It's in the kiss...

[Amanda69]

I have a theory...really it is one of a few theories I have about sex. I have tested out this theory and yes it has gone above the amount needed for some statistical accuracy.

My theory is this....if they can't kiss erotically then they aren't worth trying in bed as they aren't any good there either. At first I thought I was imagining this phenomena but after many, many tests (I am dedicated to my research) I found it to be true.

Has anyone else experienced this? Do you even bother to go past a lousy kiss? For those who don't kiss in the lifestyle, how do you tell if you will be sexually compatible with someone?

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Amanda69

Do you even bother to go past a lousy kiss?

Kissing is a weird animal. Maybe I am picky, particular or peculiar, but more women than not that I have played with aren't really good kissers. Chances are, though, they simply don't kiss the way I like it - or am used to it.

The most common kiss going is the stiff tongue thrust shallowly into the mouth, blocking my tongue from doing much more than pressing back. I have met a few who kiss "just right"* and when I have my immediate response is "yummy, I'm kissing you again!"

But - I will say that a bad kiss does not always mean bad sex, weak chemistry or lame playmate. Many seem to be able to do other things quite well and leave me grinning for days, regardless of the kiss that we probably started and ended with.

Maybe kissing is just one of those things I prefer a certain way - while everything else makes for exciting variety. (?)

I would be interested to see how you theory resonates with different genders. My guess is (and this is just a theory itself) women will be able to make a better connection between kissing and quality play than men will.

Spoomonkey

*"Just right" is entirely subjective.

[Tia Vampire]

i do kiss and you are very correct in your findings Amanda. i hate a losy kisser. if the kiss is not good, neither is the sex. as a matter of fact, i was once w/ a guy that was a very good kisser. i loved his kisses better than the sex. we would do alot of kissing and that was it. i'm a kisser too. i love a kiss better than sex or alot of kissing during sex.

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

My guess is (and this is just a theory itself) women will be able to make a better connection between kissing and quality play than men will.

I asked Mrs Spoo this question and she said that she absolutely could see a connection; then she started listing off the good kissers - and they were all her favorite playmates. There are a couple of bad kisser/good playmate exceptions, but for the most part, she agrees with your theory.

Spoomonkey

[JP51]

Dito the ladies here all agree...and so do I.

[two_newinhfx]

Strange as it is, the best sex I've ever had is with someone who wasn't a great kisser. Maybe the exception to the rule, but it's true.

[ohash01]

I don't necessarily discount a not-great kisser. Perhaps they just haven't been with me before and don't know what I like...or maybe they're nervous...or maybe they think I'm so hot that they're salivating for me?

However, I prefer great kissers. If someone kisses me the way I like (see other post - it explains my 2 preferred methods), that's all they have to do. I am automatically ready to go. Who needs foreplay if you have a great kisser? Not me!