Too tight??

Hi, I have a question that is really bothering me. It's embarrassing enough that I'm posting as a guest instead of under my normal ID.

I've been told by both my hubby and a few play partners that I'm 'too tight'. Not all complain, just hubby and a few others, the rest seem to find it quite delightful. lol But it is hard to hear that you're not quite right from hubby so I'm willing to do whatever it takes except surgery to try to remedy this.

Granted I have never had a child vaginally(c section) and have done kegals since 1977 but is there such a thing as 'too tight'? Hubby says I've been 'tight' throughout our 30yr marriage, it's not just something new.
I just never had anyone to ask before. Thank you swingerboard!!

I am not young-I'm 53 and post menopausal; so I don't think at this point my anatomy will be changing anytime soon. I still produce plenty of lubrication so that's not the problem but we have tried adding even more with no benefit.

I can use a rather large dildo so anatomically I'm not defective or deformed. lol My gynecologist can use the regular size speculum so again, it doesn't seem from a medical standpoint that I'm abnormal.

I am a very responsive partner who can have multiple orgasms per encounter.
So it's not like I'm just 'freezing up' and tightening down. I've stopped doing the kegals-3mos now and still things haven't relaxed or loosened up.

Any ideas, suggestions, others who have something similar?

Thanks
K

[Rombi's Girl]

Bless your heart!

I actually had this same problem with my ex-husband. His girth was a little too much for me to take vaginally without first having an orgasm of my own, before attempting penetration. It did take us a while to come up with this idea, but once we did ...

I would recommend that you start there, my two cents anyway.

Good Luck to you!
RG

[DanBridget]

Believe it or not you are juat natural. I know several women now and one I can't mention that have this same thing. From my view you ae 100% natural and from a mans (hubby adding in) point he thinks you can never be too tight. But give it a little more time.

B

[WoodyInSoCal]

Too tight? How is that possible????

I still remember a girl friend of many years ago who was so tight that once I was inside her, I could stay there and play for hours. She was amazing. and my body always seemed to cry out "NOOOO" whenever I finally disengaged.

[Miss_Piggy]

I've never heard of someone being too tight. Granted I'm not a man and I don't truly know about these things. BUT - it seems to be that if nothing's really broken there's no use in fixing it. You're never going to be like the 'average' woman and why should you? Just think of it as one of things that makes you unique.

[Atilla]

Men are actually complaining of this??????? I never thought I'd see the day when I heard this complaint. Sorry no advice here. Had two babies vaginally and if anything, I'm the opposite.

[CandTinLorainCo]

<-- scratching head Did I read this right? Too tight?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I've been told by both my hubby and a few play partners that I'm 'too tight'. Not all complain, just hubby and a few others, the rest seem to find it quite delightful. lol But I'm willing to do whatever it takes except surgery to try to remedy this.

Speaking for THIS man..... Tight is a GREAT thing. Don't change a thing!!

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Granted I have never had a child vaginally(c section) and have done kegals since 1977 but is there such a thing as 'too tight'?

Absolutly not!

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Hubby says I've been 'tight' throughout our 30yr marriage, it's not just something new.
I just never had anyone to ask before. Thank you swingerboard!!

I am not young-I'm 53 and post menopausal; so I don't think at this point my anatomy will be changing anytime soon. I still produce plenty of lubrication so that's not the problem but we have tried adding even more with no benefit.
I can use a rather large dildo so anatomically I'm not defective or deformed. lol My gynecologist can use the regular size speculum so again, it doesn't seem from a medical standpoint that I'm abnormal.
I am a very responsive partner who can have multiple orgasms per encounter.
So it's not like I'm just 'freezing up' and tightening down. I've stopped doing the kegals-3mos now and still things haven't relaxed or loosened up.

Any ideas, suggestions, others who have something similar?

Thanks
K

K, please go back to doing Kegals... listen this [b][i]Lifestyle[i][b] is about mutual pleasure thiers and YOURS, perhaps as you stated, "nothing else seems wrong down there anatomically" that they are doing/not doing somthing that the others are which is allowing you take them. Elasticity in that region allows it to strecth larger then any humans girth could ever strecth it so don't fret, they're just doing somthing wrong.

-C

[no_tlines]

Okay, okay....let me be the judge of that

[Zoe&Wash]

Chiming in with all the rest of us stereotypical men here - there is simply no such thing as too tight.

Keep up the good work, we're all in this together. . .

W

[Nice N Spicy]

If it makes you feel better you aren't alone! I was tight before I had my first child, but afterwards it was even worse. We made the lame joke that I must have been stitched up too tight, but it took literally over a year for me to loosen up and not have painful sex. Even now there are times where my husband isn't able to finish, I'm so tight that its clenching too much for him I find as well if I am able to orgasm at least once before penetration I relax more and can be more receptive.

[curiousagain]

Sometimes if a woman is multi orgasmic, the muscles around the vagina/in the pelvic area stay in at least a partially contracted state. Sometimes at least one orgasm before penetration is helpful. Just go with the flow and enjoy.

I have had some partners/lovers that had to have at least one orgasm before penetration could occur and some that if it had been more than a few days since the last intercourse that was necessary. It's not that rare, it's pretty enjoyable for all concerned. I wouldn't lose a lot of sleep over it. There's nothing wrong with you. You are just you.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by curiousagain

Sometimes if a woman is multi orgasmic, the muscles around the vagina/in the pelvic area stay in at least a partially contracted state. Sometimes at least one orgasm before penetration is helpful.

I had never heard of this before.

This explains why I like to masturbate to orgasm once or more times before having intercourse.

I thought I was a little strange but decided to accept my quirk. Reading this has made me feel so much better. It let me know that what I experience is more typical than I thought.

LM

[curiousagain]

Glad we could help.

[PleeznHerinSD]

I, too, have had children, but also by c-section....my gyno told me to make sure to have intercourse regularly because since I had not had a vaginal birth that sex could become uncomfortable (or impossible) if not. Of course, he had no idea that that would never be an issue with me! LOL....my hubby loves the tight fit and I have had no complaints from anyone else.