I have to rub my clit to enjoy

[looker]

I cannot feel any stimulation unless I am rubbing my clit with my finger during intercourse. I have tried different positions and it doesn't matter I still have to use my fingers. "Grinding" doesn't work either and besides after the first 60 seconds or so I like to be pounded hard and fast.
Now don't get me wrong I like the feeling of a penis in me but only if I am rubbing my clit otherwise I don't feel any sexual stimulation.

I was wondering how common or uncommon this is in women?

[Spoomonkey]

Here are a couple of threads that will probably give you a lot of info on the topic:

Try this and this

Spoomonkey

[Sweet_Candy]

It's not uncommon and have heard this first hand many times.

[fun4Ds]

nothing more pleasureable than a women who has found and knows what it takes.

[looker]

Thank you for replies and the links.

Sometimes I feel that I am a bit odd since I MUST use my finger on my clit in order to enjoy inetrcourse and have and to have an orgasm of course. It would be good to hear that others have to as well.

My husband has told me that he is wondering if it is HIM and not me, that is maybe HE is not doing something right.

We have not been swingers yet but I do wonder if another man could get me off vaginally. That would be interesting and probably very exciting for me. Then maybe I would be able to teach my husband. One of the posters on one of the links that were posted above said that she couldn't get off vaginally until she met her current partner.


This is all speculation of course and probably has nothing to do with my dearest.

One of the posters on one of the links that were posted above said that she couldn't get off vaginally until she met her current partner.

[fun4Ds]

there is nothing absolutly nothing wrong with what you have going on. its been my experiance that women have unique zones when it comes to sex. you know what they say the mind is the biggest sex organ. there are lots of how too books on great sex but i have found that every women is diffrent. it took some time and fun to find mrs.fun's special spots . tell mr.looker to pay attention and let him in on what you like and need. i cant think of anything more enjoyable than having a women saying to me WOW you care. most guys mrs.fun has been with seem to do a likck lick jab jab dam baby how was I. thers alot more to it than that. mrs.fun is one of thoes women who also cant get off without clitoral stimulation and there are alot of erogenous zones on the way there. and im not leaving out that mysterious G spot. now it took a few years, yes, years to find that one. so the main thing you need to work on with your partner is communication.

[nwpacouple16404]

I think as women that we are so used to masterbating by rubbing on our clit that it's just easier done that way. The first time I got off with a guy inside me I was amazed and lol I am still with him. But lately I have been using our little "mighty moe" its a tiny dildo that vibrates like crazy, it works no fail. I have been feeling guilty using "moe" every time to get off, but before I was never guarenteed to get off during sex and now I am . I love "moe" lol if I need a quick fix and hubby isn't around I just use "moe" and can get off in a minute if I want. I use "moe" while I am on top, I put it down on my clit as I fuck him, he likes the vibrating too, and with "moe" I can get off the second I want to so I am always coming with him now.

[sereneiders]

Originally Posted by looker

We have not been swingers yet but I do wonder if another man could get me off vaginally. That would be interesting and probably very exciting for me. Then maybe I would be able to teach my husband.

What happens to you is pretty common and natural. No one yet had been able to prove this is a sexual disfunction, and less to assure this have to do with your partners skills or "grith size" (since you worry about it in your poll).

But, even more important, this would be one of the weakest motivations I ever heard to start swinging!!! You're the one who better know your boddy, no one else, inside or oustide your marriage, inside or outside this galaxy, will be able to know your body better than yourself.

Forget about swinging, buy a dildo, or several, explore yourself, use a dildo to explore the ways the movements would feel better inside you, and if you find them, then teach your hubby. And if you hubby cannot do the same, well, don't blame him for not being skillfull enough.

The main sexual organ is your brain, I bet that's the organ that requires to be properly amused to do the trick, and If your hubby were so anxious about his supposed lack "skills" as you are, if he were also considering swinging as a way to find a "better mate" able to give you what he supposedly cannot, then the organ that isn't being properly amused here, for sure, would be your brain.

[Sweet_Candy]

I don't care how the woman reaches nirvana while I'm playing with her. She can use her hand, BOB, combination of both just as long as she reaches what she is seeking I'm happy.

[2jersey]

I (Mrs. 2Jersey) have been with women who couldn't seem to keep their hands off of their clits when I was providing oral. A large percentage of women (from what I've observed) seem to require manual clit stimulation to reach orgasm.

I have a completely different issue. Touch my G-spot and I'm in ecstasy - but I rarely get off on direct clit stimulation - and when I do it has to be oral, fingers just don't work.

At least your clit is easy for you to reach. I can't reach my G-spot, my fingers are too darn short. I must depend on the generosity of others.

[AlaskanGrown]

Originally Posted by looker

I have tried different positions and it doesn't matter I still have to use my fingers. "Grinding" doesn't work either and besides after the first 60 seconds or so I like to be pounded hard and fast.

Ever consider looking into a vibrating cockring? My SO requires a lot of stimulation and seems to like them.

--The husband Half

[pinquita]

That is great, many women can not withstand manual or even oral stimulation of the clitoris. What happens with oral sex??? if your partner stimulates your clitoris orally, do you enjoy it too???
Do you have orgasms???? what about if your partner orally or manually stimulates you untill orgasm??? would you then be more relaxed for penetration??
I find your kind the best,I am very inclined to orally pleasure and I get enamored w the clitoris and labias.....hope your partner enjoys it too.
Best wishes, you are more than normal, you are an excelent woman.

[DBL D]

I'm just damn glad when a lady has learned that she can use her hands on whatever part of her body (or mine) that she wants to and knows that she can get off that way. Fem D can get off all different kinds of ways and it always amazes me when she does, but if she only had one way to do it and it involved tickling my ear, I'd be damn glad she discovered that way.

Consider yourself lucky girl and go from there.

(Just Damn Glad) Male D

[couple4real]

At first my wife was shy to use her hand on her clit whil sex, and when I noticed that she's go wild during oral sex, I talked to her and we discuced the clitoral orgasm a nd tried to learn more about it, she's begin use her fingers and that was vey good to me and her, also we learned about G-spot and we tried to play the games of G-spot, after that she become able to cum so hard just in vaginal sex.
she told me the better orgasm is the both clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
I advice you to learn more about G-spot, and I think you'll discover somthings you never know about your body.
Other wise I think you'll enjoy with vaginal sex with other man, and thats because the idea (to be with a strnger, or like some women says...Oh is new one inside me...)