she gets sore/itchy after oral?

[michianacouple]

Hello everyone,

New members but have been here a number of times reading the forums.

This is something that will happen to her after a MFM sometimes. She will get a sore itchy crotch. It seems to be with men that are ruff. (not real good at oral).
Are there any other Ladies here that have the same problem? And what have you tried that works to Stop the Itch.

Thanks

[lovinher]

This is something that will happen to her after a MFM sometimes. She will get a sore itchy crotch. It seems to be with men that are ruff. (not real good at oral).

This is a stretch I know, but how about telling the guy not to be so rough.
OR
Shave?

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by michianacouple

It seems to be with men that are ruff. (not real good at oral).

My hubby has a trimmed beard and mustache, and he never makes me sore and itchy. I wonder if this happens with men who have 5:00 shadow stubble, just enough growth to be scratchy?

Originally Posted by michianacouple

...And what have you tried that works to Stop the Itch.

I haven't had the problem, but if I was with a man who was scratching the hell out of me and on top of that wasn't any good at oral, I'd end the oral real fast (switch gears to something more pleasant). He'd likely not be invited back a second time....and that would work to Stop The Itch.

[Tybee Swing]

By the way...
to you both!!

[michianacouple]

Thanks for the replys.


She will speak up and give direction – it seems that they will listen for a min then back at the “Blind Puppy in a meat house” routine and sometimes they get a bit rough. :brickwall
She has stopped the massacre and changed the playing field. (I end up doing the licking , which I do not mind)
She also has done the no return visits route.

I am wondering if it may be a bacteria/germ issue. She is a delicate flower.

[michianacouple]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

By the way...
to you both!!

Tybee Swing

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by michianacouple

She will speak up and give direction – it seems that they will listen for a min then back at the “Blind Puppy in a meat house” routine and sometimes they get a bit rough. :brickwall
She has stopped the massacre and changed the playing field. (I end up doing the licking , which I do not mind)
She also has done the no return visits route.

I am wondering if it may be a bacteria/germ issue. She is a delicate flower.

Hey guys,

One of the things that surprised us when we started swinging is how rough some people can be. I guess that in some cases it's just over-enthusiasm or something? I was most surprised about women. I thought women would have a gentle touch, but I've personally found many women to be rougher than men. We both like more feel-good sex rather than "assault style" sex. :surrender We love enthusiasm, though! Enthusiasm and passion with a tender touch is perfect.

If I were in your wife's shoes, I'd tell them the moment they are being too rough, to be more gentle. The moment they "forget", I'd tell them again (a little more clearly & firmly this time). 3 strikes, and they'd be out.

[rpu3]

Any thought that it could be a yeast infection, which often produces itching or does it only happen with the men that are not minimally capable in the oral sex department?

My thought is that sometimes what a man consumes prior to performing oral sex (some wines, beer and bread for instance) can cause issues for women that are a bit prone to yeast infections.

Just a thought.

Sorry about your luck in the "not so great at oral sex" department. So far, I've been mostly lucky in that regard. Like you and Tybee, I'm not inclined to continue if it's terrible nor am I repeating that experience.

[michianacouple]

Originally Posted by rpu3

Any thought that it could be a yeast infection, which often produces itching or does it only happen with the men that are not minimally capable in the oral sex department?

It is not a Yeast Infection. (If it is, it is a very mild one with out the usual symptoms) She will feel fine then it is like someone is chewing on her again! There was One Gentleman that was very good at Oral (Used his tongue only-she loves it) and she did not have any problem later.

Originally Posted by rpu3

My thought is that sometimes what a man consumes prior to performing oral sex (some wines, beer and bread for instance) can cause issues for women that are a bit prone to yeast infections.

Just a thought.

We have though that it may be something they have ate or drank before we played with them also. Even a Breath Mint or candy (the sugar can cause trouble) may be the cause of the problem.
We or she has been told to try Acidophilus a probiotics to keep her “good bacteria and PH” at good levels. Has anyone tried it?

Originally Posted by rpu3

Sorry about your luck in the "not so great at oral sex" department. So far, I've been mostly lucky in that regard. Like you and Tybee, I'm not inclined to continue if it's terrible nor am I repeating that experience.

Maybe, she is just too use to the way I do it? We have been together for close to 30 years, married for 27. She will tell them to use just their tongue but they seem to always go back to the “Blind Puppy in a Meat House” and get too Ruff.

Thanks for the reply rpu3

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by michianacouple

We or she has been told to try Acidophilus a probiotics to keep her “good bacteria and PH” at good levels. Has anyone tried it?

Yes, but I take it for overall health, not particularly swinging. Here's a thread on this board about acidopilus and probiotics, and about how a healthy, low-sugar diet prevents yeast infections (especially posts #10-14): http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ad.php?t=32327

Originally Posted by michianacouple

Maybe, she is just too use to the way I do it? We have been together for close to 30 years, married for 27. She will tell them to use just their tongue but they seem to always go back to the “Blind Puppy in a Meat House” and get too Ruff.

She likes what she likes, and if what she's used to is what she likes best, that's what she should get. I'll bet that most women wouldn't like that "meat house" routine. The men who are with her need to respond to what she wants. Her job is to communicate her wishes clearly, and their job is to respond in kind. If they can't, out they go!

Are you playing mainly with single guys? You might have better luck with couples. Is your wife reading here? Mrs. michianacouple, accept no less than what you really want. If their technique sucks and they aren't listening to you, out with them!

[michianacouple]

Thanks Tybee Swing for the information. We have been busy and have not checked in. She has not seen your last post but we will look at the thread you have listed next time we are on.
We have only played with single guys.
Thanks

[Zoe&Wash]

I used to always get a yeast infection whenever I took antibiotics, like Penicillin.

What works for me now (and almost completely eliminates the soreness and itch) is to eat lots of yogurt.

Check the labels for a variety that contains acidophillus, and eat some early the same day you know you'll be meeting someone, then at least twice a day over the next 2-3 days. If it's a yeast infection, that may solve the problem.

You can also buy acidophillus in pill form. It's in the same place with the vitamins.

Good luck!

Z

[daisy girl]

If they are too rough and they do not change their technique after being given verbal cues...they are not good lovers. A wonderful lover is one who is attentive.

I recently had a new partner that was way too rough. I stopped him and told him. He adjusted his technique...if he hadn't, I would have stopped and ended the session.

Roughness can be problematic. You can get a yeast or bacterial infection from having a rough partner. Also, the 5 o'clock shadows can be murder!!!

[michianacouple]

Originally Posted by Tybee Swing

Yes, but I take it for overall health, not particularly swinging. Here's a thread on this board about acidopilus and probiotics, and about how a healthy, low-sugar diet prevents yeast infections (especially posts #10-14): http://www.swingersboard.com/forums/...ad.php?t=32327

Hello Tybee Swing,
We got the post read, thanks very good.


Also, thank you: Zoe&Wash and daisy girl for your replies.

michianacouple