Achieving Orgasm from Oral Sex

[ATAK]

Originally quoted from JustAskJulie in another thread

However, it is pretty much impossible for me to come while being eaten in any group situation. It takes a lot to get me off orally anyway and it takes more to get me off when there are distractions.

This brings me to a question/concern I have regarding orgasm and oral sex.

How many of you cannot achieve orgasm this way? I have always had difficulty (to say the least) achieving orgasm while recieving head. I've never been able to reach orgasm without taking matters into my own hands after the female's jaw is about to lock up from trying! I do not know why this is...I've been with many women that I found more than attractive and am always excited and enjoy very much recieving head, but I'm not able to cum that way. Anyone else have this problem?

And why do you think this is? Julie?

[DragonsLair]

For my husband, it's more difficult for him to cum during oral sex, but when he does, he says it's a much stronger orgasm. It just takes longer to reach orgasm during oral.

And if you're curious about women cumming during oral, that's basically the only way I cum. I haven't had an orgasm with penetration alone. I require some type of clit stimulation whether it be oral or manual, like most of the women out there.

DragonsLair

He is T. I am A.

[Brit_Pair]

You're not alone. I generally find it takes longer to reach orgasm through oral sex, though I can't recall ever taking matters into my own hands. Hers are always sufficient for the task!

I do find during oral sex that I'm much more sensitive to matters of rhythm and pressure and speed: I can be very close to orgasm, but if one of those things loses sync with my body's responses, I can lose my place, so to speak. That can be frustrating for both of us.

One question: when you describe this difficulty, are you talking about being pleasured exclusively by your partner's mouth, or does it still occur if and when she's using her hand(s) on your shaft as well?

[OhioCouple]

Speaking on belhalf of my husband, he can reach orgasm rather quickyl (within 10 minutes) with a new partner during oral sex. (He isn't shy to say what he likes). Subsequent experiences he has a hard time doing so and usually it takes penetration in order to achieve an orgasm, either through me or the female half of the couple we are with. We have talked about this and still don't know why it happens this way as it is of concern to him. (He feels like he is letting down the other female.)

For myself,I can achieve orgasm either way. I do though tend to reach a climax quicker through oral sex than vaginal sex, even with my husband. It all depends on the approach and the technique being used.

Lori

[J & K]

"J" here the male half of "K"

I can't either and I think it all stems back from the past when ladies say, "don't cum in my mouth" or "I don't like the taste of cum".

So I think it is all mental in that aspect. I wish i could myself with my wife, but she says "no way". So there is the mental barrier to climax when doing it. i never pass it down and enjoy it, but it makes great foreplay for the real sex act.

[ATAK]

Originally posted by Brit_Pair
One question: when you describe this difficulty, are you talking about being pleasured exclusively by your partner's mouth, or does it still occur if and when she's using her hand(s) on your shaft as well?

It doesn't matter, even a hand job from a woman takes forever and there no guanrantee that I'll cum that way either. Climax either comes from masterbation (I guess my hand knows how I like it) or vaginal sex. BJ and HJ just don't get me there, though I do enjoy them very much.

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by OhioCouple
Speaking on belhalf of my husband, he can reach orgasm rather quickyl (within 10 minutes) with a new partner during oral sex. (He isn't shy to say what he likes). Subsequent experiences he has a hard time doing so and usually it takes penetration in order to achieve an orgasm, either through me or the female half of the couple we are with. We have talked about this and still don't know why it happens this way as it is of concern to him. (He feels like he is letting down the other female.)

Lori, I don't think your husband need have any concern. If he's anything like myself, I think he's feeling unnecessary guilt over a matter of physiology.

I find my second orgasm usually takes longer to arrive than the first, because the urgency of my excitement and desire has been satisfied (or at least had its edge taken off), and because, post-orgasm, I'm somewhat de-sensitised. And in my humble opinion, a vagina is a more deliciously accommodating environment than any mouth, and as such, is far better suited to coaxing a second, third or whatever orgasm from a cock in just such a condition.

[Vjklander]

A lot depends on technique. If its just a quickie, I will stroke my shaft while she suckles the head, caress my balls and play with my taint and ass. I ejaculate pretty quickly that way. If she is doing a slow sensual pleasuring it might take quite a while and her jaw might get tired. She has learned to relax more while doing that and use her hands more. Either way is a great orgasm for me and the slow sensual one can occasionally give me a hyper-orgasm.

J

Originally posted by DragonsLair
For my husband, it's more difficult for him to cum during oral sex, but when he does, he says it's a much stronger orgasm. It just takes longer to reach orgasm during oral.
DragonsLair

[OhioCouple]

Brit_Pair, Acutally I should have been a little more clear. I am taking about different meetings with the same couples. Not all in the same evening. It is almost as if the newness has worn off and he just can't acheive orgasm through oral sex with the same person more than once. Not that we have had a lot of experience mind you, but it has happened with each of the couples we regularaly see.

I think J&K probably hit the nail on the head as there tends to be more mental pressure since none of the women, myself included will swallow. So I am sure that plays a major part in it.

Lori

[Ashley]

My experience is that a lot of men don't come from oral sex and that a lot of women come only through oral sex...or masturbation.
I do need my clit stimulated. To the poster who said she could not come from penetration, my bf found a great little vibrator that attaches to his cock and stimulates me at the same time he is penetrating me. It gives me one terrific orgasm and he gets to experience the pleasure of my coming on his cock....problem solved.

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by OhioCouple
Brit_Pair, Acutally I should have been a little more clear. I am taking about different meetings with the same couples. Not all in the same evening. It is almost as if the newness has worn off and he just can't acheive orgasm through oral sex with the same person more than once.

Firstly, apologies for failing to grasp what you were trying to convey.

Secondly, your suggestion that it's as though the newness has worn off is probably right on the money. The first time with someone new is extra exciting, and therefore your husband finds himself easily able to reach orgasm through oral sex, because his mind and his body are both being subjected to high levels of stimulation. Subsequent encounters may be less productive, because - for want of a better expression - he's already been there. His mind is not nearly as excited second or third time around.

For me, reaching orgasm through oral sex is always more difficult than through other forms of penetration. It's not that I don't enjoy it: far from it, the sensations are wonderful, and I never tire of seeing my cock sliding into my wife's mouth. However, if I want to reach orgasm, I do find myself introducing a layer of fantasy, as though to compensate for that loss of newness, so that my mind as well as my body are equally excited.

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by ATAK
It doesn't matter, even a hand job from a woman takes forever and there no guanrantee that I'll cum that way either. Climax either comes from masterbation (I guess my hand knows how I like it) or vaginal sex. BJ and HJ just don't get me there, though I do enjoy them very much.

I think I know what you mean. I've always found oral sex and masturbation to be far less effective at producing orgasms than vaginal intercourse - that is, unless my mind is especially excited.

When you think about it, the vagina is (at least in part) designed for the purpose of bringing a penis to orgasm, whereas the hand and the mouth are merely adapted for the purpose.

However, when the mind is highly stimulated in a sexual sense, it compensates for the fact that a hand or a mouth is less physiologically accomodating than a vagina.

[JustAskJulie]

When it comes down to it, (and I've mentioned this before in other threads), I have to have clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Most people that I have recieved oral sex from don't do it the way I need it done, especially other woman. That sound so bad doesn' it? lol.

As far as guys go, I've only run across one guy that I could not for the life of me get off orally, and I married him... figured that way I could spend my life trying.

[Brian and Jo]

If anything I tend to have an orgasm too quickly during oral sex, especially if my partner focusses her attention on the tip of my penis. When I am fucking someone I last much longer but my orgasm is perhaps not quite as intense compared to oral sex. Jo has her strongest and most intense oragsms during oral sex. She sometimes finds it difficult to cum during intercourse especially if she has already cum one or more times already but she really love it when the guy cums inside her even if she does'nt have an orgasm herself.

Brian

[OhioCouple]

Brit_Pair,

Your last two posts made so much sense. I am going to show these to my husband later this evening. Thank you for your insight.

Lori