gf having trouble cumming

hey,

my girlfriend never cummed before and when we started having sex she would say its close but nothing comes out and shes all worried that something wrong with her and i was wondering what can she do to get it flowing

[ForwardWife]

Tell her to relax. Best advice my mom ever gave me. If all she's thinking about is "I have to cum" it most likely won't happen. I worked through it and learned to relax and most importantly, when to relax. I still experience this with my hubby of 5 years. Now it's back to square one, he's hoping for it every time and that's a lot of pressure on a gal. Don't think of that as the be all end all of a sexual encounter. I usually acieve the big o after a really great date and i'm happy relaxed and not as focused on the act, but on enjoying time with him.

[JandT_Elkhart]

Sounds to me like she thinks something is gonna come out, like a guy does?

Most women do NOT have any kind of "squirt". A female orgasm (or so I'm told) is a feeling, not a physical reaction.

Either way I very much feel sorry for what seems to be a majority of women. My wife is multi-orgasmic and can cum pretty much any way she wants. We usualy start out with simple missionary intercourse, about 50 strokes and off she goes! Then, add some finger with the intercoure... and off she goes... then doggie, and off she goes.... then her on top... and off she goes...

[Amanda69]

Took me years to relax enough to cum enjoy it. One thing that definately worked for me was doing for myself at first. Once I learned how to do that I was able to relax more during sex.

I do have one odd trait though, my sex drive takes a real nose dive when I come so I often prefer to leave that till near last whereas men seem to have a need to get the woman to come earlier on...anyone else experience this?

[brutus]

you got to perform oral sex on her and she should cum
Brutus

[HappyPeople]

How old is your girlfriend? From my experience, younger women tend to have sexual pleasure spread out over the course of the act rather than in one climactic moment. As I get older, I find it easier and easier to get the big O.

[imacougarlady]

get your tongue on her clit

[shellshell]

find out if she is freaking out about something else happening ex.passing gas, a bm, ect. if so she needs to relax and not concentrate so much on the negative and celebrate the positive.

[DBL D]

Definitely try to get her to where she's concentrating on nothing but what is happening to her private parts....a tongue on the clit helps.

Male D