Is anal sex dangerous in the long run?

[lott]

HI, I would like to know from personal experiences if anal sex leads to problems in the long run for people?

[Neofree]

Not if you do it carefully. Use lots of lube. Clean afterwards. Go very slow until you find your limits. Ass to mouth is not really a good idea. It is possible to tear things up down there if you're not gentle. Just got to take it easy, be patient. Doesnt always work the first time.

[sereneiders]

I guess it deppends on everyone's anatomy, feeding habits, and practice. I've known women (and males, too... altough not from personal experience) who enjoy anal, even pretty rough, without any problem in the long run... and also of others who wouldn't be able to take a finger up there.

Now that I think, at least a half of the gay community engage in anal, some pretty often, and most of them foesn't face problems on the long run.

Moreover, unless being pretty extreme in a way too often fashion (as in the BDSM), doing abusive things, I hardly believe anything that could be perceived as a "long run problem from anal sex" would actually have to do with anal sex.

It's way, WAY WAY more easy to have problems there from feeding habits like eating speacy food and alcohol, overweight and so, like...developing hemoroids and bad tearings, than just from having anal sex, even if too often.

[prettylady]

If you take it slow, use lube, and be patient then I hear it can be fantastic.
I was told once that it can take several attempts before the actual act can be done. so perhaps don't do it if you are horney as hell. People tend to act before they think when they are horney enough.
It was also suggested to me to use toys first. small toys with a stopper(avoid late night embarassing visits to the hospital) . We have a sex shop here in town that caters to women and it has a great write up on how to prepare for anal.
I am still to scared to relax enough to let Dog try and being relaxed is the key here.
www.libidolondon.com
I am not computer savey so if this didn't work I am sorry. But here is the link incase you want to have a look.
Always get advice from a reliable source try and avoid the porn sites for advice, they can get pretty scarry.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[NakedInSeattle]

Just glad you didnt pose the question this way..."Is anal sex dangerous in the end?"

[2TexasTornados]

We were married for many years before I got up the courage to try (DH didn't really ever ask me, just assumed correctly that I wasn't interested). The first couple of times, it was too painful to get more than just an inch inside, so we stopped. I researched heavy duty lube and tried to psych myself up to relax and try to enjoy it. We used waterproof lube in the tub the next time we tried (our parts were above the water, but I wanted to be in the tub because of my hygeine issues about it). That time, it worked! He was very slow, but in just a few seconds, he was all the way in and nothing hurt. I was floored that I had actually "accomplished" such a thing, and we've since incorporated it occasionally into our play with no pain, no problems.

[subtoMistressT]

We have been doing it for a long time. Me and others for her, her to me with a strap-on. We have had lots of fun with it. No long term effects. Like others on here have stated, take it slow at first. Use lots of lube. Dilate slowly with fingers, thumbs, vibrators, etc. Once inside you stop, relax and let things calm down. Stroke very slowly and gradually increase the speed. Mistress T can have multiple orgasms doing it.

[flkeyscouple]

We've had anal sex on and off for 23 years - not on a regular basis until the last 2 years and not terribly often even now - but maybe once a month is probably about right these days. So far no 'bad' or 'dangerous' side effects!! Take it slow and easy.

[SuAndBud]

Same here as flkeyscouple.

We only do anal about once or twice a month. It's always at Su's instigation as it is her that has got to be relaxed and "up-for-it". Bud finds the whole "naughty-badness" of it exciting and it makes Su that little bit more slutty for wanting it. Su finds that Bud hits spots that aren't hit in vaginal penetration although she doesn't orgasm from it. She does, however, orgasm from double penetration (doesn't she just ).

We also began doing it very early on in the relationship (about the third or fourth time we had sex). In each of our previous relationships, it wasn't practiced at all. Somethings either happen quickly or are deemed "too pervy" if brought up after a relationship is established, we believe (maybe we're wrong). It does bring a whole new perspective to love and sex. The trust and care required to ensure no (or as little as possible) pain results makes us feel very spiritually close to each other indeed.

The first time it was like a gift from Su to Bud. Bud's always careful to treat the gift with the care and respect it deserves.

As far as long term damage. We can think of no reason why there should be provided that care is taken. Extreme anal sex (fisting or Double-Anal, for instance) could, we'd imagine, result in less control of the anal entrance resulting in not being able to stop a fart, for instance (but maybe not - the bodies orifices are remarkably elastic.

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by prettylady

If you take it slow, use lube, and be patient then I hear it can be fantastic.
I was told once that it can take several attempts before the actual act can be done. so perhaps don't do it if you are horney as hell. People tend to act before they think when they are horney enough.
It was also suggested to me to use toys first. small toys with a stopper(avoid late night embarassing visits to the hospital) . We have a sex shop here in town that caters to women and it has a great write up on how to prepare for anal.

Your friend,
Prettylady

Hey PL....what kind of write up? That might be an interesting read.

For me, I have to be extra worked up and relaxed. It may work for you, I can go into more detail in private message if you would like. Don't really want to hi-jack the thread here.

For the OP, I think as long as you are courteous and use plenty of lube I think the only problem would be if one partner desires it more than the other.

Maria

[TerryforSex]

rip and tear

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by TerryforSex

rip and tear

Your friend,
Prettylady

"Hey PL....what kind of write up? That might be an interesting read."

Follow the link I provided. I can't remember where in the website I found it. But there is plenty there to read.

[SuAndBud]

One thing to bear in mind is the transfer of bacteria from the bum to the pussy. Ignore all the porno films and don't do vaginal sex after anal unless you want to risk severe infection.

There are bacteria there that seem to be specifically geared up to attack the kidneys ("Always wipe from front to back" is good advice!). Mother nature's got a very strange sense of humour - putting the pussy and the anus so close together, in that case. Guys can suffer similarly but are less inclined to (maybe it's cuz any germs have to travel thru the dick and the testicles - the dick alone would be a hell of a treck, in Bud's case :rollseyes ).

The one and only time we got carried away and ignored this, resulted in Su feeling a bit sick a few days after. We thought it was a flu thing, but she got worse and worse until around 4 or 5 days later, she collapsed. We went to the doc who took a blood test. We then went home and Su was quite feverish and very pale and very weak. After a few hours, the doctor phoned me and said "can you drive?" I said "yes". He said "take her to the hospital NOW, I'll phone them and tell them to expect you". Within an hour, Su was on a drip in a hospital ward and with staff all over her. Seems she had gotten a kidney infection and her kidneys were on the point of shutting down. It really was that serious. Su was kept in hospital for 8 says!

Prior to (and deffinately since) that little adventure, we always shower during sex sessions, especially if any anal play has occurred.

But that's a short-term, not a long term risk.

A risk though to consider as apparently Su might have died.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by SuAndBud

A risk though to consider as apparently Su might have died.

Good lord, thank God she is alright.
Thank you for sharing. It always brings the warnings home when you hear a story of someone you know (kinda anyway) having an experience this terrible.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by prettylady

Follow the link I provided. I can't remember where in the website I found it. But there is plenty there to read.

Ok, I saw it and found the article. Didn't see the link the first time I read it. :surrender

We've found that including a massage helps the relaxation part of things...not to mention everyone is already nice and oily...*lol*

And wow to Su n Bud...definitely will have a wash up/clean up session before switching around.