Men: Do you have any problems cumming while wearing a condom?

[bear_and_babe]

Do you have problems cumming while wearing a condom?

We have been in the lifestyle for over 2 years now and this has been a ongoing problem for Bear. He just can not cum while wearing a condom. I thought it was all in his head until I met a swing partner who had the same problem. Bear and I never used condoms with each other. He only wears them with swing partners. He has tried everything to work things out. We tried several different condoms, but the choice is very limited due to Bear's large size. He has tried different positions and still nothing.

So I was just wondering if anyone else out there has the same problem.

[mf69_98]

Yes, I also have a hell of a time cumming with them on most of the time. Sometimes it helps to get really worked up before hand.

[WesternSwing]

I don't have a problem cumming with them on, but I think my penis is more sensitive then some men. Several of our swing partners have the same trouble, and one thing I've noticed with all of them is they also can go at it with their wife without a condom for 20-minutes before they cum, where I'd of cum several times during that period. So I think it probably just has to do with a less sensitive penis to begin with, then the condom just even takes a way more sensation.

Mr. WS

[Chicup]

I can't say I've had a problem with it but the sex is always a lot longer with a condom on.

[CB_n_Red]

Yes, I have that problem too. Pretty frustrating but I haven't found a solution yet.

CB

[Sentinel]

Same problem here. I can generally last a really long time without a condom, so when one's on it's more a cardiovascular excercise than sex, 'cause I'm not going to cum unless I haven't had an orgasm in a long, long time. There's just not enough sensation for me (including the so-called 'ultrasensitive' types). The only hope I have of achieving an orgasm with a condom on is to enter my partner from behind, have her lay flat and squeeze around my cock. Sometimes this works...

You can't tell me, in this modern age of designer doggy sweaters, micro cell phones and MP3 players that hold 400+ hours of music, that someone is unable to come (cum?) up with a condom that feels like nothing at all... it's a conspiracy, I tell ya!

<EG>

[HotMoCpl]

First off....I hate using the damn things. I have once or twice and its either I cum too fast or not at all. I really prefer the real feel of a woman.

[MassPleaser]

I think it depends on how sensitive the head is. I can get off with or without a condom, it just takes longer with one. Sometimes it helps to think of something or someone else while your with someone else. When we're with other women I always cover it, and sometimes I'll think of someone else or the one I'm with doing something that get's my blood pumping harder. I'm sure it's different with every guy.

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Originally Posted by Sentinel

Same problem here. I can generally last a really long time without a condom, so when one's on it's more a cardiovascular excercise than sex, 'cause I'm not going to cum unless I haven't had an orgasm in a long, long time. <EG>

Exactly

[JandL]

Back when I had to wear them sometimes we would take a dab of ky and put it on the tip of the penis before wearing one. Not sure if this would contribute to the chance of it falling off or not, but we never had a problem. And it seemed to help the sensitivity. I too have always had a hard time with them. And also sometimes it felt like the little ring at the bottom where you unroll it is too tight.

But maybe I'm not unrolling it far enough.

[WiserNow]

I think a couple of the guys got it right, it depends on the sensitivity of the head and that varies from man to man. Personally, I can have a world of fun during sex whether I cum or not, but of course I'd rather have the ultimate satisfaction.

One factor that has a lot to do with how easily I can reach orgasm wearing a condom is how excited I get during sex, and for me that depends almost entirely on my female partner at the time. Almost....because if I can concentrate most of my effort on her pleasure, in turn she'll do the same for me, usually without even trying. Watching myself penetrating a woman just isn't enough, but if she's making those genuine moans and occasional intense whimpering noises, the auditory stimulation combined with the sight and scent will usually do it for me, condom or no condom.

Even more basic is foreplay. I can't say that enough....foreplay, and lots of it will drive her to the edge and in turn she'll usually end up doing the same for her partner. Intensity has to build, it can't be faked. There is no substitute for foreplay, and that begins with flirting long before the clothes come off.

One of my problems has always been limited time. The time it takes to do it right, to generate the kind of passion that makes the very best sex, is often not available when meeting others. Everyone has time constraints and other things on their mind, but once in awhile the setting, the mood and the opportunity will allow your best effort. At those times, take full advantage and pull out all the stops, and I doubt the last-minute addition of a condom will make much difference.

I've always believed that foreplay IS sex, penetration is just what happens at the end of it. Too often in the swingers lifestyle, men are expected to be able to move from partner to partner, or feel led to do so, before they've fully enjoyed the first one. If I have a choice of more than one, I'd rather pick the lady that excites me the most on that particular night and take her to the stars rather than take several women only part way.

[jfsewk]

I'm so glad to have read this...

I have a very hard time cumming with a condom. If it was with a girlfriend, I haven't had a problem after time (but I think that's because I was more emotionally into it). With our swinging partners, I've rarely been able to cum with a condom. It makes me feel frustrated as we both really want to climax with the other couple, instead of switching back to our respective mates so we can remove the condom in order to climax. I am pretty large, and personally believe that condoms (even Magnums) restrict the bloodflow too much causing sensitivity to be deminished in addition to the obvious fact that the barrier reduces sensitivity.

I will definitly try the KY idea mentioned, any other ideas would be greatly appreciated.

[gsu22]

Condom or no condom....I'm cumming one way or another...LOL....Condom does take longer, which is fine, but no problems here.

Sometimes without it, it's really hard to control.....the feeling is obviously so much better and my penis is very sensitive as well

[BradAndJanet]

I've got no problem with or without. I've found that the loss of sensation with a condom helps me last longer, which is good.

-B

[tonythetiger]

Is it the condom that is the cause? I have notice that when with other women i have not been ably to cum at all. Even if i go back to the wife and play.Course we have only been in the lifestyle for 4 months now and have only been with 2 women so far. But when we have the 9mfm i have lasted along time during those time and have had to wait till the nite time play was over and finish up with her or take care of it myself because she is pasted out or just plum wore down and caint go no more. so try with wife alone and see if it is the condom or the excitment of the play.