anal

Please i need advice.
Last night i was having sex with my bf and a couple so me and my bf were in a 69 position and i couldn'd resist to lick his butthole, he suddenly stepped of and said to me i should have not done that because i could get sick, but i don't understand, we are both 100% safe in health, and i just liked to lick his butthole, is there any risk in doing that? Plus he confesed me he would like to lick mines also.

[txduo2000]

I don’t mean this in a bad way, but my presumption is that you are both very young. I only say that because when I was much younger, certain sexual things were downright GROSS to me … things that I now participate in with a flourish!

That said, sometimes it helps to come to a board like this, talk to others as you are attempting to do and get their feedback. Also, you and your boyfriend might do some internet surfing on anal sex and anal play and how to do it without much risk at all. It’s a matter of hygiene, really. If he is interested in playing with you anally, and if you two approach this new realm of sexual satisfaction in an enlightened manner, then it can be very satisfying to you both.

There are many men who enjoyed having anal play performed on them, whether it is simply tonguing, or fingers inserted, or even with sex toys. To some men, they might secretly like it, but be afraid to let anyone know due to the taboo … and fear that they might be mistaken for homosexual. Not the case at all. No more so than a woman having oral sex performed on her means that she is homosexual. It’s a matter of what is arousing and feels good sexually. Just because a man likes to have his anal region played with, doesn’t mean he is harboring secret thoughts of another man screwing him in the ass.

And even if he is harboring secret, bi-sexual thoughts … really, what’s the big deal? Would you love him less if he were bi-sexual? Would he love you less if you were bi-sexual? I really don’t like the stigma placed by society onto society that females being bi-sexual is stimulating and sexy, but if men are bi-sexual it’s just “not right”.

[Vespertine]

Hi ladyha,

Nothing wrong with a little analingus from time to time. I've yet to meet anyone that's died from it yet.

Check out this site, it will tell you everything you need to know. Show it to your boyfriend, too.

[Couple-N-NM]

Ok. You did it and didn't get sick. He knows you did it and you didn't get sick. Looks to me like the problem solved itself. GF and I do it occasionally and haven't experienced any ill effects from it yet. If you enjoy it, do it and don't worry about it.

[angeel]

Hi, I had that same effect with my hubby the first time I did it to him. He was afraid to admit he liked it because of the Taboo. I kept talking to him. Then I would do it as a tease every now in then and talk some more. Eventually, he admitted he liked it. Then I inserted my finger, and again met with resistance. So I followed the same pattern as before. Now he admits that he enjoys it and will even ask for it, especially while I perform fellatio on him. You just have to take it slow and let him adjust to the new ideas and feelings he is experiencing.

[ShameOnUs]

We do this all the time and I only ended up in the hospital once....Kidding, of course. Shower before play and everything is OK!!!! Anal play is such a great thing that people are so afraid of. I am so glad we found it.

[herpob]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Hi ladyha,

Nothing wrong with a little analingus from time to time. I've yet to meet anyone that's died from it yet.

Check out this site, it will tell you everything you need to know. Show it to your boyfriend, too.

That was the perrrrrfect place to send her - GRT Job!

This is one of the monogamous things my husband and I do. I sooooo love doing it and of course absolutely love having it done to me. I love the situation you described, when in 69 it is just there, Right There, and it makes you want to do exactly what you did. Some times you can't help your self. We know this could happen so we stay VERY clean at all times, especially when we expect sex might be around the corner.

Pay attention to the link Vespertine gave you and you will be fine.

Now since this is such a touchy topic with regards to cleanliness it is exactly why we reserve it just for husband and wife. I only perform oral and to him and vise versa, though we have friends who will perform it on us we do not return the favor and made it clear to everyone in our group that this is something we have chosen to reserve for our marriage. But since other people know how clean we keep ourselves we do get attacked quite often in this manner. HEY who am I to stop an addict???

My husband has confessed to the addiction on occasion as well and said in 69s he has desired it when eating another woman. If I am still untouched back there he will go down on me to satisfy this desire. It is always a good prep & sign to the other guy that he can pretty much have me anally however he wants afterwards.

As several people have stated – handjobs or someone performing oral on my man while I tongue his anus produces some seriously hot and heavy cum spraying and orgasms for him. As for me oral/anal and vaginal sex, toys, fingers, dual oral, ALL have equal effect – MASSIVE Bucking Bronco Wild Hip Throwing Orgasms! The BEST orgasms from oral sex come from dual eating for CERTAIN!

Stay Clean and it will Always Rock your World!

[Trace Ekies]

Well put herpob!

I must admit that giving to a woman is a fetish for me. To put it bluntly, having sex with a woman is not the same unless I get to lick her ass.

We've had just a few partners in our 18 month swing career and I have had the pleasure of licking the ass of each of the women. No one said no...one did say "you shouldn't do that...but don't you dare stop".

BTW...ALL have been clean.

Trace

[theflamekasters]

i love giving and receving them, i always make sure the parter is clean back there before i todd the salad, and i wont ask a woman to if there is a any chance of it not being clean. It is fun and intense to have a girl lickin ur ass, and strockin ur cock

[herpob]

Sounds like a good night to prepare for it... darn you people, lol, you have me thinking about it like mad!

Where'a that darn man when I "need" him???

[Babysteps]

Originally Posted by Vespertine

Hi ladyha,

Nothing wrong with a little analingus from time to time. I've yet to meet anyone that's died from it yet.

Check out this site, it will tell you everything you need to know. Show it to your boyfriend, too.

Neat site!

[orientalswing]

What will happen if you anal too often? Will the muscle around anal not holding?

[lott]

There is ALWAYS bacteria in that area that isn't in any other parts of the body such as e.coli and if for some reason you get sick or your immune system is weak, it can cause problems for you because the anus wasn't made for licking. That is why it's closed tight and between to basketballs.

You can still do it just get some non-latex dental dam, put some lube around the area for full sensations and lick away.

Hot Dam Non-Latex Dental Dams Only $1.95/1-Pack

[herpob]

Originally Posted by orientalswing

What will happen if you anal too often? Will the muscle around anal not holding?

It does take time for things to go back to "normal" but not to much time. I have had anal sex with 8 guys working up to the larger of them. Hour or so later I once again had to build back up to the larger guys for my second round It didn't take as long but definitely was just as tight in the beginning. YUM!

Also I suppose I have never had too much anal because everything goes back the way it was. My body pretty much tells me when enough is enough and when to take a break, pay attention and you'll always be fine. I've gone with many days of anal (of course with breaks) and everything has always worked out fine. Took more time to recover back to full normal but still all was well.

[herpob]

Originally Posted by lott

There is ALWAYS bacteria in that area that isn't in any other parts of the body such as e.coli and if for some reason you get sick or your immune system is weak, it can cause problems for you because the anus wasn't made for licking. That is why it's closed tight and between to basketballs.

You can still do it just get some non-latex dental dam, put some lube around the area for full sensations and lick away.

Hot Dam Non-Latex Dental Dams Only $1.95/1-Pack

As for analingus or anal/oral – lott - is correct you have to be careful and safe with this. Use common sense. There are ways to clean very well but dental dams are the greatest way to be the safest!

gj lott