fisting

[tkoctober]

I want to try to fist a woman, but not sure what protection I need to take?

[mothandrust]

Boxing gloves perhaps??

[screaminggood]

Patience!

[ohbaby]

I really don't understand the question. Protection from or of what ?

[sexcupid]

OP...first of all...welcome to the board! You may want to stop by the intro forum to introduce yourself.

Now, as someone who occasionally enjoys this I'll give you a few pointers.

First, make sure it's something your partner WANTS you to do. This may seem like a no brainer, but some people get an idea in their head and want to do it and nothing is going to stop them. So, make sure she' on board with your little plan.

Secondly, take your time. Again, another no brainer...but if you have basically seen it in a porno and never done it, I'll state it out loud: those girls are not 'normal' women...fisting, anal, etc are specialties and most women can't immediately be rammed in to the hilt with a dick or fist. It takes a bit of build up.

When you find a partner that's willing to do so, some helpful tips:

Lube...lots of it. If she asks you to use more...use more. Even if the stuff is practically pooling on the bed and running down you arm, add more. When we get to the point of asking/telling you to add more lube we are generally in some discomfort.

Start small. If you normally use 2 fingers..start there. Play with the clit. Add another finger. Play around some more. Add the 4th finger. The worst part of this is going from the 4 fingers to adding basically the rest of your hand. This is where more patience will come in. Generally speaking, if we're hurting and you aren't listening, muscles clamp up and things hurt...alot. Rotating your hand (like just twisting it) will help a bit, ease in slowly until you get to the wrist.

Now, here's where the 'we're not all porn stars' advice comes in handy. Many women (particuarly if it's the first time doing this) can not handle you yanking your fist out and trying to plunge it back in. Short strokes and twisting it will provide plenty of stimulation...and don't forget about the clit. Lick it, rub it, etc.

With any luck she'll have an orgasm from that. After the first time my ex- and I tried it...I was sore and...ah-hem...swollen inside (no sex, could barely stand 1 finger in there) for the better part of a week, and he had average sized hands for a man.

For protection, from what? If you are more comfortable using a rubber glove on the hand you will be attempting to insert, that is probably the only thing I can think of. You can find boxes of them at any drug store or retailer in the pharmacy/first aid aisle.

Good luck!

[4Beauty2C]

Would rather not partake into fisting. I like to stay nice and tight..

[Tia Vampire]

Sound very painful. Good luck to you and your lady.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by 4Beauty2C

Would rather not partake into fisting. I like to stay nice and tight..

2 things in relation to this...

1. Kegels, improves muscle tone in the area, many report greater arousal/sensitivity after doing them regularly for 6 weeks or so.

2. The vagina is designed to strech. At 'rest' (unaroused) the vagina is aproximately 3-5 inches long/deep and increases in size/expands during arousal, intercourse, and childbirth.

Rest assured, unless you have been surgically 'restored' after a vaginal delivery or you have only had c-sections...things never go completely back to the pre-delivery state of being.

And Tia (I forgot to quote you)...this is about to be a horrible pun...but I've only done this a handful of times (I know...I'm sorry )...very infrequently (say 5 times in the last 5 years)...and it's just like any other sexual act...if you have an inconsiderate or ill informed partner, it will hurt.

[Tia Vampire]

I agree 100% Maria. It is something that takes practice. I'm just getting into anal sex because my x boyfriends did not know what the hell they were doing and I was scared to take a shit afterward because of the pain. Now I love having anal because the guy I have now knows what he is doing. No pun girl, just honest fun.

[theboy]

One other note - this may seem obvious, but be sure to cut your nails down, preferably at least a day in advance to trying to fist. Long nails can *hurt*. Short, just cut 5 minutes ago nails can be sharp even though they're short. And finally, don't do the plunging in and out thing - just twisting inside is often enough to drive her wild as the fist rubs against the g-spot.

We joke that it 'tenderizes' the wife, she orgasms so easily when having sex even the day after doing this. And no, it won't permanently stretch the woman out at all.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by mothandrust

Boxing gloves perhaps??

That was my first thought
Your friend,
Prettylady

[ohash01]

If you mean actual protection...the health center where I work gives out these ridiculously super jumbo gigantic condoms in the student sexual safety packs for "fist coverage". I have no idea what brand/type they are, but maybe you could find something like that. But regular medical gloves work too.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by tkoctober

I want to try to fist a woman, but not sure what protection I need to take?

First off I would like to ask how this woman feels about this ? I couldnt imagine just trying it by surprise .

Personally I'm quite sure I would want a woman to bring it up first. So far I never have, but I'm just saying....

Then I would go with sexcupids advice totaly .