Anal Sex

Who thinks Anal sex is sick and disgusting?
Who thinks it's the best thing since sliced bread?
Those who like it, which lubricant do you like? Or do you even use any? Do you consider it a fetish? Or just a normal part of sex?

Husband of CyberMWCouple

[Stratecpl]

Well........I don't think it's sick or disgusting and I don't think it's the best thing since sliced bread either! LOL But we have done it, just Ron and I so far and it's not as bad as I thought. I can live with it. In fact it's intrigued me enough that I'm now considering giving DP and triple P a try. I may or may not venture into trying it with other men at some point but I don't know yet. It will just depend on the particular man and the circumstances I think. As for lubricants..K-Y

[JustAskJulie]

for us it's niether the greatest thing or the worst thing. It IS the one thing that I only do with my hubby and it's one of those once maybe twice a year things. I've found that it either REALLY REALLY hurts (to the point of once we try that if it hurts there won't be any sex that night), or it feels great and gives me the absolute best orgasms. Unfortunately, there is no way to predict which it will be.

I do think that anal sex definately requires more trust than other types of sex because it is a lot easier to physically hurt the female if not done correctly. In my personal experience I choose not to use lubricant. I've found that it is most enjoyable with only my natural lubricant (pussy juice) and with me on top controlling the speed and pressure.

Julie http://www.swingersboard.com

[MiCpl]

We don't consider anal sex a fetish. It's a fun thing to do on occasion but not somethign either of us go out of our way for either. As far as lube, if we use any we use "Wet", which is our standard lube for all purposes. "Wet Platinum" is great.. even works in water.

S&J

Anal is something that I can do without. And IF I do do anal, it'll only be with my hubby. Again, it's a trust factor thing...

The only thing is, hubby has a thick/wide cock, so it either feels very uncomfortable or it feels very erotic! Friends of ours call hubby "wide-load"...*lol*

I enjoy and receive most of my orgasms from G-spot & clit stimulations (amoung other sexual stimulations), especially all at the same time!

As for "sliced bread"...I guess it all depends on what you want on your bread, and "how" you use it! *lol*

Anal fetish? We rented this one video, we didn't know it was gonna be ALL about anal sex. This one guy had an "Anal Fetish", and it showed throughout the whole video!

I guess "fetishes" are what YOU make it, ANYthing can be a fetish...


Wife of CyberMWCouple

Anal sex is more than simply penetrating the anus with a cock of whatever size. Several years ago, while I was pleasuring my wife with my finger(s) I tried rubbing her anus lightly. She let me know that her anus was definitely off-limits. Over time, I kept on trying very gently to get closer to her anus. Then about 18 months ago, I applied K-Y jelly to her anus with the promise that I would make no attempt at entering her. I just wonderfully rubbed. Turned me on! Turned her on! Then after many times of just the rubbing, with lube and warning I inserted my index finger ever so slightly after I had rubbed for a while. She loved it; I loved it! Then I, ever so slowly over many months, progressed to full insertion of my index finger, then progressive insertion of my middle finger, and then slowly to a full and deep insertion of my thumb. Everything progressing very slowly. My wife like everything nice and slow. I then tried stimulating her lower vaginal wall with one finger on one hand while I stimulated her with my thumb in her anus against the matvhing wall. She loves it; I love it! I discovered that a latex glove eliminates any potential irritation from a nail. Last week for my birthday she gave me a full anal penetration of my cock. I loved it; she didn't like it so much but said it hurt only a "little bit" and asked me would I lust her butt regularly. I responded that I would want her beautiful butt regularly but not necessarily often. In the 8 days since she gave it to me again, said it was ok but she preferred the finger(s). Last Saturday night at an on-premises club private room, she was really turned on and she was on her abdomen and lifted up her butt to me. I proceeded to give her passionate cunnilingus from the rear which I never do, and then naturally proceeded in lust to give her passionate annilingus. I have never done that ever before. But I knew she was meticulously clean and we were both sooo turned on, I just did it. She moaned so wildly I thought I was going to die. It was great!!!
So anal sex does not have to be the penetration of the cock into the anus. There is a whole pleasuring panorama of fun besides that. Experiment and enjoy!


[This message has been edited by soppo (edited 02-08-2001).]

soppo....I agree, the "sexual touch" alone around the anus area is another erotic zone for some of us women. It turns me on more than "penetration" back there....

And thanks for sharing your experience with us! Very interesting....


Wife of CyberMWCouple

[geminiguy]

Anal sex can be one of the greatest experiences for both partners, but requires trust, patience, foreplay, and LOTS of lubrication. I prefer Astroglide or vaseline. If done correctly, the penis directly rubs the g spot...combine that with direct stimulation of the clitoris, and you will have one happy partner!

[ken -N- lea]

We have been having anal sex since we were dating 12 plus years ago, as for lube we use natural juices now but started with vasolene (spelling?) and fingers and worked our way into full penatration we both love it. On the morning after our wedding after we got out of the whirlpool I couldn't resist and preformed analingous on her she went nuts I have never seen her cum so quickly before or since. Lea's fantisy is to have a DP with more than her two headed dildo lol, its the only toy that i have caught her using by herself. we now do it doggy and she uses her vibrating egg on her clit or inside her pussy.
Ken

[pelagic argosy]

It's not something I usually ask for. When I do one nighters, I submit completely and if the guy(s) want to do it I let them. I might suggest it if I'm having a particularly long night and other parts of my anatomy need a rest

[LIZA]

Its not great...............a few times enjoyable, usually uncomfortable but not agony. I dont thing my husband likes it any better than me. I would not dream of doing it with anyone else
Pelagic, I really dont think you should submit completely to anal sex with strangers!
That sounds very dangerous and even with a condom the anus is pretty tight and a condom can easily come of. Im not trying to judge you, but WHY would you want to do this??

I have a question, how many MEN here enjoy it, either with finger or toy?
I bet it is more than will admit as the male back-door is hardwired for a lot more sexual pleasure than the female. SO.....any guys admit to enjoying a little back door loving? Completely heterosexual OF COURSE

[pelagic argosy]

LIZA:

Don't worry about being judgemental, I'm impervious! I get incredibly aroused by submitting to strangers-that's really the easiest way to put it. I like being out of control, and, I guess, used. I've been doing it since college (ten years)have had more than 1000 partners. I get tested every six months or so. So far, no problems.

I realize my lifestyle is not run of the mill (although I think there are more women like me than one might think)but I learned a while ago I can't and don't want to stop.

[NELA Couple]

I do enjoy it when my wife plays with my anus. even let her use a few of her toys on me. Pretty awsome orgasm.

[babycakes3216900]

I think I can do without going there. Again just my opinion. I was approached by my partner. He didn't let me know ahead of time, its was discussed but took me by surprise when it was experimented with. I think it should be discussed before hand and be prepared for It could be an nice experience for some. It is a arousing area which is being experimented at present by alot of couples and to each his own. Be open to new doors my motto and see if it works for u. I have sensitive views on this it doesn't turn me on as much as doggie style but try it you might like it. Again just my opinion. It was taboo when I first encounterd the thought but if it pleases the person I am with I will ponder and experiment with the said above as for me I could do without penatration. Just my input for this subject. Have fun with experimenting you might find a whole new experience. Communication.............bc

[invictus]

If we are in missionary position, my wife (this is the male half answering, she is not here at the moment) loves me to reach behind and rub her asshole. She will ask me to rub it if I am not and sometimes, if I lightly insert a finger after LOTS of rubbing and with LOTS of lubrication, she likes that a lot. But, sometimes a finger will hurt and that will shut her down from even any "back door" touching.

She has always said that there is no way she could take a cock in the ass. One time early in our relationship there was a "slip" while doing doggie style and it really hurt her. This made her very "gun shy" about the entire idea.

About a year ago we were playing around and I was rubbing her ass and had fingered it lightly. She said right then that she REALLY wanted my cock in her ass. (suprised the hell out of me) Within about three strokes she had a tremendous orgasm and then did not want me to pull it out because the was still having "aftershocks".

Since that time she (we) have tried to repeat that a couple of times but it is back to like before. She loves the rubbing and sometimes a finger, but Never something as large as a cock.

We have talked about this in since and neither of us can explain why then or why not now. It may happen again tonight or it may never happen again. People are all different and the same person can be different at different times. Do what feels good to you and do not make yourself uncomfortable.

From a male perspective, my greatist excitement of the experience was seeing her have such a tremendous orgasm. I love her ass but I do not have a "fetish" for anal sex. I suppose some people do.

If you and your partner are happy, then do what makes you both feel good.

Regarding the earlier posts...
We think a lube called EROS is the best thing since canned beer and sliced bread.
Yes, I like it sometimes when she fingers my ass. I am also like her in that sometimes is feels great and sometimes it is a no-no and must stop immediatly.

Just our expeience...