Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex?

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-23-2006, 07:24 PM

When it comes to sex, who do you prefer to take the initiative to get things started? Do you have a preference? Would you prefer the guy take the lead, or do you like a forward woman who knows what she wants and goes after it? What about you women? Do you like to take the lead? Or do you prefer to wait?

CuriousInOregon · 01-23-2006, 07:27 PM

VERY good one Julie. I personally am the shy ones that waits to be approached Maybe its the part of me that feels she should have been born in the 1700's where a woman is courted but once approached and shown shes wanted the Real Tigress comes out. My husband on the other hand is a take charge man he has no problems telling anyone he meets how wonderful they are or if the situation is approporiate how much he would like to "get to know her"

Livin24nic8 · 01-23-2006, 07:29 PM

What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

Spoomonkey · 01-23-2006, 07:35 PM

I tend to start things, but if a play partner steps up and takes the lead, I love it!

I've had it happen one time and I think she got the best Spoomonkey had to offer

Spoomonkey

Mrs Spoomonkey · 01-23-2006, 07:42 PM

I prefer to have the man take the lead but it really depends on the mood and the connection between us. Sometimes I'll take the lead. It's rare though, Spoo is definately the one in control and even when I try he turns it around and takes the lead

I sometimes get a little frustrated because there are times when Spoo is taking the lead with the female half and the male half is doing nothing to help me get things start between me and him. There is one couple though that I do take the lead on and leave him no doubt what I want facelick

Mrs Spoomonkey

Dynamar · 01-23-2006, 08:26 PM

Lead... follow... or get out of the way! It really just depends on the circumstances. I'm ambidextrous that way!

sexyshelby · 01-23-2006, 09:29 PM

It depends on the mood, the situation, and the comfort level. I have no problem getting things started, but sometimes I like for the man to take the lead. It really all depends...

~SS

***JustAskJulie*** · 01-23-2006, 09:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Livin24nic8

What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

Sorry about that, blame copy & paste. I've fixed the options to display as they should have read.

**good times** · 01-23-2006, 10:29 PM

I usually pretty much take the lead but if the woman takes the lead that would work for me too.

PrivateDance42 · 01-24-2006, 02:18 PM

My preference is not among the poll options: I am female and I like the other female to take the lead.

Vespertine · 01-24-2006, 06:05 PM

I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours.

Thrax · 01-24-2006, 06:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vespertine

I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours.

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View Poll Results: Who do you prefer to take the lead, sexually?
I am female, I like to take the lead	2	4.08%
I am female, I like for the man to take the lead	8	16.33%
I am female, I don't care who starts it, so long as it starts	8	16.33%
I am male, I like to take the lead	1	2.04%
I am male, I like for the female to take the lead	9	18.37%
I am male, I don't care who starts it, so long as it starts	21	42.86%
Voters: 49. You may not vote on this poll

01-23-2006, 07:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,115 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 58	Who do you prefer to take the lead during sex? When it comes to sex, who do you prefer to take the initiative to get things started? Do you have a preference? Would you prefer the guy take the lead, or do you like a forward woman who knows what she wants and goes after it? What about you women? Do you like to take the lead? Or do you prefer to wait? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

01-23-2006, 07:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
CuriousInOregon Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 601 Location: Oregon Status: Couple/ Single Female SLS Name:CuriousInOregon	Re: Let's Get it Started... VERY good one Julie. I personally am the shy ones that waits to be approached Maybe its the part of me that feels she should have been born in the 1700's where a woman is courted but once approached and shown shes wanted the Real Tigress comes out. My husband on the other hand is a take charge man he has no problems telling anyone he meets how wonderful they are or if the situation is approporiate how much he would like to "get to know her"

01-23-2006, 07:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
Livin24nic8 Active Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: New York	Re: Let's Get it Started... What about, "I am a male, I like a female to take the lead"?

01-23-2006, 07:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? SLS Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Let's Get it Started... I tend to start things, but if a play partner steps up and takes the lead, I love it! I've had it happen one time and I think she got the best Spoomonkey had to offer Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

01-23-2006, 07:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mrs Spoomonkey Disney!All rides are open Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 1,755 Location: Ohio Status: Married SLS Name:spoomonkey	Re: Let's Get it Started... I prefer to have the man take the lead but it really depends on the mood and the connection between us. Sometimes I'll take the lead. It's rare though, Spoo is definately the one in control and even when I try he turns it around and takes the lead I sometimes get a little frustrated because there are times when Spoo is taking the lead with the female half and the male half is doing nothing to help me get things start between me and him. There is one couple though that I do take the lead on and leave him no doubt what I want facelick Mrs Spoomonkey __________________ Love is friendship set aflame

01-23-2006, 08:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dynamar Ready-Willing-Able Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 722 Location: A flyover state Status: Single SLS Name:Dynamar	Re: Let's Get it Started... Lead... follow... or get out of the way! It really just depends on the circumstances. I'm ambidextrous that way! __________________ ~Dynamar

01-23-2006, 09:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
sexyshelby It's not easy being easy. Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,012 Location: In Bed Status: Person	Re: Let's Get it Started... It depends on the mood, the situation, and the comfort level. I have no problem getting things started, but sometimes I like for the man to take the lead. It really all depends... ~SS __________________ What's love got to do with it?

01-23-2006, 10:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,403 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: Let's Get it Started... I usually pretty much take the lead but if the woman takes the lead that would work for me too. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

01-24-2006, 02:18 PM	#10 (permalink)
PrivateDance42 Active Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 30 Location: California	Re: Let's Get it Started... My preference is not among the poll options: I am female and I like the other female to take the lead.

01-24-2006, 06:05 PM	#11 (permalink)
Vespertine Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,688 Location: Shangri La Status: Happily Married	Re: Let's Get it Started... I like to be led... on a leash, on all fours. __________________ Ves The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral.

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