My Labido disappeared, what now?????

[KittKatt]

UPDATE....

test results are still normal on the blood count and thyroid. doc did an exam of the thyroid as well, all was fine.

return friday for more testing,, and all my symptoms are still here, not wantin' much affection these days....just ache too much

so far relationship seems better and pray it stays that way

we are going to donate our home and time for Katrina victims.....
and never forget, things could always be worse......be so thankful for what we have

xoxoxo C

[Chicup]

Don't forget to work out too

[KittKatt]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Don't forget to work out too

You sound like my doctor.....hmmmm i smell conspiracy
Seriously, she wants me to also for the slightly raised cholesterol, along with fish oil tabs.....yuck

Thanks

xoxoxo C

[lovedoctor]

I'm wondering if you might have fibromyalgia? Sometimes the waxing and waning energy levels with body aches can be a sign of that. Of course, it is a diagnosis of exclusion, so you need to continue to work with your doc on this. How are you sleeping?

[KittKatt]

Hey Lovedoctor,

A friend also sugested that, as he said body aches and headaches are common as well, and he has it, but was prescribed sleeping meds to treat it I would have never guessed that would help.
I am having doc check me for anything from VD to Cancer, somethin's wrong!!

Sleep.....hmm when I sleep lately it's mostly nightmares, but I think it's due to the Katrina disaster, other than that, I pretty much stay sleepy, sometimes to the point my eyes burn, even though I get 6 to 9 hrs

xoxoxo C

[lovedoctor]

Originally Posted by KittKatt

Hey Lovedoctor,

A friend also sugested that, as he said body aches and headaches are common as well, and he has it, but was prescribed sleeping meds to treat it I would have never guessed that would help.
I am having doc check me for anything from VD to Cancer, somethin's wrong!!

Sleep.....hmm when I sleep lately it's mostly nightmares, but I think it's due to the Katrina disaster, other than that, I pretty much stay sleepy, sometimes to the point my eyes burn, even though I get 6 to 9 hrs

xoxoxo C

Not to jump to any conclusions, but one of the most universal symptoms in Fibro is the associated sleep disorder. In many cases, if the patient can achieve quality sleep (REM) they will make at least some improvement. Again, it is a diagnosis of exclusion, so you need to get completely evaluated - as you are doing, but I wouldn't rule it out at this point. Also, get your doc to go over any meds you might be taking, b/c this might cause fatigue and diminished libido also.

[HotMoCpl]

Not to worry. Its the 'change' more than likely. Just ask hubby to chill a little while and you both will be fine. My wife's been going through it for nearly 12 years now. Her pill of choice is Zoloft. Makes her a little "ballsy" but then I like her like that. Ask your doctor if he/she can perscribe it with Wellbutrin as this may help your libido. C'mon now....SMILE!

[KittKatt]

Originally Posted by lovedoctor

Also, get your doc to go over any meds you might be taking, b/c this might cause fatigue and diminished libido also.

Thanks, wanted to say though I don't take any meds, except ibuprofin for pain, and dont take it daily, even though the pain is daily. Doc appt tomorrow, wonder what test we will do now...hmmmmmm

I'll let ya know what we find out

xoxoxo C

[KittKatt]

Originally Posted by HotMoCpl

Not to worry. Its the 'change' more than likely. Just ask hubby to chill a little while and you both will be fine. My wife's been going through it for nearly 12 years now. Her pill of choice is Zoloft. Makes her a little "ballsy" but then I like her like that. Ask your doctor if he/she can perscribe it with Wellbutrin as this may help your libido. C'mon now....SMILE!

Hello,
Thanks for the info. I have a lady friend on Zoloft for Bi-Polor, Depression Disorder.
We will check my hormones next month prior to my SUPPOSE TO BE cycle....but it's unlikely I will be able to take any hormone replacements due to a TIA (minor stroke) I had after a fouled up C section

But alot of my symptoms have been present for years, like 6 years and I am only 35, the labido fluctuation, headaches, kidney pain, back pain, body aches.
So I sure hope they figure out whatever is goin' on soon, would really like to enjoy my time better

xoxoxo C

[DBL D]

Hey KittKatt,

Me thinks you are under a lot of stress. I have read most of this thread and there's a lot of frustration at how no one is "feeling" the other. It could just be depression. His saying that he can't live without swinging is wierd though, if you really do love each other. Remember that swinging can't fix problems, it just makes them worse. You have the feeling that you don't want sex. You mentioned a bunch of stuff that relates to your own self esteem. That can be a damaging blow to libido.

I know you didn't wish to share all your dirty laundry with us, and I'm sure hubby was surprised at some of what you posted, but you were just looking for ideas and then the rest came out. Your hub has been a pretty good sport about everything and so have you.

I think everything will work out if your man will let it, and I think he sounds better. Not hearing him say he will get something somewhere else lately, are you?

Male D

[KittKatt]

male u need to reread I SAID I CAN LIVE WITHOUT SWINGING

[KittKatt]

Hello DBL D,

First off, sorry if he sounded angry, he didnt say he Couldn't live without swinging, but that he Could.

Yes that letter was very bitter to my eyes and heart, and we have come along a bit since then, he hasn't mentioned "finding another woman" again, nor has he belittled me for not wanting sex.
His main problem proffessed to be, that he didn't feel I still wanted him sexually, or physically. We have talked about that and cleared those thoughts away

My health is going to be a long road fixin I'm afraid
But we plan to stand by each other along the way.....bumps and all

thanks for the input
xoxoxo C

[DBL D]

Sorry I missed that. I read too fast. Cancel one red flag, please.

KittKatt, I'm sure you'll be fine. Just hope your health is A-okay!

Male D

[ChrisnBree]

Having been with Bree for over 2o = years have seen us go thru something similiar, and going thru a light case of it now. It is normal with all the stress and ups and downs in our everyday life for those things to happen. Saw a sexpert (expert) say once that a man shows his love in many ways but the most basic is sex with his wife. I think i can understand that because I have felt unwanted until i remember its not me she doesn't want its just having sex she's not interested in. See your doctor first to find out if it's not something physically wrong or medically wrong with you then work on your communication with him and tell him that you still love him and want him, but adding more stress about it won't work. The idea is to reduce the stress and expectations of how we think things should be, then things will start to improve. We men aren't all stupid just dumb most of the time and we often go about trying to fix things in the wrong way, our hearts in the right place. Sex is important in a realtionship, don't think that just because we seem to put to much emphasis on it, that it's not a man's way of being his most loving and trying to fix things between you two. (AT least in our minds) We just don't tell you or show you often enough that its not the most important thing between us.

[KittKatt]

Hi ChrisnBree ,

WOW, thanks.....it's soooo nice to hear a man talk so honestly
Still goin' to doc appt's, had one today......the road is startin to look very long and scary

At this rate , I might feel sexual again in a YEAR!!! LOL just kidding
All these tests they are runnin isn't going to go very quickly *#@*&%#@!+

xoxoxo C