Where to cum

My wife and I have very limited experience, IMHO. We've done 3 MFMs and are looking to do our first swap someday. I've seen a lot of discussion and some short video clips. This is my observation: Am I wrong, or do men usually pull out and shoot off on the woman's body, face, etc? As for the wife and I, during our MFMs we insist on the man cumming inside of her (with condoms, of course). As for our potential first swap: I would want and expect the same thing for myself. I mean, it is the instinct of man to want to cum inside a woman rather than pull out and masterbate himself to completion, etc. So, why are so many men cumming outside of their female partners? What is the logic here? If it's safe sex, well they're too late for that by the time they reach climax. If it's pregnancy avoidance, there are other ways which, at the same time, will satisfy the primal need to cum inside of a woman. In sum, I just don't get it and and am wondering if this will be an issue as swapping progresses.

Thanks all.

Lawguy

[meandher2go]

for us, she likes to watch a guy cum and it excites her to see it on her

[DGrey]

Dito For me, it's great to be able to see the man completely finish and to feel his finish just as he can see and feel mine.

E

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by currentlyanon

So, why are so many men cumming outside of their female partners? What is the logic here? .... In sum, I just don't get it and and am wondering if this will be an issue as swapping progresses.

Are you seeing it in porn? In our swinging experiences, we haven't come across this. We use condoms always, and the men normally finish in one woman or the other.

However, in porn, cumming outside is the norm and it's called "the money shot". I guess that cumming inside the woman just isn't good video, compared to the spewing shot, and people want to see it. LOL

[Chicup]

So, why are so many men cumming outside of their female partners? What is the logic here?

In videos/porno its the 'money shot' to prove they really 'did it'. The only time we did a pull out was for 'added' pregnancy avoidance, why rely on one method when you can use two. In all of our encounters 'pulling out' has never been a desireable thing.

[TeamSoBe]

My favorite swing partner specifically asks me for it. "I like it on my belly" I'd rather keep it in there and throb like I do at home but I do whatever she wants if it will make her happy.

[JnCC]

Originally Posted by currentlyanon

why are so many men cumming outside of their female partners? What is the logic here?

Because people mimic what they see in the movies, and unfortunately, too many learned everything they think they know about sex from watching porn.

The problem with porn is that it's usually produced by people who don't enjoy sex, they just film it. Their target audience is usually young (20's) males, and middle-aged (40's) single guys whose main avenue of sexual release comes in front of a TV or computer screen. Neither group are guys one might typically go to to learn the "finer points of lovemaking," if you know what I mean...

What feels right IS right. Enjoy!

[HappyPeople]

Generally, it's good to ask... If you are with a new partner, when you are getting close, just ask the lady if she wants you to pull out and shoot on her belly or not. Some will want you to for her own kink or assurance and some don't, the only way to know is to ask.

[discoandvyper]

I don't think there's really a banket rule that can be used here. Each person/couple has their own tastes. Some want the money shot, some want inside with condoms, and rarely but there you'll find those that want a bareback ride with shot inside.

We prefer condoms and pulling out. You can never be too sure.

[Edison Carter]

Susan here: We always have condoms in use, but if a man is pumping me and ready to come, I do not want to break the rhythm of that moment by making him pull out and come. Everyone seems to be happy with that arrangement-- I know I am

[good times]

Pulling out and cumming is very rare in our experience.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Well like most have referred to here ... it's the "money shot". For porn it is to show the guy really finished and it is an added visual...seeing the woman covered with cum regardless of where that is. (face, breasts, belly...)

For us I prefer to have the man pull out and cum "on me" (boobs, belly). Why? I like to see the fruits of my work If Spoo cums in me I love it. I can feel it...I can feel him pulsating as he finishes. facelick For my playmates with a condom on...well it just sort of takes some of that away So, I like to see it.

Mrs Spoomonkey

[xxoticangel]

Ditto Ms. Spoo's comment. Most times I prefer that Mr. Xxotic cum inside me but with male playpals I actually prefer they pull out and either cum on me or let me finish them orally. Using a condom just takes something away. Besides, it really turns me on to see a guy twitch, jerk, swell, then cum.

Sorry Ms. Spoo. You said it so well I couldn't think of a different way to get my point across.

[Mrs Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

Besides, it really turns me on to see a guy twitch, jerk, swell, then cum.

Sorry Ms. Spoo. You said it so well I couldn't think of a different way to get my point across.

I think you found a great way to get your point across!

No apology necessary

Mrs Spoomonkey

[gsu22]

Originally Posted by xxoticangel

Ditto Ms. Spoo's comment. Most times I prefer that Mr. Xxotic cum inside me but with male playpals I actually prefer they pull out and either cum on me or let me finish them orally. Using a condom just takes something away. Besides, it really turns me on to see a guy twitch, jerk, swell, then cum.

Sorry Ms. Spoo. You said it so well I couldn't think of a different way to get my point across.

So bascially you like them to pull out and just yank the condom off so they can finish on you? I've done that in the past and my fav has been to jack off right on their stomach....near the belly button. I've been so tempted as well to go right back in after the condom is off b/c i know how good it would feel but obviously respecting the wishes of your partners comes first