Orgasm Intensity

[strathmore]

I was reflecting recently on my orgasms and got thinking about how different they are in intensity with different partners (SO, stranger, self), by different activities (self-masturbation, oral, intercourse, handjob), and at different times.
I realized that my most intensive O’s are from self-masturbation, likely due to the biofeedback and control. While the others are very satisfying and enjoyable , they don’t have the full intensity of self induced. The closest for me seems to be the second O thru intercourse with my SO... and there seem to be some very memorable oral experiences.

What is your intensity experience?

[sweet_tna]

My most intense orgasms are DEFINITELY with my honey (so far). He knows just the right spots to hit, and he doesn't let up 'till I soak the sheets (or floor, couch, etc.). I can get off on my own, but it's never as intense. And in fairness to my other playmates, my clit's kinda' hidden so it's a bit of a treasure hunt, lol.

Note to self: Don't read threads like this when my honey is away on travel . . . sigh.

~Mrs. Sweet =)

[magichands804]

I would say that my best orgasms are usually with my SO but I don't always achieve orgasm when I am with her.

For my wife, I know that her most intense orgasms are with me. I think that she might die if they got much more intense. After me, her most intense orgasms come with women. She loves it. I know that my wife doesn't masterbate alone very often.

[ShellyM]

My strongest o's are with Jay...especially when he does oral while stimulating my G spot. Man, those things will render me shaking and still for a long time lol. Wow, those are amazing. I can also have very nice O's when I'm riding cowboy and can control the clitoral stimulation. Masturbation o's are something else as well. Those are fun! In swinging? Nope, not really lol.
But we are working on that.

[Reef99]

The best of everything has always been with my husband.

[ShellyM]

Well with us, I'll be honest. Diva does things only on her own time LOL.
I rarely cum in swinging with oral, it just takes me a long time....so I want to assist him with masturbation and quite frankly I have had guys get offended...kind of like I have to assist him because he doesn't know what he is doing...when its NOT that Diva just takes a long time lol. SO. Vaginally in swinging forget it. As in our other thread, I need a WHILE. I cannot climb on, 5 minutes cum and go. I want the whole enchilada lol. So when a man does me and cums in 10 minutes usually he gets a funny look as "what the hell was that" and I have Jay take care of business. I have yet to meet a man in swinging that went for more than 10 minutes. This is a source of frustration for me in swinging, but we are working on this.

[willyoats]

I estimate I have had about 9000 orgasms with my wife of 45 years. On average they have been better than the few hundred I have had with other swinging partners. That said, the best single oral was with a terrific, sexy girl about 10 years after marriage.

The best single vaginal O was with a fabulous,sexy woman about 10 years ago in Mexico.

The best anal O hasn't happened yet. All 3 were so-so. But my current swinging partner likes anal and we will try it soon. Considering what she can do with her pussy muscles, I am betting that will be pretty exciting.

Probably the longest lasting and most intense are from masturbation. However, they are not satisfying in the same way that cumming in a woman is, probably because the emotional content is lacking.

[sexcupid]

My most intense orgasms are with Jeff...hands down. Particuarly from oral. The man's a trooper...it can take a while and I'm pretty sure his tongue has been numb after some oral sessions...but he doesn't stop unless I ask him to.

I have only had an orgasm with one swing partner, and it was intense too. But he had been warned that I take a while and he was pretty hell-bent on making it happen.

If I'm looking for a quick orgasm, then masturbation is where it's at. Who knows how better to push my buttons than me? However, they are not very intense or as fullfilling as an O with my partner.

Like ShellyM, I am used to a partner that can go for a while. If it's all said and done in 15 min or less...I'm kinda like, wtf? That is the 'foreplay'/oral, and actual fucking in 15 or less. For my SO a quickie usually 30 min. If we are actually taking our time? Good lord, keep some water and a snack handy...we may be at this (quite literally) all night.

Maria

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by sexcupid

My most intense orgasms are with Jeff...hands down. Particuarly from oral. The man's a trooper...it can take a while and I'm pretty sure his tongue has been numb after some oral sessions...but he doesn't stop unless I ask him to.

I have only had an orgasm with one swing partner, and it was intense too. But he had been warned that I take a while and he was pretty hell-bent on making it happen.

If I'm looking for a quick orgasm, then masturbation is where it's at. Who knows how better to push my buttons than me? However, they are not very intense or as fullfilling as an O with my partner.

Like ShellyM, I am used to a partner that can go for a while. If it's all said and done in 15 min or less...I'm kinda like, wtf? That is the 'foreplay'/oral, and actual fucking in 15 or less. For my SO a quickie usually 30 min. If we are actually taking our time? Good lord, keep some water and a snack handy...we may be at this (quite literally) all night.

Maria

Yes, what Maria said I second LOL.

[lost_j1]

Always glad to help baby... You sexy MILF!!!

[screaminggood]

Shelly, we seem to have a lot of things in common! I, too, take the long, slow route to orgasm, but when I get there it's bigger and better than anything else.

Why do I say we have stuff in common? Because I'm the other Texan who agreed with you about men who don't perform up to our standards! I recently had a man lick me for about five minutes, then he stopped and said, "Aren't you going to cum yet?" Uh, no....luckily, there was a more attractive option standing behind him. He took over (never noticed the first guy left!) and I came and came and came and came. We stopped to change rooms and left to applause.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

Shelly, we seem to have a lot of things in common! I, too, take the long, slow route to orgasm, but when I get there it's bigger and better than anything else.

Why do I say we have stuff in common? Because I'm the other Texan who agreed with you about men who don't perform up to our standards! I recently had a man lick me for about five minutes, then he stopped and said, "Aren't you going to cum yet?" Uh, no....luckily, there was a more attractive option standing behind him. He took over (never noticed the first guy left!) and I came and came and came and came. We stopped to change rooms and left to applause.

Hey, send him to Austin! Aren't us Texas girls supposed to share and share alike? LoL

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by screaminggood

Because I'm the other Texan who agreed with you about men who don't perform up to our standards! I recently had a man lick me for about five minutes, then he stopped and said, "Aren't you going to cum yet?" Uh, no....

rotflmao...I would have been the same...'um, no...but boy will you know when I do....'

I think part of this stems from the easily orgasmic women we have encountered in the lifestyle so far. I mean...there are some of them it seems you barely have to breath on them for the first one to hit. If any of the readers out there are one of these women...well lucky you. If OTOH if you are a man that normally has this kind of woman for a partner...well honestly, I think they are in the minority and these guys have a totally skewed sense of their abilities or of how long it 'should' take a woman to orgasm.

Personally, I've decided to go into swing situations with the mind set of just having fun and not expecting an orgasm from anyone but my sweetie. Is this wrong or am I some how short changing the experience? I don't think so...but others might. However if the orgasm does happen....

Maria

[ShellyM]

It is frustrating lol; and alcohol does not help me at all....I'm like a man in orgasms I guess LOL. I never expect an O in swinging because Diva is such a pain in the ass sometimes lol. Orgasms and sex are 2 different things for me because I am not a woman who will O in minutes. I can under certain conditions, but in truth thats after a huge build up of foreplay/phone sex...this is only something I expect at all when I am with Jay however who knows the exact buttons to push. Or masturbation of course. But yeah, women who O easily are lucky, Diva could take lessons, her picky self LOL.

[sexcupid]

Shelly...lmao...when your Diva goes to lessons, tell her to give mine a call because she could use them too.

The women I'm talking about are the ones that seriously, 3 strokes in or a few licks and there they go. Jeff has told me about this one chick he used to play with way back in the day...apparently she was damn near comatose by the time he would be done (his soldier could put Diva to shame at times...lol). And we've run across a few of those already....my point to Jeff is on one hand (for a guy) it may be a total ego stroke to have this chick rocketing off the bed in 2 min...but the fact of the matter is, her reaction has little to do with the partner's skill level...it's just how she's wired.

Now, as for being totally turned on and ready to roll after teasing/dirty messages/etc all day...*sigh* those are great too....

Maria