Would you play with someone who has undergone gender reassignment surgery?

[makeyashake]

This is actually an issue I have a disagreement with a transgendered friend over. I believe it is not right for her to seduce men without first telling them up front they used to be a man. I would equate it to me acting like a butch lesbian in order to get a gay woman into bed.

[willyoats]

We have had two experiences along these lines:

1) At our summer nudist/swingers camp there was a guy who underwent th whole procedure. She was friendy and interesting to talk to but not physically appealing. Clearly he would not have been particularly appealing to women before the operaiton. I don't think there was anybody there who had sex with either him or her during the many years we went there.

2) We were in Phuket, Thailand a few years ago for a tennis tournament. One night we went into town and found a bar that catered to the trans-sexuals in that part of Thailand. Those boys-turned-girls are as beautiful as any women I have ever seen anywhere. One in particular flirted quite a bit with my wife and even got her to play with the new breasts. I'm sure we could have had a unique experience if my wife had been interested.

If I had been alone, I certainly would have gone with one of them. It is impossible to overstate just how beautful and delicate and utterly appealing a Thai transexual is. If you ever get there, please don't pass up the opportunity, but then please--please--tell me what it was like.

[SW_PA_Couple]

The recent thread Is it tougher to be bisexual? and seeing the movie Trinidad (Drs. Stanley Biber and Marci Bowers) combined to made me want to look up this old thread. About a year ago, we were planning to meet a couple comprised of a man and a transgender woman. Only reason it did not happen was the man began to make himself into a bit of a pest. The transgender woman must have become tired of him too as we recently learned that she has booted him out. Anyway, to answer the question posed in the original title for this thread, I guess I might.

~M

[NCfuncouple98]

Ironic this thread was bumped yesterday.

We received an email last night through our local club site and the profile read as any normal profile. But when we looked at the pics it was 2 females. Although there was something about one of the pics...

Read further in the profile and did find the abbreviations of TG, and that he is "transitioning". Had to goto Wikipedia to look it up because we really had no idea what it meant.

Haven't responded to their email yet - this is kind of new territory and I don't want to come across rude - because I truly hope everything works out well for them. But in this case, it's not someone who's undergone the surgery. It's really something we've just never run across before.... And in this case I do have to say no, we are not interested in playing with them. See them at the club and have conversation, no problem.

Mrs NC

[swing_style]

It would depend on if we were attracted to them in the first place. If we were then we would have no problem with it, and really wouldn't care if they told us or not. However, if they did tell us then it would make for some fascinating conversation!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Originally Posted by NCfuncouple98

Read further in the profile and did find the abbreviations of TG, and that he is "transitioning". Had to go to Wikipedia to look it up because we really had no idea what it meant.

Don't believe I'd be interested in becoming intimate with a transgender person who is transitioning.

Since I'm the person who let this genie out of his (or her) bottle again, I will elaborate. To me neither gender identity nor gender change relate in any particular way to hetrosexuality, homosexuality or bi-sexuality. To put in on a personal level, I have never been sexually attracted to a man but I believe could feel attracted to a transgender person who has the anatomical characteristics of a woman.

~Michael

[SecretAsianMan]

Honestly, if I couldn't tell (or didn't have any suspicions) beforehand... I'd probably rather not know. And I don't know if it would make any difference to me if it wasn't "obvious"

[Chicup]

Well since this thread is bumped, I'll give my .02.

No.

I feel sorry for people who are TG, its got to be an awful life growing up and if the surgery makes them happy more power to them, but I'd not want to be intimate with someone who was TG. Pre or post op.

[truckerbuddy]

If he/now a she, looks like a lady. yes i would.. but i have seen some pic of this.. WOW some look gr8 and some ...well lets just say . your kidding ,, right..

[fun4Ds]

I have personaly met and known, two TG's in my life. I grew up with them in the neighborhood.

Rhonda became Ron and Marsha became Mark. I was closer to R.

M, moved and we met in a bar later in life.

I could tell ya some of what happened throughout, but its not important.

As for the original question. No, I would not have sex with a TG.

[The Fuse]

I really don't know.

If I was attracted, and I thought we could make each other happy in bed, and everything else was otherwise positive, I hope I would not shut the door for only that reason.

However... I'm willing to guess that most TG's have spent most of their lives unhappy, confused and probably angry. I don't think that's the kind of person I'd be attracted to.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by fun4Ds

Rhonda became Ron and Marsha became Mark. I was closer to R.

I just reread this and for the record Mark became Marsha. I said that wrong.

As attractive as Marsha became, I still wouldn't....

[TheLorax]

I've had several friends who were transitioning and in one case, transitioned. For me it's a no-brainer, if I'm attracted to them it doesn't matter what equipment they have or had.

I did get the opportunity to play a few years back with a friend who was transitioning MtF and I had to think long and hard whether I wanted to play with her or if it was just the novelty of the situation. In the end I did play with her and her female partner and it was fun

[Rackir]

Totally!

And yup, I'd want to know, I just hope they dont mind me asking questions about what thier expierence has been like once we're done.

[TheLorax]

Originally Posted by Rackir

Totally!

And yup, I'd want to know, I just hope they dont mind me asking questions about what thier expierence has been like once we're done.

This is one of those issues I think a lot about. I'm open to people wanting to talk about things important to them, and I'll ask a question or two or make a reference that indicates that I am open to them talking more. I'm also sensitive to the fact that someone who is obviously very different from the norm gets asked the same questions time and time again.

My main activity is unusual enough and interesting enough that I rarely mention it to people I don't know because if I'm in a crowd, it often will instantly dominate the conversation, and I've heard the same things again and again and again. Sometimes I don't want to be the spokesperson for it, I just want to relax and enjoy what someone else has to say.