problems with frequency of sex due to size/stamina

[matt1s3]

Hey everyone,

I know to some this may be a wish come true but it's really not.

I have a large penis and by all means, there are many men larger. I'd say I'm about 8.5 inches long and proportionatly as thick. To most women I've been with, they've always mentioned its size and made comments but it hasn't affected our sex life in a bad way until the last couple.

My current girlfriend finds it to be so large and the fact that I last at least 15 minutes if I concentrate hard that she's so sore after sex she won't sleep with me again for at least a few days.

I'm used to having sex every day and like it that way. Tonight she made some comments about our sex not being as often as past boyfriends due to these issues. I don't get it. She doesn't seem much smaller at least as I can feel than anyone else and most others get used to it after a week or so and the rest love it.

I'm not thinking any of you may have a magic answers but I'm open to any ideas that maybe I'm missing. I want our sex life to be as good as past relationships and to at least get to the point where we can have sex more than a few times a week.

Thanks for any advice.

[GoNatural]

Originally Posted by matt1s3

Hey everyone,

most others get used to it after a week or so and the rest love it.

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Yes...... I do prefer women that enjoy feeling completely penetrated.

Ok, back to your question. Well, I don't have an answer for you, but possibly an explanation.

If a researcher recruited 100 women that had the same size vagina, the same elasticity, and the same wetness, their opinion of what size, or sizes range, is "ideal" would still vary from woman to woman. In other words, the amount of friction that one woman may find satisfying, another woman may find uncomfortable.

Now, take those answers and multiply them by all of the different size vaginas out there.

That only explains why her vagina feels just like others to you, but she doesn't like the way things fit together.

[twohots4u2]

My partner is Asian, has never had children, and has a small, tight pussy. I have a 6-1/2 X 5 inch dick and she has never has any discomfort with me. But, whenever we would swing with a guy who had a larger dick, she would always complain about discomfort and she would be so sore afterwards that we would not have sex for a week. We even wrote a story and submitted it to another swing site titled, "Where are all the small dicks?" It was widely read and got great reviews and comments. But, the experience with her discomfort and pain almost stopped us from swinging.

Then I realized that when she cums, or almost cums, her pussy expands! Before, we would play until she got wet, have sex, and then I would get her off orally, digitally, or with a vibrator. This time I just wanted to get her off (she takes about an hour of oral to cum) and just before she came I realized that her pussy just opened up like a tulip.

Not too long after that we had an MFM with a guy that we met via another site. His photos did not do him justice. When we started playing she was rubbing both of our dicks through our trousers. She turned to me and said, "I am scared that he is way too big." I told her that he had already agreed with me that he would take it easy and if she could not take his dick, that was OK with him and he would be very happy with just a hand job.

He and I worked together for almost an hour giving her foreplay and oral until she was very hot and had a very strong climax. He was gentle putting his 9X6 dick in her, taking time for her to adjust. When he got about 6" in she said that it was hitting bottom and it was all she could take. He had sex with her for almost an hour and she loved it. He never tried to put that last 3 inches in her pussy.

After a break, he and I got her hot again, and she had her first anal with him. Before she had always been scared to try anal with me. But, she was so hot and turned on that she agreed to let him try. He was able to put all 9 inches in her ass, she loved it, and he was able to fuck her hard, pounding her ass for over 30 minutes before he came. Afterwards he said that her ass was not as tight as her pussy.

This time she was not sore and after he left, we had a hot after-session that night, the next, and the next.

Oh, her pussy is still as tight as ever, but now we make sure she cums, or almost cums, sometimes before we have sex or always before any other guy has sex with her. We caution guys with dicks longer than mine to not go too deep. She tells them if they hit bottom and to back off a bit. They have all cooperated very happily. And, we are back in the swing of things.

[BiloxiCouple]

Originally Posted by matt1s3

My current girlfriend finds it to be so large and the fact that I last at least 15 minutes if I concentrate hard that she's so sore after sex she won't sleep with me again for at least a few days.

Listen to her. Sounds like she is hurting. Talk to her and see if there is something that can be done different.

I'm used to having sex every day and like it that way. Tonight she made some comments about our sex not being as often as past boyfriends due to these issues. I don't get it. She doesn't seem much smaller at least as I can feel than anyone else and most others get used to it after a week or so and the rest love it.

She's not your past women and not most others getting "used to it". Again talk to her and listen to her. She is the one you are with now. She just may not be able to deal with the size.

Size has been discussed here before and some women didn't enjoy an overly large penis. Large Penises I am sure there are other discussions posted here before that may help if you do a search.

Good luck.

[good times]

Having experienced this same thing with several women I just have to say that it is all about technique. If you are above average, size wise, you have to develop different techniques that allow you to enjoy the sex while not hurting the woman. It really isn't hard, and some of the positions that limit penetration depth are a lot of fun.

[matt1s3]

Originally Posted by good times

Having experienced this same thing with several women I just have to say that it is all about technique. If you are above average, size wise, you have to develop different techniques that allow you to enjoy the sex while not hurting the woman. It really isn't hard, and some of the positions that limit penetration depth are a lot of fun.

I think this is the best route. Previous gf's have enjoyed rougher play and I guess it's become habit. Ironically, the woman I dated with by far the smallest vagina enjoyed it rough. She had a lot of trouble but loosened up after a few minutes and all was good. My new playmate doesn't seem to react as well. Spooning seems to be a better bet so far.

The time it takes me to finish is as big if not a bigger problem then my size. I typically need at least 10 or 15 minutes to cum if I concentrate on it really hard. otherwise I can go for 30 minutes or more. She ends up so sore and torn up that it takes another 4 or 5 days before she's ready again.

It's sad because in high school and college, this is every guys dream but it sucks! I used to have various turn ons that I could fantasize about that would help me finish faster but recently, nothing comes to mind that really helps speed the process up.

I just hope that frequency will help ease things, I'll work on my technique and stop without coming or something if needs be. That's not even a big deal to me. I just wantt o have sex with her more often. She's amazing.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by matt1s3

The time it takes me to finish is as big if not a bigger problem then my size. I typically need at least 10 or 15 minutes to cum if I concentrate on it really hard. otherwise I can go for 30 minutes or more. She ends up so sore and torn up that it takes another 4 or 5 days before she's ready again.

A woman's lubrication varies based on several factors, even within one play session. Once she starts hurting and starts thinking about how she wishes you would finish so she could stop hurting, she's likely not turned-on enough to keep lubricating. I think that the hornier I am and the more I am wanting it, the wetter I am. If I'm tired or something, less wet. If I were being hurt and anxiously waiting for it to stop, I'd probably dry up (and of course this isn't intentional). THAT is what will tear a woman up, lack of lubrication. Simple and obvious question, but...do you use a good lube? This should help immensely. This, combined with gentler strokes and more of a lovemaking approach rather than the rough sex will help a lot.

[Tenatious]

Position Position Position. Ther are some that don't let you fully enter try them and find the best. GL........to your lady

[GoNatural]

Oooh, definitely some wise words from Tybee Swing. The wetness factor, lube, and gentle strokes. Nice......!

[NumbskullsX2]

Are you sure it's your tremendously huge penis thats making sex with your GF uncomfortible, and not a dangerously enlarged bullshit gland?

[sexcupid]

OP the 'average' time it takes most people to orgasm is approximately 15 mintues. Sometimes more, some times less depending on the situation.

Maybe I have been spoiled by my choice is sex partners, but 15 mintues is 'quick' to me. 30 min...is at least the 'average'...and others is an hour or 4. Although I did have one who was a 5 min man. It was not a good experience, so moving on.

This should be obvious, but do you take the time for foreplay? Getting your girlfriend relaxed and turned on is beneficial to both of you. Most guys are visual and tactile people. I can't even get a backrub from my SO without him ending up with a hard on (between the actual touching and the sighs from me, guess it does him in ).

Take the time to touch her, bring her to at least one orgasm, have a good lube handy and be more gentle (since obviously the rough sex isn't working for her). You may need to do this a few times so she realizes that sex with you doesn't have to be a painful experience.

As for feeling 'sore and torn up'....I wouldn't expect to feel that way unless it was a 4 or 5 hour session, but that's just me. My ex-husband was about 8.5-9" and in the 8 years we were together I can only count a handful of times that he hurt me from having sex.

Good luck,

Maria

[matt1s3]

Originally Posted by NumbskullsX2

Are you sure it's your tremendously huge penis thats making sex with your GF uncomfortible, and not a dangerously enlarged bullshit gland?

I'm the original poster. Apparantly the new mods don't allow anonymous posting. Your post is exactly the reason I posted anonymously. I knew some idiot with pull the bullshit line. What would I get out of posting about my "large" penis anonymously on an internet forum?

I even commented that it's not the biggest I believe. I don't particularly think I'm huge. I'm about 8.5 to be exact although I haven't measured in a long, long time. I don't get off knowing I have a big penis. I was simply posting because I feel down on myself that my girlfriend is not enjoying sex as much with me because of this.

I did my part to not make this sound like a bragging post and yet someone like you still had to take their shot.