Anal fears for her

[deanncat]

Wow, this is a good question, I also like anal sex and my hubby gets this fun about twice a month, sometimes I have to go to the bathroom afterwards sometimes I don't, if I thinking about that day and thats what I want, I do make sure I go before the fun, but I think most people have said the right thing, them men are just happy they get to experience it and they don't care what goes on in the bathroom afterwards.

[TXCPL1137]

Originally Posted by couple4fun2821

OK this thread might turn off some of you off. My wife loves anal and I have always given her the green light to do what ever she wants to in our play. SHe is the one that is hesitant to do it. She is a bit embarrassed sometimes. So let me tell you guys why and you tell me if it's normal or what the best advice is.
SHe loves anal but we don't do it that often, maybe once every two or three months. I think the reason is that it still hurts her a lot at first so it takes a while to get going. Anyway when we are done having anal sex, she has to go to the bathroom and, well, do her business. I have no problem with this, I don't think it's gross, hell its my wife I think she is sexy no matter what. My view is that I am just lucky to be down there in the first place.
Anyway, she really wants to give the guy of our favorite couple the chance to do her anally, as he has never done it before, but is scared he might be turned off by the "after effects" and not want to be with her again. So is this normal for females to have to go the the bathroom after anal, or what advice can you give? When ever we do it, she tries to not eat that day. Hell we really don't know, we have always been embarrassed to ask advice on the subject

While Anal is fun, exciting, erotic, its also very dangerous. Anal is the main transport of Aids.

We for one couple choose not to do Anal, or play with those who do Anal.

Aids is just not worth it for us.

TXCPL1137 AOL

[WesternSwing]

Originally Posted by TXCPL1137

While Anal is fun, exciting, erotic, its also very dangerous. Anal is the main transport of Aids.

We for one couple choose not to do Anal, or play with those who do Anal.

Aids is just not worth it for us.

TXCPL1137 AOL

There is an air of truthiness to this, but it is not the truth. Anal is the main transport of aids for gay males, but for a woman transmission vaginally is just as dangerous as anally.

Mr. WS

[good times]

Originally Posted by WesternSwing

but for a woman transmission vaginally is just as dangerous as anally.

Mr. WS

Not according to the research, which indicates that for otherwise healthy women, the rate of transmission through vaginal sex is far less than the rate of transmission through anal. Even the most pessimistic researchers put the difference at greater than 200 to 1.

[joaninla]

One more for the "yes it's normal' column. I enjoy anal sex alot, but always prepare (enema, wash, etc.). Knowing I am extra clean allows me to relax sooner and enjoy the pleasure.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by couple4fun2821

She doesnt eat that day..

Originally Posted by dingdong69

Hey guys, what about using an enema twice an hour before

Starving all day or enemas....this is fun for who? no thanks! :rollseyes

[zztx1]

This post confirms the reality of anal sex rather than the fantasy that men and women see in films and in expectations. Unless the woman takes great care to cleanse, a bowel movement is common. Reserviing anal sex for close partners is common because of these issues. I personally have been turned off by having a dirty condomn so it is a practice reserved for special relationships.

[driveajeepnaked]

This thread reminded me of this

YouTube video

Sorry for the drift...

Valarie

[mwcohio]

We rarely have any problems. A bowel movement, followed by a good shower with a little finger cleaning, and you should be pristine and good to go. You can tell when you go, wether its going to be a good night for it or not.

[Chicup]

My thoughts on anal are pretty simple.

Four billion years or so we have developed a tube that works in one direction. Sticking things in that tube to go the other way is bound to lead to some issues.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by Chicup

My thoughts on anal are pretty simple.

Four billion years or so we have developed a tube that works in one direction. Sticking things in that tube to go the other way is bound to lead to some issues.

Chicup ~ Your comment really amused me. You being a doctor, you've probably been sticking things up people's asses for awhile now.

And if not, you know someone else in the hospital who does.

LM

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by Chicup

"What is it about good sex that makes me have to crap? You really jarred something loose tiger. "

King Pin...

...and I missed this:

Originally Posted by LikeMinds

Chicup ~ Your comment really amused me. You being a doctor, you've probably been sticking things up people's asses for awhile now.

And if not, you know someone else in the hospital who does.

LM

:lmao: I have to admit I was thinking exactly the same thing as Chicup. While I can appreciate that lots of people enjoy anal, I just don't. I need to be sloppy drunk and in a pretty nasty mood to enjoy it even a little. And the affter-effects aren't fun either. So unfortunately Mr. intuition (who happens to really like anal) doesn't get to play that game very often.

Sorry folks, I know I'm not being much help. Just typing to hear myself talk.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by LikeMinds321

Chicup ~ Your comment really amused me. You being a doctor, you've probably been sticking things up people's asses for awhile now.

And if not, you know someone else in the hospital who does.

LM

I was smart enough to avoid that sort of medicine

Note though, doctors do that because something is wrong, not because its a good thing to do.

[apraskov]

For me is more of a mental turn-on. It's the doing the thing you are not supposed to, not so much the thing itself. Also, my wife usually have very powerful orgasm when she is in the mood. The side effects is the price paid. It does not bother me. I've read an enema before the event helps, but we have yet to try it.

Originally Posted by Chicup

I can't say I've ever understood the fascination with sticking things in someones asshole when there is a superior hole only a couple of inches away.

[ShellyM]

Jay and I do not honestly do anal very often. For me it just feels like someone is ripping my ass out, not fun. Rarely we can, but usually after a hot shower when my muscles are really relaxed. Anyways. I have a friend who does LOVE it. When she knows that she is going to enjoy anal that evening she does an enema. She said that it works great, and gives her enough confidence to relax. You HAVE to relax if you do anal....and as clean conscious as women are I think alot will NOT relax simply because she is afraid that she will make a mess. So I think an enema is a good option, if for nothing else that it will allow her to forget about that aspect and just relax and enjoy.
Now, you have to understand that sometimes messes happen. Married men can relate to this....having sex with a woman on her menstrual cycle you understand this. You just use a towel, wash the sheets and deal with it. Its not dirty, just a normal body function. If she has a bm after whats the big deal? If a dirty condom turns you off then definately anal is not for you, and thats fine. But I don't see it as dirty.
Shelly