his/her promiscuity.

[Couple-N-NM]

Yeah, we'd want to know and we'd probably be out of the deal.

[JustMrJ]

I think if the personality was appropriate for the current gender and the attraction/chemistry was genuine... it would not phase me at all.

I tend to think of that kind of surgery as 'corrective'. My wife and I have a good friend that went through that (M2F) and we feel are pretty educated on the subject.

One point we found fascinating is that they can tell what gender you SHOULD have been by a scan of your brain? (CAT scan if I remember correctly). Also there are quite a few hormonal and chemical differences in the body that are key to determining if a person born with male 'equipment' should have been female and vice-versa.

[NumbskullsX2]

I'd ask "her" what they did with the dick. I'd hate to think 5-6 inches of healthy man-meat went up the chimney in smoke. I know guys who could've used that!

[Bama0468]

heh heh from what I have seen of sexual reassignment/corrective surgeries you may not want to know what they did with it lol

[TNT]

Originally Posted by NumbskullsX2

I'd ask "her" what they did with the dick.

In M2F surgery the penis is basically skinned (flesh removed), turned inside out and positioned into the body cavity to form a vagina. It's done in such a way as to leave all nerve endings intact so sensation is felt and orgasms can occur. The scrotum is used to construct the vulva (labia majora and minora)

F2M surgery is much more difficult. Some F2M's use only HRT to enlarge the clitoris, which forms a small penis, capable of penetration. Others will have a penis formed using skin/tissue grafts from another part of the body to form a penis.

Both fascinating surgeries.

Those who have undergo either surgery have spent years struggling with the decision and undergoing extensive mental evaluations (not to mention the possible loss of family, friends and jobs). Their plight is not one to be made fun of but one we should strive to try and understand. Nature is not perfect and it too makes mistakes, all they are doing is trying to correct that mistake and live a life they can hopefully find personal peace and happiness with.


To answer the OP... I wouldn't care. It would be their decision whether they wanted to tell me or not. As with all my sex partners, if I find something I like and/or am attracted to, it's game on.



Teresa

[lacouples]

We prefer to limit the drama in our playful relationships. We generally look for stable committed couples. I suspect that most people who have gone thru this surgery have struggled alot. So it would probably be a disqualifer.

If a friend were to struggle with it, the situation would be different and so would be our reaction. We would want to support any friend going thru tough times. However it would probably be mostly as practical and emotional support.

[lovinher]

Yea, I would want to know. I have yet to see a male turned female where it wasn't somewhat obvious so I don't think it would get that far anyway. There have been times I have seen a transgendered person when it wasn't so obvious until I find out somehow.

No matter how attractive this person may be I still couldn't do it. Call me a homophobe, shallow or whatever you wish but it's not something I could do for various reasons. I have to say this though, it takes a brave person to make the change and I admire them for it.