Anal fears for her

[couple4fun2821]

OK this thread might turn off some of you off. My wife loves anal and I have always given her the green light to do what ever she wants to in our play. SHe is the one that is hesitant to do it. She is a bit embarrassed sometimes. So let me tell you guys why and you tell me if it's normal or what the best advice is.
SHe loves anal but we don't do it that often, maybe once every two or three months. I think the reason is that it still hurts her a lot at first so it takes a while to get going. Anyway when we are done having anal sex, she has to go to the bathroom and, well, do her business. I have no problem with this, I don't think it's gross, hell its my wife I think she is sexy no matter what. My view is that I am just lucky to be down there in the first place.
Anyway, she really wants to give the guy of our favorite couple the chance to do her anally, as he has never done it before, but is scared he might be turned off by the "after effects" and not want to be with her again. So is this normal for females to have to go the the bathroom after anal, or what advice can you give? When ever we do it, she tries to not eat that day. Hell we really don't know, we have always been embarrassed to ask advice on the subject

[wildcherry]

ok i need to know this one too! cause it happens to me too! sooo i am sure its normal. right?????

[Chicup]

I can't help with the whole issue but reading this thread did remind me of a quote....

"What is it about good sex that makes me have to crap? You really jarred something loose tiger. "

[SouthBond]

Somebody once said, when you have a turd up your ass, you usually have the urge to take a dump. Sphincter muscles hold the door shut in the anus. How many times a day does she go to the bathroom? Does she have to immediately go to the bathroom, after eating a large meal? Does she have a problem with anal leakage? If your wife has normal bowl movements, she probably doesn't have any medical problems. She may have weak anal sphincter muscles. You know what that means. More exercise. We recommend daily anal massage with your anal therapy tool. And this may not be weak muscles, just a mental trigger that says something large is in the colon and you need to go to the bathroom. Either way, conditioning exercise is probably the key. Now, if your "happy stick" is on the giant size and wife experiences bleeding or trauma to that area, you may need to refrain from the activity. If that is true, I know at least three women that would like to meet you.

[tribbles]

It's normal for me.

I just warn people ahead of time that I'm not a porn star. I eat and poop.

[sexcupid]

Well...since this thread seems to smack of TMI...

We don't have anal that often (I think it's been at least a year or so)...but even for anal play (massage, fingers, ect)...I prefer to go to the bathroom first (sometime within the 2 or 3 hours before playtime)...afterwards I don't feel the need to go for a bathroom trip. Showers before and after that kind of play are a must for me too. (Before to be all nice and clean, but i prefer a shower before any kind of playtime really... and afterwards to clean up all the lube we used )

Good luck...I'm sure the other guy will be happy about the new experience, and may not realize that there is a little more prep time (before or after) than just vaginal sex.

Maria

[couple4fun2821]

We do the whole prep thing. Wash a lot... (I like to give a bit of oral down there).. She doesnt eat the day.. She is a "regular" girl.. Wow this thread is very personal. LOL Anyway, we have followed all the suggestions we can find as far as hygiene and technique. It's just the after effects she is concerned with. I am sure that the guy will be fine with what ever. Hell he will just be happy to finally get in there. I mean we are clean, clean people after all.. and like I always say... I am just lucky to be down there.

[Chicup]

I can't say I've ever understood the fascination with sticking things in someones asshole when there is a superior hole only a couple of inches away.

[DBL D]

So far it seems that the only ones answering are those who don't have anal sex that often. C'mon...let's hear from the experienced ones who do it almost every time they have sex. PLEASE?

The answer is that it is normal. You try to prepare. You come out "clean" but then she has to go. Let her go! My goodness, haven't any of us had to go after or during sex?...Whether #1 or# 2?

If you want to do anal and not have pain...the answer is simple...do it more often with an implement that will match your partner...or...use your partner. It is a muscle and it will learn certain behaviors as any other muscle group.

Chicup...I know it was an opinion...but that is what makes the world go around!

Male D

[dingdong69]

Hey guys, what about using an enema twice an hour before, it worked for us everytime, it is very simple to use you can find it in every drugstore and it really cleans very well and it saves you from an embarrased situation, you are lucky your wife loves it, try it with an MFM threesome that's double the pleasure.
I'm not an expert, but I've got to stay in a hollyday inn last nigth.

[curiousswingers]

YUP its normal, and is he really gonna know or care what she is doing in there anyway? probably not.

[turnuptheheat]

Originally Posted by dingdong69

Hey guys, what about using an enema twice an hour before, it worked for us everytime, it is very simple to use you can find it in every drugstore and it really cleans very well and it saves you from an embarrased situation, you are lucky your wife loves it, try it with an MFM threesome that's double the pleasure.
I'm not an expert, but I've got to stay in a hollyday inn last nigth.

That is the answer that porn stars would give. Part of routine prep is to clean out before anal.
Clean out reduces clean up.
Good luck.

[WesternSwing]

Mrs. WS loves anal and this has been the same concern she has had in the past. In short, to excuse herself and use the facilities afterward is normal. I don't think anyone - especially one who has just had the pleasure of experiencing that with her - would think twice about it.

Mr. WS

[couple4fun2821]

Thanks WesternSwing.

[Tom4Fun]

That is a normal event. Every girl I have ever had anal with, had to do go to the bathroom afterwards. It isn't unique to your wife and it isn't an odd thing too happen. So again it is normal.